What do 18-20y.o girls want on tinder? I get matches, one reply then silence. Why?

brandonmcgritle · 2026-01-03T22:07:41+00:00

Because dating apps are unevenly skewed toward women and not men. The women who message you and match with you probably have at least 300-500 men messaging them simultaneously. Then they pick 1 or two guys out of that 500 that “meet their standard”. The reason they aren’t messaging you back isn’t because of anything with you, it’s because the apps are unfairly skewed towards women.

I’d suggest getting off the apps and meeting women in real life. That’s what I’m doing

eazolan · 2026-01-03T22:56:33+00:00

Tinder is mostly bots, trying to get you to stay subscribed to tinder.

General_Prompt_9984 · 2026-01-03T22:01:51+00:00

Thats really normal. That age girls think some prince will come to get them.

ThrowRA_fajsdklfas · 2026-01-03T22:02:22+00:00

How old are you?

At that age they’re barely adults.

Chances are they don’t even know what they want.

OneMonk · 2026-01-04T00:21:34+00:00

Attention, and the small regular dopamine hits that come with matches and knowing those matches are real (one message).

The incentive of tinder is to keep you on the platform and make money, not actually match you with people serious about dating or who might be a good fit for you on any conceivable metric other than (arguably) proximity.

midnightauto · 2026-01-04T00:40:37+00:00

Money

professionalfumblr · 2026-01-04T01:16:19+00:00

First mistake: using online dating

DaLonelyOne1 · 2026-01-03T22:05:33+00:00

Besides attention and validation??? Also in their defense I would imagine their inboxes are full AF. They couldn't get the time to answer your message if they tried lol

Current-Paramedic-50 · 2026-01-03T22:37:47+00:00

This, but across all age groups on all apps.

CrimsonBlackRonin · 2026-01-03T22:01:11+00:00

Money probably

Necessary-Hyena-5816 · 2026-01-04T00:36:49+00:00

Attention

Luigi-is-my-boi · 2026-01-04T01:32:38+00:00

its called bots to get you to sign up, or renew. I.e. false hope to keep you on the platform. And to either get you to pay or to keep you paying.

lavenderthiefs · 2026-01-03T23:59:54+00:00

Be genuine in your approach. Avoid generic or lazy messages.

ThatDarnSmell · 2026-01-04T01:49:03+00:00

You probably don't know any more than them. That's the most immature group of women.

megacewl · 2026-01-04T06:20:59+00:00

because out of the 300 dms they got, yours wasn’t interesting enough to catch their attention

consider this idea to make things less confusing on if you’re doing something wrong or not: your reply perhaps WAS interesting overall, but not MORE interesting then the rest of the replies they got. thus you didn’t catch their attention

empathetical · 2026-01-03T22:41:28+00:00

break the ice with jokes, comedy and don't be desperate

mikeBE11 · 2026-01-03T23:32:19+00:00

validation and attention. Trust me, friend, it doesn't stop at 20.

iadorebrandon · 2026-01-04T02:00:16+00:00

Attention. They thrive of of that dopamine hit

CheetahConfident4312 · 2026-01-04T02:50:36+00:00

They just want attention dude. No one actually follows up on online dating sites.

eablokker · 2026-01-04T03:50:20+00:00

It doesn’t matter what they want. You think giving them what they want is going to help you? You think love is a transaction? Here I give you what you want, now give me what I want. That’s business.

Give them the emotional states that will drive them to action. It’s not what they want. You don’t want to fall in love with someone, but when it happens you can’t resist it’s pull on you. That’s the power of emotions.

earl_grey_teaplease · 2026-01-04T04:43:51+00:00

Bot accounts. The apps need you to continue to think you’re making headway. They need you to keep using them. They need to keep making money.

puma085 · 2026-01-04T10:11:54+00:00

How about attention and validation? I do not want to be mean, but it is striking that people really take dating apps seriously and think that one swipe means anything. This a low-effort move that does not require any strength. Sounds like op is still young because he gets confused by that.

TransitionNormal1387 · 2026-01-04T19:19:21+00:00

That’s like college freshman maybe sophomores? They’re the most finicky people on the planet. You’re better off just hitting on them in college, assuming you’re the same age as them.

Budget-Kick822 · 2026-01-03T22:25:54+00:00

Your opener/messaging is bad.

washington_breadstix · 2026-01-04T01:23:31+00:00

Attention and/or followers on social media. Hence the thousands of profiles with nothing but an Instagram handle in the bio.

triggerxwarning · 2026-01-04T15:49:42+00:00

How old are you? That’s the real question.

Wean1eHu11 · 2026-01-03T23:09:36+00:00

At that age they don’t know what they want, they’ll just know it when they see it

Title	What do 18-20y.o girls want on tinder? I get matches, one reply then silence. Why?
Author	Scoobydoby
Upvotes	69
Comments	65
Date	January 3, 2026 9:56 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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