Is there away to persevere through the mountain of rejections

JackSquirts · 2024-02-19T13:56:49+00:00

If you're using a shotgun approach and just hitting on every girl you find attractive, stop. Evaluate what, if anything, you've learned (aside from getting shot down 1000x sucks). Have you learned anything about how a woman signals interest? Have you learned anything about what approaches yield more positive results? Have you gotten any positive results?

The truth is, going hard at every attractive woman that so much as looks at you (or worse, isn't even noticing you) is an enormous waste of time and will crush your fucking soul unnecessarily. A much better approach is to just learn to talk to people without any sort of pressure on making something happen. Instead, focus on just engaging in a conversation. Just shoot the shit about anything. Look for ins to start a convo, the less random the better (asking a girl in the produce aisle if she knows anything about picking out the perfect avocado is way better than trying to talk about the weather).

Step 1 is getting a woman to engage with you at all. If she doesn't engage in any meaningful way, she's not interested, move on. If she does, doesn't mean she's interested, she might just be super friendly.

Step 2 is making her smile. No compliments, unless you have something super unique and clever, which odds are you don't. Make a stupid joke and try to be fun. You don't have to do anything special, if she likes you, she'll like whatever comes out of your mouth and will make it easy - just don't be a creep or extreme, but a little bit of a smartass in a light, playful way.

Step 3 is sealing the deal. It's not really sealing the deal, but if you got her engaged and smiling, your odds of being horribly rejected are now very, very low. You still might get a fake number or the coveted "I have a boyfriend" response, but it's a hell of a lot better than being shot down by a SAM like Top Gun. A little sales trick that works great with women is to not ask her for anything, you tell her. "Nice to meet you Bambi, give me your number and I'll take you out this weekend."

Step 4 is calming your shit and not going bananas reaching out to her immediately. Relax. Forget about it for a couple of days, then send her a text, preferably something that references your interaction in a fun way and ask her about her schedule for your date. Very specifically, "for our date."

DaygameCode · 2024-02-19T14:21:49+00:00

You do daygame, but do you even know how to do daygame? Because s lot of noobs start doing daygame without having any clue at all on how to build comfort, attraction, qualification, seduction, or anything and then get shocked why they always get rejected. They just ask straight away for a number and that’s not daygame. That’s just playing a numbers game and seduction is not a numbers game. It’s takes skills.

For starters a daygame conversation should last at least 10 mins to have time to do build connections comfort; and attraction. If it lasts 1-2 min or less, you don’t have time to do that and are just hoping that the girl likes what she sees… but that’s not daygame or seduction and will likely get you 99.99% rejection and ghosting rate.

TwizzleHoverboard · 2024-02-19T21:31:28+00:00

I love rejection. It’s become my favorite part of game. I usually just laugh at the awkward moment and move on.

Jironasaurus · 2024-02-19T13:51:20+00:00

Get a coach. It will help you accelerate your progress much faster. And you get support after the coaching as well.

Jolly-Jaguar8664 · 2024-02-19T14:01:47+00:00

A relevant part of what a beginner experiences as "rejection" is not even the real thing:

you startled her, approached her in a weird way (from her perspective)
she did not hear you
she thought you were a street marketeer
she thought you were dangerous as you forgot to smile because you were nervous
you ejected to early and did not ask for the number although you could have
if you act calibrated less than 5% of your rejections should be hard rejections. If you do it right 95 % of your interactions will be positive or rather positive

Chicagoj1563 · 2024-02-19T16:48:42+00:00

You need to experiment with different things to find out what works best for you. If all you are doing is the same approach over and over, and its not working that well, you need to change some things up. That's what the game is. You should be experimenting. Learn how to game yourself.

I'd say, start going out to bars and clubs since there are usually way more opportunities to approach, you can get a lot more practice in.

But, if you want to just meet people during the day, experiment. Don't just do what guys on YouTube do. Experiment with different ways of approaching. also, pay attention to your inner thoughts and beliefs. If you don't believe an approach will work, the girl probably won't either.

Coaching can help. So can wings.

Happyseducer · 2024-02-19T22:57:28+00:00

1) focus on the skillset and the process of getting better

2) realize your success rate can be extremely low and you can still have a great dating life. This is not something that needs a high success rate ( that does not mean make it a numbers game as a lot things have a success rate of zero) BUT - if you have a system that CAN attract hot girls. Imagine your success rate is 1%. You approach 5 girls a day. In 20 days you have sex with a hot girl! In 3 months your are having sex with 2-3 hot girls and you are a pimp.

So focus on the smallest and the biggest picture.

Smallest picture - just the little details and processes of getting better
Biggest picture - don't worry about each individual day or girl, focus on the big picture of simply having a great sex life in the future

Ignore the middle

ArcaneAces · 2024-02-20T07:00:56+00:00

Don't stick only to day game... Try night game, OLD, matchmaking. Anyway you can to get a lady should be explored.

Loose_Profession_630 · 2024-02-19T14:41:50+00:00

Deep Breath

Proper Posture

Relaxed Pace

Eye contact

Speak

If you are in a big city, you probably have a good 2-3 minutes(if you get her attention) to make something happen cuz EVERYONE is moving...

Which means if the opening jab lands, you gotta have the combinations ready....

In the end, it can be a plethora of reasons why she changes her mind, but you just do the best you can...

bahadurJoe · 2024-02-19T15:00:40+00:00

Be, or work towards being someone you’re proud of. Confidence needs to be brimming to practice what you’re practicing, so enforce healthy habits that’ll get your mind right.

ROBYoutube · 2024-02-19T23:31:33+00:00

Er, yeah man.

I always wondered how a guy proposes to a girl, but knows so little about her that she says no. Fucking marriage is generally discussed at regular intervals when a relationship starts getting serious along with things like children and the future in generally. If this isn't happening at like the barest fucking minimum you don't have the emotional maturity to make a life long commitment.

Similarly, how the fuck do guys not know how a girl will react when they ask them out? Have you listened to a word they've said? Have you seen how their body language has indicated their feelings about your presence in their lives right now? It's so obvious to me when I have chemistry with a girl and when I dont. The best help I can give people having trouble with identifying it is asking yourself two questions: Are you having a blast talking to her? Does she look and sound like she's having a blast talking to you? If both answers are yes, ask out. If either / both answer is no, do not.

mkkpt · 2024-02-19T13:52:47+00:00

Keep going bro, we've all been there. It can be challenging. Stick with the process, put in the time. You never know what could be happening in people's lives, don't take it personally (harder to say than to feel). You will forget the rejections, but the lessons you learn will last forever.

As a way to improve your skills, can recommend the Gibbs reflective cycle. Especially if you have a tricky interaction or are emotional.

https://www.mindtools.com/ano9qiu/gibbs-reflective-cycle

Do you have a good inner game going on? Eat well, sleep well, exercise, friends, family, hobbies, work, life passions, therapy (if needed)? You've got the basics covered - showered, smell good, groomed, styled? Don't neglect these.

Is there anyone else you can go out with who can give you their opinions?

The determining factor if you get good is if you're willing to spend the time and get through the rejections. Just think that every rejection you will learn from, and it is one step closer to your goal.

Kobe_curry24 · 2024-02-19T23:41:14+00:00

Just keep getting better

EmbeddedAssets · 2024-02-19T18:29:50+00:00

Not everyone will make it, its the harsh reality

letsgetwizzyy · 2024-02-19T22:27:39+00:00

Well, keep leveling yourself up as a man and continue enhancing your game and social skills. Rejection is normal, but try and evaluate why you are getting rejected by being perceptive and introspective. Try and determine what you are doing right and what you are doing wrong during each approach. Make sure you've optimized everything in your control (looks/physique).

Don't be discouraged at rejection, but if you are constantly getting rejected and not making progress, you have to evaluate everything to see what you are doing wrong. We can't tell you what you are doing wrong without specific details/ examples of what you do during an approach.

Make sure your appearance / body is on point

Ask a third party how your social skills are

Try to evaluate/ analyze women's nonverbal communication during the approaches before and after you say certain things.

This article goes into detail about how to approach women directly: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/how-to-approach-women-direct-game?r=31tj3q&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

This article discusses how to approach women indirectly: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/how-to-approach-women-indirect-game?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web

void-space- · 2024-02-20T00:49:09+00:00

Most of the time if you’re getting rejected it’s not due to anything you are doing wrong, they just don’t find you attractive or they’re taken.

It’s a numbers game, once you find a girl that thinks you’re attractive you don’t really need much game to get her to go out with you

Sufficient_Cause1208 · 2024-02-20T05:23:01+00:00

Even the best guys get rejected at a high rate. Women by nature are very picky, try to not let it take personally.

MrPound4Pound · 2024-02-20T05:41:46+00:00

how many did you do as far as daygame approaches and are you also doing night game?

hisgreatness64 · 2024-02-20T07:07:19+00:00

Be selective only approach the hottest one. The hottest ones are always the most feminine. Using masculine energy works on the hottest one because they are the most feminine. If you only approach the fat uggos. You only get rejected by fat ugly girls. A rejection by the hottest ones also doesn't feel as bad.because you acted like a man and were aggressive in your pursuit of what you desire.

Awkward_Freedom_4551 · 2024-02-22T23:37:09+00:00

Yes, understand it is a WIN , it is AWESOME and it is NECESSARY! Also get a coach or mentor !

Factsonreddit · 2024-02-24T06:40:34+00:00

Yes stop letting other people determine your value. Nothing changes about you if some woman doesn’t like you.

Title	Is there away to persevere through the mountain of rejections
Author	theVirginAmberRose
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Date	February 19, 2024 1:28 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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