Do women chase guys who "ignore" them?

caesarfecit · 2024-04-08T21:17:54+00:00

The only women I've seen chase guys who outright ignored them were the legit psychos.

But I have seen plenty of women chase after and obsess about guys who just weren't that into them. If you think men get one-itis bad, women practically invented it.

This is is why it is better for a guy to under pursue a woman versus over pursuing. Women won't chase if you're already chasing them, but if you can keep the investment levels relatively even or in your favor, then you're in the driver's seat.

This is actually why women play hard to get - when they're scared of getting overinvested. And it works on guys who feel deep down like they're not really shooting their shot with balls.

Because if you did shoot your shot with balls and polarized, then calling her bluff when she plays hard to get is the natural course of action.

AnAIAteMyBaby · 2024-04-08T19:36:37+00:00

It is true, I've noticed this myself with women. Basically people just don't appreciate what they have and what comes easily to them. It's not just with relationships, people are generally like this.

lolothe2nd · 2024-04-08T20:14:45+00:00

They'll want a pretty boy if he'll ignore her or not

alcoyot · 2024-04-08T20:42:13+00:00

This kind of advice. Saying you should just ignore women are treat them lesser. Like Bilzerian said to look at women like they have chlamydia.

That stuff doesn’t work. It’s not the answer. The answer is that women are looking for a leader. Standing in a corner and ignoring won’t do anything

CA-GMOW · 2024-04-09T01:11:55+00:00

I actually did an experiment with this.

But this was very controlled experiment where it's related to me being at university, a club executive. I was the people who talked to the most of the people for the club, within the club and out of the club.

I use to text everyone and actually gives other priority over myself, or what I am doing. I changed that to only texting my family, or something that's urgent when I am busy. If I am busy and someone text me during 'me time' I still wouldn't reply. I would only reply when I didn't have anything else to do. Usually after 6-9 pm.

I put myself before others, and I was busy. When someone wanted to hang out or watch movies or something, I wasn't flexible, I gave them 2-3 slots I was available in the evening. If something required for me to be there in the morning, then I would do things according to my priorities that was set in as goals.

When people called me out on not replying, or being too busy, you have to realize you're doing more than them, and it shows you're driven. The bottom line is, ignoring does work, but not where you're being fake, you actually should be busy and doing things in your life, which works organically into your strategy of 'ignoring women's.

The outcomes I had for the experiment, was that before I didn't get any phone number, and I didn't approach people that much either. During the experiment, I had 3-5 girls in person who were orbiters, and were asking me to hang out. I can't recall more than 2-3 times that I made the move. There was only one girl that I couldn't get that I wanted. People knew if they didn't book me by Sunday at 6 pm - there's a high chance I will not hang out with them, and I might be with another girl.

Another thing was also that when girls saw me with someone else they wanted me more, I would also get a few girls who were chasing after me to be at the same place we were visiting. For example, if we were going to visit animal shelter, I would get another girl who was interested in looking at animals as well. This pissed them off, but then they both tried even harder. Do not over do it. If you over do this or the 'ignoring' you will most likely lose both and affect your reputation if you're getting gets from the same scene (which was my case). And you have to be indifferent, indifferent about the outcome, be playful, and enjoy life. Anything escalating is a reward she earned.

DaygameCode · 2024-04-09T08:51:54+00:00

I imagine an ugly dude whose personality is boring as fuck trying to ignore a woman because he saw in a video a trick like this, and while he tells himself he is winning and making her crazy, the girl is thinking thank god he left me alone and talking to some other guy.

Miguell7 · 2024-04-08T19:15:30+00:00

Women as well as men, prefer to get with people who are above them in sexual value.

Ignoring someone is typically a behaviour from someone who has more sexual value than the one being ignored. And this is what is being signaled.

mabden · 2024-04-08T22:09:39+00:00

Guys who chase are viewed as having nothing better to do (nothing of importance) with their lives. Always being available is a sign of low value.

Guys who don't chase are viewed as being busy. This gets their hamster wheel turning with what else does he have going on. It's a sign of high value.

Having them thinking about you peeks their interests in you.

If you are chasing them, there is less left to the imagination and less to think about.

Aesthetic_af · 2024-04-08T23:05:09+00:00

Yes and no. I've realized some girls can't stand being ignored by a guy and others are completely turned off when you're not consistent with your communication. Women need attention but too much is not good she won't value it if u give it away freely. If you have other stuff going in your life let her know if she likes u she will understand that u can't be texting her a lot.

OrangeVoxel · 2024-04-09T13:24:24+00:00

If you’re not texting your girl, someone else is

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-04-08T19:22:40+00:00

Ignoring someone is a form of Higher Value . So duuuuhhhhhh . That has been a known fact since 2006 .

Hell try IDK teasing her next and tell me how that one goes . Wait try going to a club with 10 hot women and get back to me .

Let this be a lesson - Reading is important kids you get shit 18 years in advance .

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-04-08T20:23:55+00:00

For any man doubting that works, just ask yourself what happens when a girl ignores you or doesn't seem very invested.

A. Do you lose interest immediately?

B. Do you act self righteous but secretly are upset that she is ignoring you?

C. Do you run and make a post on Seddit about how to get her interest back?

D. Both B & C

epimpstyle · 2024-04-09T09:00:54+00:00

After reading Mystey's book I thought that ignoring women will make me interesting, actually I misinterpreted this concept because ignoring should be only temporary, maybe a minute or so, but I thought it is permanent, and maybe magically women will appear out of nowhere.

It's a big mistake to ignore someone; you don't become more interesting, you just make your life harder.

HarpertFredje · 2024-04-09T15:06:09+00:00

I ignore women all the time and they ignore me just as hard lol

UnluckyFisherman3994 · 2024-04-09T08:06:30+00:00

you're ignoring 4 billion women right now buddy

tilldeathdoiparty · 2024-04-09T18:18:07+00:00

Women are like cats, treat them at such.

If you tell them to come, they run

If you tell them to go, they cling

If you act nicer to one over the other, they get jealous

If you ignore them, they want attention

They hotter the woman, the more these rules apply.

TripleDigitNomad · 2024-04-08T19:07:06+00:00

Only 9s and 10s get intrigued by men who don't immediately fall for them. The rest prefer to be wooed.

Videogamesarereel · 2024-04-09T00:38:55+00:00

Not ignore, but ones that don't put them on pedestal? They respect the hell out of that.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-04-09T12:25:04+00:00

I don't really ignore women but I'm 6'5 so my vision is well over the average girls head. I don't look down or stare at women either.
It works for me.

kensei_ocelot · 2024-04-09T23:38:19+00:00

While one guy is ignoring them, they can just bang another guy. Not the most efficient tactic, imo. The psychology is that women want what they can't have, but I would say those types of manipulative tactics rarely tend to work out as smoothly as you'd like. I'd wager more often than not they'd blow up in your face.

BigFunnyBigMoney · 2024-04-09T13:38:41+00:00

It’s a neediness thing

Guy who wants woman and doesn’t value himself gives her everything bc he is insecure and craves her validation = icky

Guy who is confident and does something for woman bc he wants to show he cares/ values her = sploosh

Painting it as chasing is misleading, women on some level want to be “chased” (pursued/ won romantically, doted on, cared for, etc.) but from the right person in the right way

Classic_Newspaper_25 · 2024-04-09T15:28:36+00:00

It’s true, but I’d say only the case for the first 1-4 dates. If both parties have feelings and then if the guy drops off, then the girl will most times just think it’s a waste of her time to move forward as well.

slaphappypap · 2024-04-09T19:30:29+00:00

Trust me. I spent years ignoring women and that didn’t get them swooning. There’s some push pull that needs to happen. Don’t smother a girl you like or want to fuck. But also don’t completely ignore her and hope she sneaks into your window and crawls into your bed.

fromthahorsesmouth · 2024-04-10T14:42:41+00:00

It's true... But men ignoring women is a strong word. Best is to match their energy.. that let's the women know you're interested but not desperate

usherzx · 2024-04-09T06:49:26+00:00

asexual is not what you think it is. also, you mention "women are usually taking rainchecks on dates." i've yet to experience that. not sure what data you're using for any of this. you're generalizing. you need to slow down and read what you're typing.

CorinnaOfTanagra · 2024-04-09T09:24:58+00:00

That video was posted a few hours ago from a small youtuber and this is your only source? Are you sure you are not that guy farming viewers? 🤔

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2024-04-09T18:57:13+00:00

it creates attraction yes, but it's not the rule, there is more into it lol

PrinceDestin · 2024-04-10T04:40:08+00:00

Sure if they are mentally unwell

West_Ad_3311 · 2024-04-10T06:40:14+00:00

It aint that deep, she is gonna chase you if she likes u enough to chase u. Average joe playing hard to get aint gonna get any chase out of a woman, it also depends who she is cuz not all girls are the same so just putting it like "wait, so this trick where I ignore a girl will make her more interested?🤓" is dumb cuz not all of girls are into these games cuz thats what it is at the end of the day, games.

starwasmade · 2024-04-10T06:53:16+00:00

If you are an attractive male you everything will work for you. So stop wasting your time here.

KumaFGC · 2024-04-10T07:26:13+00:00

Yes but those are women they don’t really want. I had a girl chase me but I wasn’t really interested in her like that.

TheSearcher55 · 2024-04-10T13:24:47+00:00

It’s not ignoring exactly, it’s talking to them like equals in the beginning. You have to have the attitude that you’re just looking for friends. If you click with her, the time will come to turn things more personal. The knack is recognizing that moment because if you miss it you’re friend zoned and it’s more difficult to get back.

ArmitageShanks69 · 2024-04-12T01:40:16+00:00

Only with guys they find attractive.

Happyseducer · 2024-04-09T07:30:29+00:00

Yes sort of. Showing not too much investment and a decent amount of disinterest is pretty good. On the flip side it is a bit tough nowadays as girls do have so much stimulation and opportunities to date that taking rain checks on dates still can result in losing the dates. My friend for example cancels dates all of the time and loses out on tons of opportunities ( actually two friends)

Both guys have long/permanent dry spells so they have a little fear they have not admitted to themselves, and these women do totally stall out on them/ simply move on. The thing is, even if the girl wanted to chase that guy, when 5 other guys message her, she'll still forget.

It is a bit of an art - you need to leave a lot of space for a girl to chase. But at the same time you need to create and capitalize on opportunities.

I think working a lot of volume helps. I have a group chat with 4 girls in my phone, and another with 3 girls and then I voice message a different girl and texted both another girl. Basically having all these girls my messages are pretty hmm irreverent perhaps? Things like "heyy I am going to do this thing lmk if you want to join" - where it is sort of an after thought I am inviting her to something and no big deal. I invite her but it's not like it really matters much to me if she comes.

There is also a secret thing I do that I am not sharing here as there are many lame guys on this reddit so I am not sharing some of my tricks to be bastardized lol.

However, you can absolutely simulate what I mentioned above, even if you don't have a lot of women in your phone. In fact sometimes you HAVE to simulate it. Like I have all these girls I am talking too but if I meet a girl who blows my fucking mind - like some girls you just want to spend 15 hours liking every inch of them and maybe she has a great vibe too damn right I badly will want to hang with her - but I'd still aim to invite her and text her in that same way. Same principle applies if you have no girls and just having any girl on you radar is a big deal - you can still keep the vibe right.

That is basically game in a nutshell

WomenPickMales · 2024-04-09T05:59:49+00:00

Self fulfilling prophesy.

Sexy guys tend to not "try" which makes them more attractive to women.

This isn't learned behavior, girls pretty much decide who is sexy as young as 12.

Title	Do women chase guys who "ignore" them?
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Date	April 8, 2024 6:45 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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