Just got out of the Friend Zone. Knew I would get rejected. Actually feels strangely good.

legend503 · 2019-09-20T13:07:57+00:00

You can be friends with women. Just not those you're in love with.

Cerenex · 2019-09-20T13:21:46+00:00

I met a girl in college. We got along very well, started hanging out regularly.

She wanted a friend; I wanted more, and I was willing to nuke the friendship for a shot at a relationship with her. So when the moment was right, I made my move...

That girl is now my SO. We've been dating for several years and are moving in together next year.

asilveyra10 · 2019-09-20T14:54:02+00:00

Been there man. I had/have this major crush with a girl that I’ve know for like 4 years, we went on one date but after that she told that she wasnt ready for a relationship so we stayed friends. Then for long periods of time we stoped talking then started talking again and so on, but every time we started talking again my feelings will reignite, so I understood I can’t just be friends with her and I asked her out and got no reply... I’ve felt so good after that tbh it was as if I was freed from something lol

Batfan3000 · 2019-09-20T13:47:17+00:00

Damn , salute you bro. I’ve been there where I knew this girl since for 8 years. Our families know eachother. Everybody cool and involved. But her and I did play around. It was fun. But it’s hard because I wanted more than just passion. I wanted to be with her. But it was unattainable. She then was straight up mean and rude after a disagreement. She hit me with those “well you never —-“ kinda thing. She hurt me.

-never saw it coming. What a cheap shot.

Your strongest enemy’s the one who know your weak spot.

rythmryders · 2019-09-20T13:49:03+00:00

I’d say next time, cross that bridge sooner. Besides that I think you did the right thing and now you know, it’s not as scary as it seems lol.

Bensearching · 2019-09-20T14:03:26+00:00

I wish I had done that a few more times when I was younger

pdxtrader · 2019-09-20T13:55:40+00:00

You did the right thing, if she doesn’t want to be your girlfriend you need to move on and being “just friends” is the worst way to do that. Women like to keep guys who like them on a string for personal gratification, that’s the whole reason the friend zone exists.

NoisyMind96 · 2019-09-20T14:49:51+00:00

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2019-09-20T15:59:47+00:00

Live your truth, bro.

evilcudmovement · 2019-09-20T17:09:17+00:00

Did this recently. She chased after me crazy. I didn't give in. You did the right thing.

There is no other way. Have tried the other route too where this other girl agreed to date and it was a fucking disaster.

2019-09-21T03:56:05+00:00

Good for you brother. Ideally, don't ever get friend-zoned in the first place. But... that's a lot easier said than done.

The biggest mistake guys make is getting bitter and angry with women after being friend-zoned or rejected after trying to leave the friend-zone. I'm glad you didn't go that route! Because, it ain't her fault she's not attracted to you. It's biology. And even if she did choose to not be with you, despite being attracted to you, that's also her choice!

So yea, oh well, it sucks, move on. You seem to be having a healthy reaction to it, so good on you man. On to the next one.

legend503 · 2019-09-20T12:48:58+00:00

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ChrisDarmount · 2019-09-20T13:56:50+00:00

Been there. Good job man. Great way to be strong for your mental health.

axe122 · 2019-09-20T16:46:30+00:00

Good for you, now you can move on and not sit around being jealous and bitter when you watch her date guys and get dumpedand keep thinking to yourself (what does she see in them? I’d treat her amazing if I had her) lol. The best thing you can do is just move on to other girls and not have a friendship based on false pretenses, (that’s the main reason your friend zoned anyway was in the beginning when she was giving you “mixed” signals, you were to scared to be real with her and she sensed something wasn’t right. So qt this point she went along with being your friend cuz you were interested in her showing attention and treating her nice, if you act like a friend she’ll treat you like a friend!

Deathstalker1776 · 2019-09-20T19:08:28+00:00

good job, realizing when you can't be friends and walking away - when its hard to disconnect that emotional whatever attachment you have - for a friendship to be possible - is exactly what you have to do. until you are capable of doing so this is the best action and helps you move forward to whats next!

Treyturbo · 2019-09-20T19:09:19+00:00

Well done man

smoothmax · 2019-09-20T15:31:59+00:00

Women literally can't and won't sleep with every guy who gets attracted to them. You don't have to get jealous and bitter if she friendzones you, or throw your heart at her feet and "clear the air". It shows a lack of understanding and empathy.

Women invented the friendzone because most guys are both needy and clueless. They can't possibly sleep with all the guys in their social circle, school or workplace who are hitting on them. They offer to be friends with a guy (even though they would rather not) as way of letting him down gently and buying peace and harmony.

And still, guys insist on getting bitter and jealous about being friendzoned and either simmer like a volcano, or make it even more awkward by "declaring their love." Huuuuuuuge cringe. Just be a cool guy and respect women enough to let them sleep with whoever they want for whatever reason they want.

average_god · 2019-09-20T22:41:42+00:00

The same thing happened to me a few months ago. As painful as rejection is, uncertainty is even worse. Good job, nothing to be ashamed of.

MinCad · 2019-09-21T02:57:34+00:00

Demonstrate, never explicate.

2019-09-21T03:31:05+00:00

Been there before. Now, I just let bitches know what I feel. If they like me too, then good. If not, I don't waste my time. A woman knows whether she would fuck you with in 4 seconds of meeting you.

Windk9 · 2019-09-21T08:13:52+00:00

Be quite sad when the girl refused. But the result may change (may be) if initially the way u talk to her not like a friend. I mean u show that u like her by your acts, your words, your gifts,...

Robin_Mood · 2019-09-21T09:17:43+00:00

it is hard to say that and not break rule 2, good man. Don't come across needy...

IrvineKafka · 2019-09-21T11:41:40+00:00

This is great. Well done.

eyesopen1111 · 2019-09-21T22:07:52+00:00

Don’t give up too fast when it comes to seduction. If the girl isn’t attracted, then try something else to attract her. There are great ideas out there.

Dorkuzan · 2019-10-07T15:04:34+00:00

Damn this hit close to home, just yesterday i was bitch slaped with realization of me being in friend zone and that she is interested in my cousin.

OwnedByOwn · 2019-09-20T15:40:57+00:00

Maybe you could have asked her about friendship terms.. what she can expect from you as a friend and what you can expect from her as a friend.. But well done.!

nor_cal_rider · 2019-09-20T16:38:57+00:00

You can’t be friends if you find her sexually attractive. It’s incongruity will rip you apart.

recyclablebanthas · 2019-09-20T15:15:30+00:00

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tomryder321 · 2019-09-21T04:24:08+00:00

Man and woman can never be friends unless you're trying to fuck their friend. ~ Charlie Harper

NoisyMind96 · 2019-09-20T15:32:27+00:00

Wrong play. Next time, just invite her over, watch a scary movie with a bottle of wine, pull her in, make a move. When she acts surprised, smirk at her and go again. If she leaves, great, if she stays, even better.

Propagating_Crack · 2019-09-20T14:31:25+00:00

Next time just go for a make out. See how she responds. She may say no verbally but if you go for a make out she'd like it

creamyturtle · 2019-09-20T17:39:59+00:00

don't give women the reward of intimacy (friendship) if they wont let you smash. I heard a comedian say it once, like if me and Joe are friends, Joe would let me use his playstation. so if a girl is really your friend she would let you hit it

Title	Just got out of the Friend Zone. Knew I would get rejected. Actually feels strangely good.
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Date	September 20, 2019 12:45 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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