How do you lads get women through Instagram or Facebook.

Lorik_Bot · 2024-10-06T16:24:04+00:00

Not worth the hassle, real life is much better % succes rate but i would rate instagram succe rate higher then daiting apps at leas in Europe. The trick is to follow girls that are private and have small follower base, if she got above 1k forget it bro, even if you land those girls are so attention thirsty due to getting to much of it, it id not worth it.

slaphappypap · 2024-10-06T16:31:57+00:00

The message requests feature killed dm game. If you message someone for the first time it goes into a request folder that is separate from their main inbox.

Brave_Scholar_3849 · 2024-10-06T16:16:09+00:00

just be goodlooking & rich a career in hollywood and hire somebody to chat with them & book the dates and show up

vladiVP · 2024-10-06T16:41:29+00:00

Good profile and text game

Dangerous_Switch_716 · 2024-10-06T16:41:30+00:00

Depends man.

1.) In the US it's basically impossible to consistently get girls on Insta or FB without a sizeable following.

2.) In countries where FB is more commonly used as a social networking tool (or Messenger) it's basically a dating app and, you have a pretty good chance even if your online following isn't that great. Insta is more selective from my experience and you need to have good pics/following.

The rest is just building rapport with girls and set up a date to meet up, try not to prolong the online talking stage if possible.

MrMetraGnome · 2024-10-06T16:12:11+00:00

Social media is all about clout and status. Doesn't matter what you say. You need a sizeable follower count and images illustrating a high status lifestyle.

drunkenpossum · 2024-10-06T17:52:40+00:00

As usual guys here are overthinking it. IG is a great dating tool. You can follow women you know and over time create organic interaction and convo by liking and commenting on her stories. This can and will lead to dates and hangouts. You can also see what girls have interest in you if they are consistently liking your pics and stories.

You don’t have to be rich or famous either. Just have a decently well put together collection of pics that shows you’re a normal person and not a weirdo/creep.

culturedindividual · 2024-10-06T17:34:51+00:00

I have the opposite problem where I sleep with girls I meet in person, then we follow each other on IG and she discovers that my profile is inactive and there’s little photos of myself. Whereas hers usually has loads of curated selfies, with comments from her friends saying how beautiful she is.

But yeah, 50% of people are meeting online nowadays whether that be through dating apps or social media. As you’re literally going by what you can see, what matters is how you appear to be. So it’s about things like your photos, the lifestyle you convey, and your social status. All of that stuff is far more important than your opener cause if she decides to even open your DM, the first thing she’s gonna do is look at your profile. If it’s not attractive, or she thinks she’s out of your league, you aren’t getting a response. IG models are getting DM’d by athletes and celebs.

I don’t really like this as someone who prefers to stay out of the spotlight, but I’ve realised that having a social media presence is really valuable for curating a powerful personal brand, as well as social status. Women love social status so it’s in our best interest to pay some attention to it.

Infamous_Anonyman · 2024-10-06T17:40:55+00:00

Jist shoot your shot. I have laid some women from facebook and insta.

Even though i'm not flashy and live the luxury life. Have to say the succes rate is way lower than on tinder and apps similae to that.

qurkka · 2024-10-06T16:12:44+00:00

You don't

ratfooshi · 2024-10-06T17:53:54+00:00

I'm super bold and don't take it serious.

My strategy is to go for any reply to get a reaction.

Any emotion is better than boring.

^I've ^never ^sent ^the ^same ^message ^twice. ^Night ^& ^day.

GiotaroKugio · 2024-10-06T18:07:24+00:00

This comment section is reminding me that the average age of this sub is definitely over 30. I have friends that met their girlfriends through Instagram

dasitmane85 · 2024-10-06T18:08:23+00:00

It kinda works for me… … but I live in Venezuela 😅

therealwoujo · 2024-10-06T16:11:15+00:00

You can't. It's an almost 0% success rate unless you are a celebrity or something.

Go outside and meet girls in person. Stop being a wuss.

2024-10-06T21:02:39+00:00

You just shoot your shot & don’t hold high expectations. As long as you have decent photos of yourself & a profile that shows some fun aspects about you or your lifestyle, then you should do okay.

But don’t expect messages back from every DM that you slide into. There are some women that will respond but might be quite dry at first, that’s just how it is. Hell, some of them just like the attention & have no serious interest of ever meeting you. Just accept that & have fun.

If you’re taking it too seriously then you’ll be left disappointed. This isn’t the same thing as messaging people 10-15 years ago on social media. Times have changed. People are less social & more on-guard than ever before.

HotAir25 · 2024-10-06T16:11:43+00:00

Yeah I’m curious about this too, I recently heard that Insta is the new way people advertise themselves for dating, but not sure how to chat someone up online!

Several_Ad_8363 · 2024-10-06T16:33:03+00:00

Aren't publicly accessible Instas the way girls make contacts for "yachting" and stuff like that?

If that doesn't bother you, get some photos with hired cars and so on and make them an offer by DM.

musicbyMOE · 2024-10-06T17:18:09+00:00

You can be a influencer and stand out too . Upload content.

TopicalSmoothiePuree · 2024-10-06T20:20:03+00:00

Improving day game and optimizing your attractiveness and opportunities to meet women IRL is probably more useful. But here's what I'm (55M) trying.

I have a good, honest FB profile about who I am and a curated selection of travel, adventures, group shots from sport/hobby events, and judicious reposts of social/humor topics. My IG has less personal info (eg, no work info) but a dozen or so good pics that, I hope, are interesting.

My overall strategy is to approach women in hobby/interest groups like gardening and such, stuff in which I'm legit interested.

I contacted an out of state woman who posted on a gardening group about her online craft business recently. I complimented her work and asked a couple questions. She ended up asking me a question about a place I traveled In my profile pic. We had a quick back and forth. At that point, she appeared interested in connecting so I asked for her storefront URL and said if she'd like to keep in touch, given our mutual interests, to send me a Facebook friend request. Which she did quickly (after sending me a quick vibe check and me answering correctly). We've sent a couple more messages since, and will likely continue to do so. I'm unlikely to pursue her romantically but who knows.

Yes, it is basically useless because she is far away and I'm not in love. But it's practice (do no harm!) and shows some are receptive to connecting. I'll do a field report if I ever get around to doing it locally.

The first thing I noticed about women on Facebook over 30 (And there are of course fewer under that age that use it regularly) is that most hardly provide any information. Few put marital status and few have pictures of them and their husband, if they are married, although there's lots of pictures of them and their kids.

Additional-Soil-3661 · 2024-10-06T21:26:04+00:00

join fandoms, talk to women in those fandoms? i once sexted a girl who was in a buffy the vampire slayer groupby starting with talking about favorite characters and slipping in some flirting

sumimigaquatchi · 2024-10-07T03:09:28+00:00

I don't think cold approach on IG works because most women already get tons of messages from dudes around the world

Efficient-Age-5870 · 2024-10-06T17:06:36+00:00

have an aesthetic feed, take good pics, post your travel/ activities (lifestyle)

don’t open w “hey” or sumn generic like that, if u swipe up on a story reference something in that story to stand out. ex: if she’s wearing pink i’ll say sumn like “ can i have some bubble gum??” just say sumn witty, and different than the other dms she gets

Title	How do you lads get women through Instagram or Facebook.
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Date	October 6, 2024 4:02 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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