Alright, so I’m 21, and up until last year, I was just another nerd watching from the sidelines. Always curious about the Dan Bilzerian lifestyle—girls, parties, the whole deal. But every time I looked up “how to get girls” on YouTube, all I found was basic PUA (pickup artist) stuff. That’s not what I wanted. I didn’t want to just “cold approach” randoms—I wanted to be the guy they approached. The guy with the party, the lifestyle, the options.

So, I bit the bullet and bought courses from StirIing Cooper, Dan Bilzerian, and Michael Sartain. No regrets. Here’s what actually works:

1. Your relationships with men matter more than women.

I used to think it was all about direct game—talking to the girl, saying the right things. Nah. Your social circle is everything. If you have guys around you who share your vision (aka, they also want to build a fun, high-status lifestyle), you automatically attract women. Throw a party, invite every girl you match with on dating apps, and let the social proof do its thing.

1. The 5:1 ratio is key.

This one’s straight from Dan Bilzerian. Reverse the competition. If you throw a party and there are 10 guys and 3 girls, the girls feel like queens, and you’re competing. But if it’s 20 girls and 4 guys? Now they’re competing for you. Game-changer.

1. Status > Looks.

If the people around you don’t look up to you, neither will she. Simple. If you’re hanging with losers who bring nothing to the table, girls will notice. But if your circle consists of cool, successful guys, they’ll assume you’re high value too. Your social status sets the frame before you even open your mouth.

1. First impressions are everything.

Be clean, fit, and well-dressed. You don’t need designer brands, but wear clothes that fit well. Confidence is also in the details—a unique watch, chain, or even a cool ring can be conversation starters. Also, smell good. Seriously, you’d be surprised how much that matters.

1. No girl says no to good sex.

StirIing Cooper was right—every girl has a wild side. If you don’t believe me, just ask them about their Wattpad history. 😂 A simple game of “Would You Rather” or “This or That” can open the door to what they’re actually into. Once she’s comfortable, ask what she likes in bed and actually do it. Basic, but most guys never bother.