The majority of "penis shaming" occurs in male centric groups, not female ones.

tahmkenchisbroken · 2025-07-02T06:10:01+00:00

Well a study done with larger sample sized showed women were more likely to gossip about phyiscal appearance than men.

"Physical appearance gossip was found to be more prevalent in females, but not related to friendship quality. This type of gossip may be a more of a competitive threat to the relationship in females. Achievement related gossip was also related to male friendship quality, which reflects the greater emphasis on individuation in male friendships.."

2025-07-02T07:50:25+00:00

So you made a generalization based on your anecdotal evidence?

No efforts to look into statistics of what topics are discussed categorised by gender?

Women talk about physical appearances and relationships more than men. So I find it hard to believe that it's men doing those insults more.

https://www.purchasesmarter.com/articles/124

Unless you have some opposing statistical evidence.

WanabeInflatable · 2025-07-02T06:40:07+00:00

No man ever said anything to me about penis size. Offline or online.

Women throw this as insult quite often, when you disagree with them. But of course only online.

Independent-Mail-227 · 2025-07-02T14:14:29+00:00

The people saying shit like small dick energy are not men. Unless you're gay men are not going to discuss dicks outside the context of trying to prove themselves to women what by default means that are women the ones that care not men.

thedarkracer · 2025-07-02T07:36:58+00:00

Why do women think that everything bad is with men only? Studies have shown women gossip more about male appearance than men do.

onestH · 2025-07-02T06:22:00+00:00

It’s almost like men know that women value a party-size penis and aim their attacks at what they believe to be a not-so-fun-size pepee.

I’ve always been an inquisitive type and talked to the women I’ve been with regarding experirnces, kinks, preferences and so on and a reccuring theme is the disappointment women experience when presented with a peashooter. Somehave begrudgingly gone through with the deed, others have laughed and an ex of mine said she was going to sleep with a long time friend of hers but when his pants dropped and she saw his baby carrot she just left without saying a word. It ended their friendship and they’ve never spoken again after that.

Let’s be honest — no one’s swiping right for a personality and a pencil. Men know this and shame others for having a Tic Tac for a penis just like they would a man for having a big gut, being short or without status.

Btw, in my part of the world it’s not strange to be friends with the opposite sex.

TheSkyIsData · 2025-07-02T07:59:59+00:00

First of all, I will fully admit I am a tomboy that has had mostly male friends and it's difficult for me to fit in with and befriend other women. That being said I think the penis shaming comes equally from all groups, straight men, gay men, straight women, gay women. Everyone seems to want to be a part of the "penis shaming"

Overall body discussion online seems to favor feminine features over masculine ones, whether this be discussion among men or women or somewhere in between it doesn't matter. if I say something good about women people love it. If I say something bad about women people hate it. If I say something good about men people hate it. If I say something bad about men people love it. This also applies to genitals.

small-pp-small-smv · 2025-07-02T16:06:22+00:00

Ah yes, it was men who were holding up these signs during protests

She was spotted at the rally in Charlotte : r/NorthCarolina

It was a man who said Andrew Tate has small dick energy

SherbertDense1415 · 2025-07-03T03:54:04+00:00

Women care about penis size, not men. Men care that women care about it.

BigmacBlastoise · 2025-07-02T06:13:19+00:00

r/purplepilldebate users trying not to make a post entirely based on generalization and 0 statistical data

Popular-Future-6289 · 2025-07-02T08:11:34+00:00

Heard from a female friend who had a messy breakup with her BF say in person that "he had a tiny dick anyway".

Like it somehow makes everything ok just cause he supposedly had a tiny dick. Whereas if the dude was huge, theyd say that theyd miss the D.

Idk but small/average D never seems to get the outward desire Big D gets.

throwaway73737828 · 2025-07-02T18:29:08+00:00

No, men do shame it because they think of womens perspective when they shame it. If women were gone from earth tomorrow and lets say we see a guy with a penis size of a palm tree, we would say “damn bro thats big” and move on with our lives, its would be basically seeing a guy who wears a big coat, when we see it first we say wow thats big and immediately dont give af after 2 seconds.

And about shaming thing women are far more critical on mens body than men are with mens body. They talk about it far more with their friends

Living_Influence_796 · 2025-07-02T06:57:44+00:00

I don't know why I'm even bothering getting involved with this discussion, it doesn't affect me and it's always dumb, but something that I never see acknowledged when people talk about penis size is that larger penises are deified, whereas nothing positive is ever said about smaller ones.

Given all the talk about how harmful beauty standards are for women and considering how insecure women feel when they see other women, with features they don't have, getting positive attention from men for said features, I often wonder why women can't see why men may feel insecure about the size of their penis; perhaps it is the empathy gap in action.

Boring_Meat2550 · 2025-07-02T07:26:10+00:00

"penis-shaming" can take different forms. I've rarely seen women throw penis-related insults directly at men. Or talk about how small someone's dick is when he isn't present. However comments like "small dick energy" and "limp dick" are used a fair bit by women. It's not directly shaming an individual man's penis, but it's still proagating the notion that smaller penises or ED are things to be ashamed of and worthy of being demeaned.

ComprehensivePipe448 · 2025-07-02T07:51:31+00:00

Well the majority penis shaming in my friend group is me calling and my friends calling their owns small and the girls saying they have big dicks

Anyways how is this a debate ? It’s just ur word va ours u want me to bring up dick related twitter statistics??

Chance_Dog_6281 · 2025-07-06T07:31:24+00:00

I was intimate with a female friend once and she gossiped about my small penis to our friend group. I have also had multiple female friends talk shit about guys they've dated having small penises. Women definitely penis shame, gossip, and otherwise make fun of guys with small penises. Whether or not they do it more or less often than men I have no idea but they certainly do it.

GhostXmasPast342 · 2025-07-02T08:22:05+00:00

Women don’t care about penis size until they find their ideal dude and he’s got a little D. Then, it becomes a big deal that can’t be overcome.

RequirementMinimum36 · 2025-07-02T06:11:47+00:00

Yeah I don’t think I’ve ever had a discussion with other girls about this lmao. It’s such a juvenile thing to make fun of when there’s usually a lot more defining things to be pointed out. Usually it’s poor smell or just behaving like an asshole

Makuta_Servaela · 2025-07-02T11:52:36+00:00

The only time I usually hear women bring up penis size is also the only time I usually hear women bring up baldness: He has already been throwing out misogynistic rants at her for a while leading up to it, often implying that she's sensitive and emotional for a crowd of his fans/friends, and she is trying to drop a single sentence to trick him into flying into a rage so he'll lose his credibility. Doesn't make it a good thing to do, mind you, but it's at least more reasonable than how often men think women do it.

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PopeGenghisVI · 2025-07-05T11:44:32+00:00

Ahaa. Women critique men. Is this the so-called real Bechdel's test that women pass between each other?

Must-be-1790 · 2025-08-06T13:06:21+00:00

In all of my social groups. And even in male dominated workspaces. Men rarely bring up penis size. Usually if somebody would comment about that I would just tell him I'm not gay I'm not interested. This will always shut down the references to penis size from ever being brought up by that person again. With women. Anytime there are more than three of them in a group and they get drunk, p my experience is penis size comes up in some form or fashion. Might be an insult might be a compliment but penis size does come up. These are usually closer friends married or dating for long periods of time. Once you get a bath 35 to comments seemed to die down. Penis size thing usually goes away. I believe this is mainly because the women have started putting on weight and they do not want to discuss physical appearance anymore. When they are young and they can put men down it's easier. But once there is obvious room for improvement on their behalf all that goes away.

Must-be-1790 · 2025-08-18T21:53:11+00:00

You are the one that said I must not be bringing heat. This was supposed to be a high percentage insult towards me. A High percentage because a lot of men that talk about this subject feel they are lacking. I was giving you examples so you could let me know how insulted I should be because I am lacking heat. You were going after the proverbial low-hanging fruit. You are assuming I must be lacking in that department. I'm not justifying anything. I have only stating what women have said. Usually if you throw an insult somebody will have a retort for you. You did not state any facts you just said you must not be bringing heat. So just please inform me how insulted I should be, by not bringing the heat. You say women do not judge Men by their penises but then you insult one or the person attached to it? So I guess out of all your friends you're the only one that judges people. I thought this was the purple pill where the truth leads you wherever it goes no matter if it's for or against what you think should be right. No matter what your response is this will be my last comment on this. I was only trying to have a conversation not get people upset. God day.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-07-02T16:17:42+00:00

Men know men won’t change, obey or respect them

So they try and blame it on women

Title	The majority of "penis shaming" occurs in male centric groups, not female ones.
Author	oddly_algedonic
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Date	July 2, 2025 5:49 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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