First divorce I was married for 10 years, 3 kids now HS/College aged. The last few years of our marriage were not good, and we agreed on custody, finances, etc...moving on from her was positive and we had disconnected emotionally years before we actually split up.

Second one, together 10, married 7 had absolutely broken me emotionally. The house is sold and we're both in our own places. She moved first, I went down south the ship until it was sold, Legalities of divorce in process. No kids together, but attempted the blended family. The dynamics of the home weren't great, but the 2 of us together were very good. Ultimately some dynamics of the blended family has made it impossible to stay together. I feel like a shell of myself. I spend so much energy fighting myself whether I miss her or if I'm angry and it's draining me so much, but I can get out of the cycle in my head.

I debated trying to find a rebound partner, but I'm finding it hard to even be interested in anyone except my wife. Anyone been here. Any advice is welcomed.

I've tried all the generic advice, connected with old friends, tried new hobbies, lean on my support network. It all helps distract me for a bit, but end up right back at the same place eventually.