Now that I’ve been dating this girl, girls have been hitting me up left right and center. It’s like they’re a magnet to things they can’t have easily?

IrisBlack25 · 2020-04-05T02:42:36+00:00

I don’t understand how anyone is having a dating life at all rn

blueeyes8433 · 2020-04-05T00:59:48+00:00

Life is energy. You aren’t giving off desperate energy but a happy and positive one so everyone is reacting to it.

drunkasaurusrex · 2020-04-05T02:44:21+00:00

It’s the isolation. People are bored and are starting to look at who they enjoyed talking to and took for granted before all this started. And then some just want attention

tottrash · 2020-04-05T04:08:44+00:00

Having women is excellent social proof. On a subconscious level, women are somewhat more attracted to men who are taken because him having already attracted a woman/women suggests he must be desirable as a man.

I remember middle school, when i was even more beta than i am now, struggling to get a girl to even smile at me because of my creepy shy vibes. Until i got a girlfriend, and all of a sudden the girls in my class started talking to me more and a couple even made moves at me. I went from having no options, to having multiple potential choices within a month.

Just keep spinning those plates. And you'll get this effect perpetually.

otternavy · 2020-04-05T01:35:14+00:00

its not them, its you. youve relaxed about it, now that you have someone, and people enjoy that.

Deeppua · 2020-04-05T06:12:01+00:00

Did anyone who has commented so far notice that op mentioned that all those new girls don't know that he has a GF and all of you are commenting preselection and social proof. WTH

SwipeRight4Wholesome · 2020-04-05T04:30:34+00:00

I feel you. When I was seeing someone, going to EDC and all the clubs in Vegas, girls were literally going out of their way to talk and dance with me. And the next year when i went single, barely had any interactions.

I feel like when you’re there for purely fun, you radiate that energy, and people are drawn to that/you. Versus when you’re looking to get with someone, they feel that predatory vibes. Just have fun my dude, best you’ll get a girl, at worst; you still had a blast.

ch1som · 2020-04-05T02:00:18+00:00

Do. Not. Respond.

sabethrowaway · 2020-04-05T08:16:44+00:00

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Ang-red-head · 2020-04-05T06:07:13+00:00

Actually...when ur with someone and committed to someone, u give off a sense of confidence that u r unaware of. And that confidence is very attractive to woman. U don't realize it because ur not thinking about other woman or trying to get a date. Its a subconscious thing. And a natural thing to happen. Whenever someone is single it's hard to het a date because ur not as confident. But when ur taken, everyone seems to want u.

FormalWeekend · 2020-04-05T03:05:17+00:00

Aren't we supposed to be in quarantine

roaphaen · 2020-04-05T04:29:23+00:00

One more thing, girls love to get validation by poaching a man. It's not necessarily about you, it's about them getting validation by using their attractiveness to pull you from someone else. Don't fall for that bullshit.

modidlee · 2020-04-05T07:03:37+00:00

When you're pleasing a woman it gives you the self confidence that makes you attractive to other women. This also explains why a "thirsty," desperate guy finds it hard to attract women.

throwaway5235a · 2020-04-05T01:55:34+00:00

Women want what they can’t have. Period.

le_GoogleFit · 2020-04-05T06:51:31+00:00

Everyone's saying that's it's thanks to the social proof of him having a GF and being more relaxed and all that and that may be true but I wonder if this isn't also just some sort of illusion guys in a relationship get.

Like they don't care about dating anymore so they interpret any kind of women attention as flirting when in reality it might just be completely platonic. Now he doesn't have to pursue to find out so he can continue to believe that if he wanted he could score but for all we know he would actually be rejected if he tried.

Just some thoughts to have I think.

aP0THE0Sis1 · 2020-04-05T10:03:06+00:00

Also a lot of times girls give you advice and clean you up to make you look more presentable to other humans

BlackMarmoset · 2020-04-05T10:04:25+00:00

Those are unusual time: cute girls had unlimited access to attention and sex, but now with the lockdown in most countries they're getting as desperate as men.

running2far · 2020-04-05T04:07:16+00:00

Social proofing. Same will likely happen if you have some close friends (attractive girls). Other girls will see you as high value because other girls do.

Cyanidescar · 2020-04-05T06:36:36+00:00

I just discovered this sub, and funny enough, I can relate to the first post I see. Not much insight to give out here; just stopping to say I've also experienced this frustrating phenomenon. Cheers mates.

2020-04-05T08:44:26+00:00

Women want what they can’t have. And they want a Man that women lust after

Dankie001 · 2020-04-05T11:03:36+00:00

Abundance.

sabethrowaway · 2020-04-05T02:59:53+00:00

Hey guys so just a question though.... it feels good to have this attention, but I don’t want to get caught in the feels and want to continue this abundance mentality. Any tips? I feel like over the isolation period I’ve been just doing the things that really interest me and I want to use this as an opportunity to learn. The last girl I got caught up on lost interest and I felt the hurt but then moved on and just don’t want to get invested in things that really shouldn’t matter.

2020-04-05T09:44:51+00:00

Women want to be with a man other women want to be with. You can see this behavior in the statistics from tinder. 100% of the women will go for the top 20% sexually most attractive men. The others are barely considered.

sabethrowaway · 2020-04-05T02:04:00+00:00

One-itis??????

mr_Tobbor · 2020-04-05T04:38:43+00:00

Many guys post fake personal stories.

sid_x · 2020-04-05T08:56:05+00:00

I've experienced this too.

aubounty · 2020-04-05T08:58:49+00:00

That's interesting Sabe. Happy to hear things are going better for you now though.

Some questions.
Are you posting photos with her on social media, or is she posting about you?
Is she very attractive?
Does she speak with other girls / those girls who are giving you attention now, about you?

2020-04-05T13:04:51+00:00

This is basic human psychology. We want what we can't have.

2020-04-05T13:05:03+00:00

This is basic human psychology. We want what we can't have.

JGrimes1696 · 2020-04-05T13:06:51+00:00

You must just be super lucky I guess, congrats, now stay in doors and wash your hands you filthy animal :)

BredCatXD · 2020-04-05T14:08:14+00:00

Kajuzo8 · 2020-04-05T14:41:11+00:00

Same thing happened to me. After being single for 5 months I met a guy and then soon after had several people ask me out. I think it's funny how that happens, but it always seems to happen that way.

2020-04-05T14:45:02+00:00

"You ever notice when you're single, all you see are couples. And when you're in a couple, all you see are hookers?"

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-05T15:39:02+00:00

This is why you don’t just talk to girls you want to date. The more girls you the more ad space you have out there. Consider it free advertisement when you have female friends.

Like I keep telling everyone, build your connections. Make meaningful relationships that don’t just end in a lay. It will help you get laid, help bring you higher quality dates, help you get jobs and meet people who may change your life.

That being said be very selective. Do not waste time on superficial people who are just trying to get something from you.

captainsofindustry1 · 2020-04-05T22:04:27+00:00

It’s a competition thing

IrisBlack25 · 2020-04-06T01:17:51+00:00

Everyone wants what they can get. Yes! Girls only chase guys who don't give them attention. Many guys do not understand that there are more women than men.This means guys have more options than women.In fact , I should say guys are the PRICE. You qualify as the price if you possess Money,Muscles and Game

somethinglikepeopleD · 2020-04-06T07:21:39+00:00

If you go down that Path and way of thinking you’re doomed to follow it. Give thre person you’re width your. Everutv.mnf.

loltryagain91 · 2020-04-06T14:40:29+00:00

It’s because that girl qualifies you to the rest of them, if she likes you then they want to know why. Hive mind.

mr_Tobbor · 2020-04-05T04:36:21+00:00

It is not oneitis. You fuck her.

EatYourPain · 2020-04-05T06:02:23+00:00

Mate poaching.

account_for_rel · 2020-04-05T06:25:59+00:00

They only commented on you posts and stuff right? Maybe they are just lonely because of isolation, and feel like you ll give them validation/attention if they reached out. I wouldnt read too much into this.

MuskIsAlien · 2020-04-05T03:39:13+00:00

Maybe they just wanna be friends and knowing that ur in a relationship you won’t have other motives

Chrisanova_NY · 2020-04-05T05:19:30+00:00

Women always want what they can't have.

Should be one of the cardinal rules of seduction.

Title	Now that I’ve been dating this girl, girls have been hitting me up left right and center. It’s like they’re a magnet to things they can’t have easily?
Author	sabethrowaway
Upvotes	763
Comments	117
Date	April 5, 2020 12:58 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/fv4zhy/now_that_ive_been_dating_this_girl_girls_have/
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