We still don't ask a women out twice correct?

Conscious-Ad-7338 · 2025-04-07T02:15:12+00:00

You can ask women out twice. I've been rejected by women only to come back later and have sexual relationships with them. I would take what she says at face value and act like it doesn't bother you. Whether or not she's being honest doesn't really matter. Women will test you to see if you're strong and deliberately try to get a rise out of you with stuff like that. If you couldn't handle the fact that she's working and isn't available to go on a date at a certain time, that communicates weakness and she'll be unattracted whether she's being honest or if she's testing you; and could you blame her? If you act like you don't care, is communicates strength and she'll feel like she can trust you and feel free to engage with you

Reflog1791 · 2025-04-07T02:13:24+00:00

I would just throw out another date at your convenience. Spin plates on the apps so you have more options and greater likelihood of getting a date. I also found its feast or famine for whatever reason. I’d go a month ice cold then have 3 women banging down my door. It got tiring eventually.

Ok-Cause1108 · 2025-04-07T00:49:33+00:00

You do ask twice. If she says she is busy on the second offer then you say "I'd love to take you out, when your schedule opens up reach out and we'll go have fun".

That's it. No third offer, and no chatting after that. The ball is now in her court. If she was a 5 on the attraction scale she'lls probably reach out in the future with a "Hi". Use that as an opportunity to setup a date. Keep it very brief and then get off the app/phone. You cannot build attraction over the phone/app with a woman, but you can definitely destroy any attraction she has using the phone/app.

My advice go listen to Corey Wayne and download his book. He and Doc Love are the only men who undertsand women (Doc interviewed 10,000 women and Cory's work is based heavily on his studies). Any woman will also confirm they know what they are talking about. Do NOT listen to anyone else.

Darkfire66 · 2025-04-06T21:48:30+00:00

Don't overthink this stuff man, people who are interested in being there for you will make time for it.

Also, get yourself a job. Girls might worry you're going to whip out a buy one get one coupon at Arby's and expect them to cover their half.

I went on a bunch of bad dates before I found my little ride or die chick I've been with for almost 4 years now.

Good women are out there but it's a numbers game, you need to be okay with rejection on both ends. I cut a lot of women loose early and gently when they appeared to be screwed up.

Be someone people want to be with and it's easy to find a good one.

AirSailer · 2025-04-06T17:45:49+00:00

Do you want to be a leader in your relationship? Because if you do then you need to act like a leader. If she is looking for a leader and you're not leading then she's not going to step up. It sounds like she wants you to lead, but you're waiting on her to take the lead. It seems you two are not compatible.

Camille_Toh · 2025-04-06T17:37:49+00:00

Plainly, women are often "tasked" with making plans for men. Yes, you initially proposed a specific plan and that's great. She just couldn't make it, and asked you your schedule. Then you made it too wide open and put the ball in her court. Instead, say, "How about either Tuesday or Thursday this coming week? We could meet at X around 6, or later if that works better for you?" Pick a location that is closer to her, especially as she's presumably working. I'd give her at least an hour after the end of her work day, to decompress, change, freshen up etc.

Pro-IDGAF · 2025-04-06T13:26:08+00:00

step up, be assertive and take control, if thats your thing. in my mind, women like that in a man. it shows confidence. atleast any woman i want to be with

if they want to be in control i’ll pass on that attitude. my ex was that and it didnt work for us.

Legitimate-Corgi · 2025-04-06T11:21:17+00:00

Should’ve ended that line about your schedule with a direct question what day is best for you?

upvotersfortruth · 2025-04-06T10:02:17+00:00

I think that's sufficient for a second ask. But if it's another excuse and no meet up, forget it unless she makes the move.

SteveSan82 · 2025-04-06T04:37:27+00:00

You should be looking for a job instead of dating

dfb54749014 · 2025-04-06T03:50:26+00:00

If it was me and I was really interested, I'd give her one more shot.

I'd say something to the effect of... "Hey, since I told you my schedule is pretty much open, what day and time works for you with your schedule?"

If you get no reply, then end the chapter, close the book, and move on.

Don't put in the effort if she isn't willing to match it with the same effort.

blinkyvx · 2025-04-06T03:12:05+00:00

To bad she's seen the photos of me with no front two teeth and wasn't a deal breaker.

Significant_Idea_663 · 2025-04-06T03:09:46+00:00

Move on, she has tons of choices—it’s true. Like a lady who keeps using her lifelines until they are all exhausted, she has been known to reach back into the hamper and dust it up. Yikes!

Title	We still don't ask a women out twice correct?
Author	blinkyvx
Upvotes	6
Comments	44
Date	April 6, 2025 2:56 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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