Is getting girls and dating still fun and exciting as a late bloomer?

Kobe_curry24 · 2025-01-13T00:49:50+00:00

Dude where’s your curiosity?? You should be like an explorer life is fully ahead of you ,you try new things -reinvent yourself Over and over , you have time but start doing something -figure out what you like and that will open doors , you learn by doing not by staying still

PleaseDontBeTakenPlz · 2025-01-13T01:21:20+00:00

You’re only a baby. Relax.

Puzzleheaded_Back181 · 2025-01-13T07:18:32+00:00

Lmao you’re literally 22 bro you aren’t a late bloomer you’re just a bloomer, you have like 5 years if you have bad genetics, don’t wear sunscreen and aren’t predisposed to balding to do whatever the fuck you want and still get away with it by being young.

I have shit genetics and didn’t wear sunscreen my entire life, I look older than my age at 26, You still have so much time dude you’re young.

I know Redditors will shit on you for advice like this but here it goes, live your life a little recklessly at this age, get that car you want fuck it if you have to eat ramen for a few years, get the clothes you want to wear, move to that city you want to live in, dress however the fuck you want, be yourself completely, fuck as many woman as you want, be a whore, do whatever you want, get ripped, get drunk every night, you’re at an age where life is forgiving of mistakes and you get to live a little, do it now don’t be that 30 year old dude preying on woman younger than him.

Rustin_Cohle95 · 2025-01-13T09:27:28+00:00

"When I get beautiful girls, like the ones at comic or anime conventions dressed as video game characters or anime"

My god.

Poolside_XO · 2025-01-13T01:06:15+00:00

"when I get beautiful girls like the ones at comic and anime conventions who are dressed like anime and video game characters in my bed I'll forget about it."

Lmao, con thirst is def real.

Seriously tho, your friends are right. The more you worry about how to get it, the less of of it you'll get. Pulling at cons is EASY when you're solid with yourself authentically. Learn how to talk to the girls in your community/school first, then apply what you learned to the con scene and you'll make many friends.

No_Reason5341 · 2025-01-13T02:07:43+00:00

Dude.

I feel like success in dating is even MORE fun and rewarding as a late bloomer.

You’re gonna hate hearing this for the millionth time: you are so so young. You aren’t even “late” yet.

I’ve known guys who only start meeting women in their 40s (look up David Deangelo thank me later) and it sounds like it’s very rewarding for them.

I’m 32 and deciding Im gonna try and fix this part of my life. And I am generally still considered “young” by many (even if I don’t agree with that opinion).

asanskrita · 2025-01-13T01:16:07+00:00

I’m 48 and still exploring my sexuality and working to understand myself, love, sex, and my place in the world. I still feel very young. You’ve got nothing but the rest of your life ahead of you. And here’s the kicker, you’re the only one who can live it ;)

PrinceDestin · 2025-01-13T01:11:40+00:00

Nah you won’t care, I got my first kiss and lost my v card at 20 been clowned by my coworkers who were in their 40s even after I lost it

I was ugly back then and grew into it, I’m 24 now and let me tell you I’m just glad I am who I am

Ill_Personality_5704 · 2025-01-13T00:46:31+00:00

Being a Virgin is the new "cool" now. Trust me bro. You are not missing ANYTHING. You will attract people similar to you.

BraveProgram · 2025-01-13T00:54:22+00:00

If youre hot and got goals/ambitions yes.

But 22 really isnt that bad. Ask a 32 year old virgin n get back to me lol. Ive met them and THAT sucks, not being 22, like, at all man.

Nobody needs to know either, who cares. Just be confident and get shit done n not even youll care.

Id say just keep working on yourself and your goals. Be fit, get a hairstyle you like that works for you. Get a hobby and do shit so you have shit to talk about.

Like a certain genre of music? Cool, learn who the best and influential artists of it are and who came after and took inspiration from those artists. Know the songs. Etc. gives you something “fun”/interesting to talk about that isnt just work/school. Not that those arent interesting too, but you need more to discuss than that.

Or any other hobby. Told a woman about Helldivers and how my buddies and I love that game. I just didnt do it like a fkn nerd and it was cool lol.

I know plenty of good looking people that fall on their face because theyre boring af and have no confidence or rizz.

Remember, awareness, confidence, and getting shit done are the most attractive things you can ever posses. Even before kindness, Im serious.

After that, all that’s left is to learn “game”. That’s a whole other conversation tho and youll need to youtube it honestly.

redleader8181 · 2025-01-13T02:36:33+00:00

I bet if you put that on some dating profile, you’d end up getting picked up by some cougars and shown the ropes and a good time. Women for the most part have to be very cautious with dating. Dudes are bigger stronger, and dates can be quite intimate depending where and what you do. The fact that you will seem not threatening at all, and being a virgin will be a novelty. You should try to auction it off? Not sure what you’re bringing to the table, but take a few months and eat well and work out too. You don’t need to be a body builder, but having some clear definition will help your cause. Also, dress better. I just know you need to do that. Pretty much all dudes should if they’re trying to find some lovin’.

-MrsInterrupted- · 2025-01-13T06:31:29+00:00

You might be just one meaningful connection away from overcoming what feels like an insurmountable struggle, which can be a difficult thought to hold onto, despite its simplicity. It’s understandable that this could feel like psychological torture, but I don’t think you will look back with resentment, you’ll likely look back with pride for what you’ve overcome. While it’s true that the world has changed—dating apps favoring extremes and cultural shifts adding challenges—love and intimacy have never been easy. They’ve always demanded self-growth, courage, and a willingness to step into vulnerability, risking both your ego and your heart.

Instead of dwelling on what feels out of reach, try focusing on becoming the best version of yourself: commit to short gym sessions, practice mindfulness, nurture your social connections, and take risks—big and small. With time and effort, what was once your greatest source of pain will transform into a marker of how far you’ve come, a reminder of your resilience and growth.

HomelessMilkman · 2025-01-13T10:51:27+00:00

But I fear that even if I start getting girls, I'll be very jaded, bitter, and upset that I had to settle as a late bloomer. It would be very bitter sweet

You'd have to get over that before you start seeing success.

There isn't a reality where you're insecure, believe you're 'worse' than everyone else and are also successful. Accumilating the self-esteem necessary to see results means that you don't believe you're 'worse' in any way.

bit_racer · 2025-01-13T15:48:11+00:00

Dude… lower your expectations on life or you are setting up for a life full of disappointments. Stop measuring yourself against others. Live at your own pace. 22 and a virgin is nothing. Stop being so hard on yourself. Bitterness is coming from not meeting expectations, work on dealing with that. Enjoy life, get a hobby, become someone that’s nice to be around. Girls will follow, trust me.

Repulsive_Ad3150 · 2025-01-13T20:38:25+00:00

I wouldn’t lose my virginity just for the sake of losing it, dealing with any kind of bitterness you have should be a priority before you start talking to girls because they will catch onto it and it can only negatively impact your relationship with them. My advice; take some of the pressure off and be willing to wait for the right person. Dating should be fun and you should approach it with an open mind, nobody worth your time will hold your lack of experience against you.

Wean1eHu11 · 2025-01-13T22:32:38+00:00

I was a late bloomer, lost my v at 21, and as much as I would have loved to experience high school romance, I feel that the lack of attention gave me the drive to get to where I am today. Trying to look hot for girls developed my love for fitness and an eye for fashion, I am no body builder or fashion guru but I look pretty good compared to guys my age who have completely let themselves go. I focused on my career and now I work a dream job. I also feel that having to learn about seduction has made me more in tune with women’s emotions and understanding relationship dynamics, like what I need to put in and what I personally want back, which is a big one as you get older and women get sick of dealing with guys with the emotional and communication range of a brick.

Harness your bitterness and turn it into something constructive that will make grow. You can’t change the past, only the future.

OriginalMandem · 2025-01-14T03:00:37+00:00

Probably better tbh, my dating life only stopped being awful in my mid 30s and took off after I hit 40. The late bloomer thing means I'm usually mistaken for 10 years younger than I am, and although not everyone likes the age gap thing, I seem to be mostly attracting women half my age these days. And that's not me chasing them either.

chill_geek_boy · 2025-01-14T04:59:15+00:00

Well, as a person who has gone through this what I would say is grow up. Get mature. However I am talking about in relationships and courage sense. You might already be a mature person in other aspects but what you need to learn is you have to find your value, grow your self confidance and understand that you have needs. Just express them, don't get scared and just get over it. That is the thing. Until you do it sounds like a bogus advice but it is a great one.

trustmeiminnocent · 2025-01-13T05:39:29+00:00

22 is no late bloomer lol. Didn't have anything till 24 😆

Remarkable_Fan6001 · 2025-01-13T09:10:02+00:00

I lost my virginity last year. I'm 23 now and I think it's fun.

Depends on your mentality.

throwawayat3am14 · 2025-01-13T09:10:12+00:00

It’s more fun than not dating and not getting girls ever!, I went from a khv at 21 to landing an amazing gf (and smashing ofc) in less than a month.

edjohn88 · 2025-01-13T09:50:27+00:00

“late”

I’m only 41 and between mind, muscle, tattoos, life experience, and yes money… I am only having more fun each year. (while in and while out of serious relationships even)

Professional_Kick149 · 2025-01-13T12:53:48+00:00

being bitter about this situation won’t help u at all in fact it’s making it worse. u gotta get out of ur feelings n into action/experimental mode. getting with girls shouldn’t be moving u as emotionally as it is. n trust me sex is just one piece of the puzzle. after u have sex with whatever girl, what’s ur plan after that with her…?

stickedee · 2025-01-13T14:38:24+00:00

You can either figure out how to change the past, or find a way to accept it and live the present to its fullest.

One is significantly easier than the other.

Skairan · 2025-01-13T00:49:40+00:00

No stay the way you are focus on yourself. Most women are just unnecessary stress and problems, you will find the one for you if you wait and build yourself up. Best of luck

Onzalimey · 2025-01-13T02:14:10+00:00

I’m 36 and still single and enjoying it lol. List my virginity at 19. If you keep working on yourself you have many years ahead of you don’t worry

PeterWritesEmails · 2025-01-13T19:56:05+00:00

Unless you're gay or asexual it is.

LifesAMitch · 2025-01-13T01:01:52+00:00

Dating and sex are fun, but there are way more important things in life. I'd say at 22 years old, with the entire world ahead of you, you should have about zero worries about it. Have fun, set some goals, go chat up some cute girls.

No_Assistance_5565 · 2025-01-13T08:10:21+00:00

Get a prostitute. No shame, it’ll be a funny story.

Title	Is getting girls and dating still fun and exciting as a late bloomer?
Author	ATATwalker92737
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Date	January 13, 2025 12:44 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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