The whole dating world makes a lot more sense when you realize that women choose the man they want, and men commit to the woman they want.

A lot of guys are told to pursue or chase women, but that is backwards. Think of it like a market. If there are more buyers than sellers, it is a seller’s market. Women have the leverage in the early courting stage, and men have the leverage in the commitment stage.

Guys are almost always the ones complaining about the choosing part, like getting numbers or getting dates. Women are almost always the ones complaining about the commitment part, like asking “Are we official?” or “Will he propose?” I have never heard a guy complain about a situationship. He is getting all the perks without the commitment.

That is why I do not approach women, give compliments, or even start a friendly conversation. Women slide into the DMs of the men they actually want, and that is choosing. From there, it is your choice whether you want to play or not.

The best thing a guy can do is keep improving himself, not to attract women but for his own sake. When you do that, the women who are into you will naturally gravitate your way. And then it is your game to play.