After my now ex filed for divorce she was happy and in love with the person she cheated on me with. I wanted to move on and asked out a woman that was distantly in my life. Her Facebook page was just her and I knew she had a child. We chatted and when I asked her out she told me she had a husband, but was willing to date to see where things may go. I had just gone through this with my now ex and instantly ended all communication with her at that time. We see each other every once in a while but I’ve never told anyone this story until now….

Yesterday I asked if you have the ability to tell what online couples will and will not make it. I said I had seen three recent cases of couples I knew were headed for splitsville. This woman that I asked out and her husband are now the fourth.

Here’s where it gets messed up. I found out about their split this morning from an instagram post from her employer. Several months back her husband beat the crap out of her according to the post. To escape she jumped out a third story window. She survived but is in bad shape still. Multiple bones broken. She still can’t work.

I have no idea after my interaction with her what was going on in their home. It really doesn’t matter what led up to the alleged violence. I actually met her husband once or twice. Seemed like a nice guy. My point I guess in all of this is to encourage any guys out there who may be struggling to move on to seek help. No matter how hurt you are don’t react in a violent way. Just go your separate ways. Use that fire to motivate you to get better. Lean on this board too cause there’s a lot of good dudes on here.