Five days ago she told me she wanted a divorce. We’re young, I’m 25 and she’s 28, no kids, married two and a half years. It hit me like a truck, I convinced her to do couples counselling (useless) and individual counselling (therapist told her to be true to herself). She says that she isn’t meant for marriage, and she wants to be free, and that she misses flirting with people.

I’m absolutely crushed. We just signed a year lease on an apartment less than a month ago! This just seems so short sighted and childish to me. She keeps saying that she wishes she didn’t have to do this, and that she doesn’t want to do this, and that the good outweighs the bad in our relationship, that she loves me but just can’t be married and has commitment issues.

She took all of her stuff today and is moving back to her parents house. I don’t have that luxury, I am in a city with hardly any friends, and family across the country. I’ve been trying to keep busy today, but the second I got into bed, where I am now, I just started wailing and sobbing like a wounded animal. I fucking hate this, this is so unfair, I was a good husband, SHE LOVES ME!! If two people love each other they should be able to make it work!! I am so isolated and so alone. I want to be comforted by her but she is gone, and she is the cause of the pain anyways.

Everyone says it’s lucky to get divorced so young with no kids. I know that’s true logistically but it doesn’t make it hurt any less. She was my best friend, we knew each other inside and out, she accepted and loved some things about me that I never told anybody. I don’t know how I can trust a woman again after this. I am hurting so bad.