Rejection Isn’t Even that Bad

FrankyCastiglione · 2019-11-08T15:59:18+00:00

Great post! Rejection is to be expected.

Just keep moving😎

realsapist · 2019-11-08T21:26:09+00:00

It's really not that bad. It sucks when girls lead you on and show interest and then leave you hanging.

I think the more you approach, the easier it might be to realize that hey, not everyone's out to get boned the next second. Not everyone's into you, just like you're not into everyone. We're all living our own lives.

If you get good at approaching or flirting with girls - you can really change their day and make them feel great without coming off as thirsty or creepy.

The other day I was grocery shopping, bought some beer - gave the cashier my ID. Cute girl. She glances at it, holds eye contact with me, and just says "beautiful" with a smile. Shit damn near made my day haha.

GL bro.

2019-11-08T17:31:15+00:00

Hell yeah. Rejection is what makes it fun. Life without challenges wouldn't be enjoyable.

Difficulty and the chance of rejection is what makes success meaningful.

Ouail98 · 2019-11-08T16:05:20+00:00

Well yeah, you know its not even worth all the shit u go thru. But the first times it just hurts and u feel useless. Best thing is not torture your head thinking over and over.

raptorman181 · 2019-11-08T21:55:23+00:00

Best case scenario: you two have a real connection and have significant impact on each other’s lives

Worst case: you are back in the same spot before you asked

So yes it really isn’t that big of a deal

Sam1477 · 2019-11-09T01:56:53+00:00

I think I read somewhere something like “if the worst possible outcome is the same as not having tried, then you should always try”

hahah89gh · 2019-11-08T23:36:46+00:00

There’s different levels of rejection, you randomly asking a girl out and she saying fuck off doesn’t hurt but a girl you’ve actually fallen for will hurt you a lot more.

chrissizkooll · 2019-11-08T20:26:33+00:00

Eventually you'll get laid but your mentality is key. Positivity and effort. These two traits will make you very good in game. Great post.

halfbad105 · 2019-11-08T18:14:13+00:00

Nothing has taught me more than the ultimate rejection which is my GF of 3 years rejecting me earlier this year (after I broke up with her and we were on the verge of getting back together). It was so good for me in hindsight that I can't believe it, even though it wounded me deeply when it happened.

Erektshunz · 2019-11-08T21:51:44+00:00

Something I usually say to do is to give the girl YOUR number, therefore if they’re interested they’ll go out of their way to contact.

Almighty_Grayson · 2019-11-09T01:01:35+00:00

This is the right attitude to have! I recently just got rejected by a girl I was very interested in pursuing. In the past, I would've felt like absolute trash, but these days, I just embrace it.

I have finally learned that I don't need a woman's approval to feel good about myself.

bcal-t1 · 2019-11-09T03:08:00+00:00

NICE BROTHER, keep up the self improvement. Ladies will notice the confidence, as long as you believe, they will believe. Cheers!

Brotagonizt · 2019-11-08T22:07:24+00:00

When you stop trying to impress people, people are impressed. The guy who tries to impress with his charm, humor, wisdom comes off as inauthentic and dishonest. Develop better habits and Just be yourself, unless yourself has low self confidence.

In this case fake it til you make it. Make it with meditation.

That's my experience.

HoobaDooba420 · 2019-11-08T20:49:35+00:00

Without rejection there is no acception

pokerguy119 · 2019-11-08T21:02:07+00:00

Amen my friend. The rejection makes you care less and less, and that builds confidence, which in turn attracts more women. At least that's how I'm thinking it will go, I'm still in the rejection phase but I feel I'm getting better. Good luck to you!

2019-11-08T21:45:40+00:00

You’re awesome. I loved everything about this. You sound like a really confident and pragmatic guy. People really shouldn’t get hung up on rejection. Just keep moving and try again another day.

largepaycheckaddict · 2019-11-08T22:12:58+00:00

Rejection only hurts when you lack an abundance mindset.

TANKER_06 · 2019-11-09T02:59:43+00:00

What helps me is to get into a mindset of having fun. I guess I realized this after always being swarmed with work, so any free time I have is extremely precious. I lost a great woman because I valued that time so much I exploded at her for being late, after all, I'm a busy man, and it's just unprofessional to be late... yes, I actually said that.

Now, I plan activities for my free time just to have fun and relax, and invite them along. If they don't show, no matter, plan has already been made, I'm gonna have fun and relax with or without her. If they do, great, someone to share the experience with.

I'm no master seducer/pick up artist or whatever, I just listen to what they say occasionally, and the stuff that makes sense, I adopt. I've no drive to meet a girl number/laid quota.

How I look at it, you may have memorized all the techniques and comeback lines in the history of seduction, but if you yourself are uncomfortable around women or not having fun, why bother?

ArjunVermaReddit · 2019-11-08T20:05:56+00:00

I mean as Jordan Peterson says, all she's saying is "while I dont mind you as a person, your genes should definitely not survive another generation" but yeah thats supposed to be a joke...somewhat

throwaway61419 · 2019-11-08T23:35:23+00:00

As a woman, there’s something super attractive about a man not giving a shit when you turn him down. I know it’s silly of me. But I feel like your stepping into some great territory. Keep trying, keep not losing sleep over any ladies... I see success in your future.

ahjota · 2019-11-08T20:29:12+00:00

Rejection and haters keep you going.

westcoastwabbit · 2019-11-08T20:33:53+00:00

Rejection makes you stronger! Great post so true.

scarrax · 2019-11-08T20:40:02+00:00

Being able to accept rejection and handle it without letting it affect you is one of the most important key skills to being better at seduction, and many other aspects of life really.

wehappyfew11 · 2019-11-08T22:57:55+00:00

Very true bro. You are in the right path. Keep going. You will not recognize yourself in a year!

solidsnake919 · 2019-11-08T23:36:45+00:00

Great post man! Just what I needed in this moment of despair.

dalen52 · 2019-11-09T00:50:41+00:00

The best feeling is when they choose you back!! So don’t build up scars. Face rejection and heal and wait for the right one.

Crusty_Magic · 2019-11-09T01:19:08+00:00

Yep, this is the exact mentality to have.

cooltownguy · 2019-11-09T03:33:19+00:00

That's not rejection, That's ghosting but good on you for handling the situation in a positive way.

wolframe117 · 2019-11-09T03:48:01+00:00

This is just what I needed. I'm going to save this post

jdogsiis · 2019-11-08T22:50:38+00:00

What you need is to get your self a few nice escorts man. It works wonders for men who haven’t had a very active sex life because you learn it’s not a big deal at all. Your first few interactions with the escorts will be awkward but your guaranteed to get laid, which is a huge plus. Then after 4 or 5 you will become comfortable and actually enjoy talking and bullshitting with the escorts just as much as pounding them out. It really helped me with women. I got one every day for a week or two and afterwards I’ve been killing it with ladies. It may be a bit controversial but I guarantee it will work!!! Good luck man!!!:)))

PrincePound · 2019-11-09T03:51:33+00:00

From someone infamous: I don't take shit from no one. I keep going.

And move on.

UchihaIchizoku · 2019-11-09T04:53:50+00:00

Great post.

explodingwombat · 2019-11-09T04:53:56+00:00

I read the book go for no recently and it really touches base on this super well

shinn497 · 2019-11-09T05:12:23+00:00

you are way better than me sir

xXxL1B3R4LL0V469xXx · 2019-11-09T06:42:20+00:00

Thanks that actually helped a lot. Now I dont have to be allways worrying

Angst_teenager · 2019-11-09T08:18:38+00:00

I needed this confidence boost for today, thank you

MisfitCasper · 2019-11-09T08:31:17+00:00

Same here man. 26 and virgin. For a second when when I read the first line of the Post, I went like "I don't remember writing this" because it's relatable AF.. hahaha. Good job btw. I am proud of you.

2019-11-09T09:32:22+00:00

Rejection becomes extremely emotionally draining when it happens consecutively. It’s rough getting back on the horse, and that’s kinda where I’m at now ngl, and I’m hoping this date next week works out, although now I feel like I lost my edge idk

jacklychi · 2019-11-09T10:31:34+00:00

You making a post saying that rejection is not bad, and hundreds of people upvoting it, shows that many people do take it quite seriously...

DajuanKev · 2019-11-09T15:15:27+00:00

I have this odd comfort with even rejecting my self because I have this notion I don't want to see the girl turn from that innocent first impression to a suddenly cold b**

I really want to be as casual as possible.

firelitother · 2019-11-09T15:26:48+00:00

I just tried to date a girl who brought a "friend" with her. Turned out to be her boyfriend.

Fuck that. Next!

MountainClimax · 2019-11-09T19:38:15+00:00

It does hurt sometimes though. Cold approach not, but when you've got a girl at your place, for example, and she really has the time to lay into you, it can be awful. Still, nothing a few days won't cure.

Captain_of_Skene · 2019-11-08T20:53:28+00:00

Not only should you not care if you get rejected, you should also put yourself in a position where you're able to reject women under at least some circumstances as well

If they're not up to your standards or you simply feel that it wouldn't work, why bother taking it any further?

inthelapofthegods_ · 2019-11-09T03:17:51+00:00

This should be a top post here.

meltboro · 2019-11-08T20:20:15+00:00

I have a problem with this post, accepting rejection is necessary, but there's no next step or action mentioned. You need to follow this with resolve. Like she rejected me, doesn't matter though because I'm forcing myself to go out tonight, have fun, and ask for every girl I meets number - or something at least. You've turned rejection into complacency, and that's as good as failure in my book

eiquy3 · 2019-11-08T23:24:35+00:00

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ericviking007007 · 2021-12-29T16:27:13+00:00

I have put women on pedestals for a very long time! Thank you for posting. This Reddit section is incredible

Title	Rejection Isn’t Even that Bad
Author	jeceandgin
Upvotes	896
Comments	70
Date	November 8, 2019 3:42 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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