what is ideal frequency of sex in a week or month? how do you want your man to love you beyond sex?

p_fulga · 2025-10-13T00:06:30+00:00

I tend to like twice a week. Sometimes maybe a bit more or less depending on stress and exhaustion. My partner definitely has their means to get me wanting more haha.

Well my partner is my perfect other half, basically. Foils to fill me where my weaknesses lie, compliments and helps to further me in my strengths, encourages me and elevates me in ways I couldn't do alone, makes my life easier and is appreciative of when I do the same for them, cares for me and takes consideration of my feelings, my needs and my wants. Excellent cuddler, great kisser, fantastic with words and with making me feel special and loved in ways no one has ever managed to truly come close to before.

Inevitable-Bite8660 · 2025-10-13T01:08:00+00:00

It really depends on stamina—seriously. When I was doing physically demanding work, even once a week felt exhausting, but when I wasn’t working, I could go at it three times a day.

Avast_Lion · 2025-10-12T23:52:23+00:00

Once a week
Like a best friend, an equal, and a partner in crime

Downtown_Cat_1745 · 2025-10-13T00:34:14+00:00

It greatly varies. I’m currently in peri menopause, so my hormones are all over the place. Some weeks I am climbing the walls, and some weeks I don’t want to be touched

Objective_Ad_6265 · 2025-10-13T04:12:20+00:00

You count weekly? At least 3 times a day.

Confident_Counter471 · 2025-10-13T01:41:30+00:00

2-5 times a week depending on the week

MoreCheesePlease8675 · 2025-10-13T00:23:23+00:00

Doesn't matter to me since the body can only take so much. If we both feel like it and can then ok we are doing it. But if one doesn't feel like it then oh well we aren't doing it. And if that "not doing it " goes on for a while I would want to help them with whatever the issue may be.

Beyond sex I would just want them to show appreciation for the little things and to "be my windmill" as I would be for them.

Makuta_Servaela · 2025-10-13T01:32:26+00:00

Depends on the week, it ranges from one to four times a week. Get me when I'm PMSing and it may be multiple times a day.

I see relationships as us sharing our life, so I would want to feel like my life is easier because my partner is in it. I prefer doing things alone, so I would want to feel like being with my partner is better than being alone.

Icy_Ad_4544 · 2025-10-13T01:39:02+00:00

I think I am on the higher libido side but I’d be happy with at least 4 times a week. More is always preferred though unless we are sick and don’t feel up to it.

Sex is such a small part of our day to day relationship. He shows me he loves me by showing me he’s thinking of me when we are apart - always texts me on the way to work that he loves me and misses me. He checks in throughout the throughout the day. We are both lucky to have jobs that make this possible. He is often asking me if there is anything he can do to make my day easier. He hypes up my silly hobbies. And this will probably sound silly to some people but he speaks highly of me to his friends, coworkers, and family. He is the youngest of five boys and all of the men have a very boomer humor attitude towards their wives and marriage. It feels good that he doesn’t let that pressure to wife/marriage bash get to him.

Present-Interest-975 · 2025-10-13T02:20:32+00:00

PIV 1-2 times a week, a session of just oral as well another additional day. Sex doesn't make me feel particularly loved compared to other things

oppositegeneva · 2025-10-13T02:25:17+00:00

Sex at least once a day is preferable, but we have 3 young kids (2 under 2) so I’m satisfied with 2-3 times a week with that current situation

I like random “I love yous”, kisses and hugs, regularly expressing his attraction.

I’m grateful he checks all those boxes easily

Queen_BW · 2025-10-13T05:49:11+00:00

3-4 times a week

My bf is my best friend. We have a lot of fun together even when we spend all day doing nothing. He is my biggest fan, he is extremely considerate with my needs, he listens to me and he does everything he can to make my life easier. He is a great man and i’ll never not appreciate him.

EulenWatcher · 2025-10-13T05:52:48+00:00

On average, 3-4 times a week is a good frequency for me, but if I have plenty of free time and I’m not stressed, it can rise to daily.

My primary love languages are physical touch and quality time, so hugs, kisses, back rubs, holding hands, talking at night, walks in a park, trying out a new cafe or going to one of our regulars and chat etc.

sister_submissive · 2025-10-13T06:24:41+00:00

Actual sex aside, I would like him to speak passionately about what he finds beautiful in me, both physically and in terms of personality. Like, if we're speaking intimacy here, I consider a man's skill with words a very important part of any foreplay. As in, I want him to compliment me as definitevely and descriptively as possible, because some simple things like "you're beautiful" have all been done before. Instead, I want him to tell me why exactly I trigger this carnal reaction in him. It really helps me get in the mood if done right.
As for the frequency - and this here is almost an arbitrary number given my long time no IRL dating situation - three times a week counting all kinds of intimacy sounds steady enough? I just don't want him to chastize me for anything sexual, both my drive and the occasional lack of it.

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Plus_Ball_5990 · 2025-10-13T03:50:47+00:00

I wish I had a man, I like sex and want it whenever he can give it to me.

kalashhhhhhhh · 2025-10-13T05:51:26+00:00

6 times a week. I also need a lot of cuddling, hugging, kissing and physical touch in general, as well as quality time, nice conversations and doing other best friend activities

CanaryHeart · 2025-10-13T18:37:48+00:00

This is going to be different for everyone to begin with and vary among individuals depending on circumstances.

My ideal frequency of sex is once a day—I’d honestly go for more, but then I run out of time to live life, haha. But that requires most other circumstances to also be ideal—when I had three kids under 2, I only had the energy for sex once or twice a week, and I’m sure we missed some weeks entirely. Right now we’re doing major DIY renovations and sometimes we’re up until 3 A.M. working on our home—we’re not having sex those nights.

attendquoi · 2025-10-13T13:54:32+00:00

Either a quickie once a day ..or one long session a week.

I don't view sex as an expression of love.

Title	what is ideal frequency of sex in a week or month? how do you want your man to love you beyond sex?
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Date	October 12, 2025 11:33 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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