Sometimes we arrive at the point in these discussion where women are willing to entertain the idea that men suffer because they are much more eager and easily excitable combined with having much less dating opportunities. The question that comes up then is why should anyone ever care about it, why would women's empathy matter? What would it solve? I want to turn that question around.

Empathy for what you perceive as real and valid painful things is generally expected in life from non-sociopathic people. I'm not talking about massive amounts of active effort or attention being paid for a specific matter, just when you come across it and understand it, you would feel for it. Like, that's when you feel sorry for someone. Isn't that it? "These people are in pain, but why should I care" is an unusual line of thought, it's outside of the norm of how we normally work. I think it's human nature to at least have the capacity to care about things that we consider to be real, and we normally don't get angry or suspicious or defensive about the idea of people in real pain reaching out to be heard or understood, so why now? Why do we have to treat this particular pain in a different way?

What would women lose if they acknowledged that the hornier gender with less dating opportunities, the one who has to prove themselves and initiate, having the burden of figuring out the initial stages of dating on it, and having significantly less opportunities for casual sex in particular (which we don't consider to be a crime anymore), is in a type of pain? Like for example if this was considered as a factor in the academic progressive concept of gendered privilege (that men have only), then what would happen? What is at risk here, exactly?