I feel like day gaming is not even worth it? Field report

Relevant_Occasion_33 · 2026-01-30T01:48:40+00:00

Honestly, one thing sounds like your conversations aren’t that interesting. Learning about their program and age is just bog standard. If you’re approaching strangers, you really need to make the interactions memorable in just 5-10 minutes before asking for a number. Make jokes, tease a little bit, compliment them or flirt.

WhusssuName4547 · 2026-01-30T01:54:09+00:00

Thats just the game bro, an unwritten rule is to always expect to go 1 for 10 when you go out. Another thing to factor is location along with your playing time. When you’re out and about in places like the mall, keep the convos below 45 seconds to 1 minute. Save the chopping it up for the bars and pubs, places where ppl aren’t necessarily so busy. Gotta know when to get in and get out. And 12 approaches ain’t bad but for 6 hours, that’s damn near rookie numbers unless your local mall is small ash. You ain’t do too bad tho, keep it up.

Western-Month-3877 · 2026-01-30T02:01:02+00:00

No rapport building. The convos are all basic stuff, interview-style questions. But I gave you credit for doing it. You’re ahead of majority of guys out there.

Budget-Kick822 · 2026-01-30T02:10:49+00:00

Your approach is bland. Asking what a girl is studying is bad, boring conversation. You need to create a narrative about why you're interested in her and why she should be interested in you. And why you should keep spending time together. You ask for a number to sort out the logistics. If you do this properly, often the girl will be the one offering you her number/socials without you asking. Think about how much less flaky a number is if you do this.

Why are you only approaching girls that give you IOI's? A completely failed approach lasts like 2 minutes at most. Think about how many approaches you could have done if you weren't waiting for IOI's?

Reasons why day game is good:

Gives you access to any woman you see while just living your life.

Gives you access to hot girls who may not be on dating apps

Gives you access to girls who don't go to night game venues

Daytime approaches are still relatively rare and novel, executing one well adds perceived value to you in the girl's eyes. Girl's love the idea of a meet cute. This can let you shoot above your "league"

Gives you access to a massive number of girls. Doing day game lets you get a massive volume of practice in. Which improves your game in other areas if you are practicing effectively.

Thebadmamajama · 2026-01-30T14:02:08+00:00

Two things.

You're opening calling them beautiful which sounds like a complement but puts them on guard. Rule 1: treat them like you treat a guy friend... You can do complements after you convince them you're safe.

Second, to build rapport you need to (a) get them to talk more about themselves and show more empathy (physics sounds hard, late nights studying?). and maybe some humor in reaction (me studying physics would be a disaster.. insert self deprecating statement here)

Your typical conversation sounds very transactional... Mostly information extraction. And then go in for a phone number directly which is also aggressive. You need to generate emotions within them...

I'm not saying the odds will be much better,, but you need them to feel good about themselves talking to you so you can genuinely say"I'd love to continue this conversation another time over coffee or a boba" so the exchange of contact info is more purposeful.

Hope this helps

warbloggled · 2026-01-30T10:27:55+00:00

Your game could be more efficient. You have too much empty fluff and free qualifiers. In other words, you’re too easy. Listen to how you just offer up your time and attention.

Which makes the girls feel like you are common, so they’re fine passing you up today, thinking they could pull someone like you anytime they might want to.

Get it?

Liminal-Intrigue · 2026-01-30T13:19:26+00:00

Leave them your number and see if any of them reach out to you after they've thought about your encounter a little bit. I bet that first resistance is a reflex for many of them.

epimpstyle · 2026-01-30T13:51:59+00:00

It’s interesting that nobody even considers that this kind of opener is basically a lottery, high risk - high reward. It’s not a normal way to start a conversation with someone, it’s more like a probe that says, ‘I like you, want some dick?’ It’s not normal at all. Leave that boldness and those direct openers for YouTube videos, you don’t have anything to prove to anyone. Be more creative. Let your intention show after 1–2 minutes, that delay works wonders.

1 start indirectly ---> 2 watch her reaction ---> 3 continue (if you see interest otherwise simply leave) ---> 4 transition to the real reason you approached her (a transition for man-to-woman conversation)

What do you gain with this? Experience. Talking to someone for 1–2 minutes is a victory compared to a 10‑second interaction that ends immediately.

Do 11/12 of these girls actually have a boyfriend?

Probably, yes but the point is that if you start off that direct and with that much pressure, you should expect a response that’s just as direct, because she needs to reduce the pressure you put on her.

scienceofselfhelp · 2026-01-31T01:45:06+00:00

To be blunt, this isn't even game.

I would go study the classic methods first.

Try to see all of this from her shoes.

You're giving her a complement on something she's probably always been complimented on. At best it means nothing, at worst you come across as a creep. If you're going to use a complement, especially as an opener, genuinely compliment her style or her energy or something that's not purely physical. Try out using some sort of situational or opinion opener and leave the complement for later once you kind've get to know something more about her.

Get a little deeper - what got her into psychology? What's her worst/fav class this semester? Is she a part of any school clubs or organizations? You want to build some sort of connection. Actually be curious.

Have some sort of time bridge that's not just coffee. Do you do anything regularly that's interesting? If so, invite her to it, and if it's low stakes, even better. If it's low stakes with a group of other friends that's good too. If you don't do anything, then build that first.

Give her a nickname as you playfully flirt with her. You describe this convo as a "regular flirting conversation" but I see no flirting here at all. This appears, in the way you wrote it, as the driest conversation ever - and I acknowledge I might be wrong because there's a lot of nonverbal stuff that might've been happening.

You did some some kino I guess, but I'd go further with it, like palm reading or twirl or or a nail inspection or something, but only if you feel she's open to it. The hand test isn't meant to just be kino, it's meant to gauge her interest. You seem to really emphasize this hand shake palm up thing that you do, which I don't really get.

I feel like the art of the approach has been completely lost. And that's understandable given how online everyone is and the terrible videos online shilling this direct "method". There's a lot more than can go into a solid approach. But if done well your numbers should be a lot higher. I think you might be leaning too heavily into your looks and be too, for lack of a better word, forward leaning in energy.

You have to think from her point of view - what makes you interesting or intriguing or stand out from all all the other guys? How connected are you two and is it enough to stay alive through the time gap between your interaction and when you text her/go on a date? But at the same time you're vetting her too. You'd be surprised how, with actual techniques, you can get in deep even with a short interaction.

You do mention in the comments that you're doing direct game, but understand that if you do that it's more than likely going to just be a numbers game.

WoofPaw123 · 2026-01-30T01:52:26+00:00

I find it surprising that 10/12 of those girls would tell you they had a boyfriend. I feel like most of Gen Z doesn't even date much, if at all. I'd bet that 80% of Gen Z are actually single.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-01-30T02:37:23+00:00

When i started, I was much worse, here are my stats

Just believe in the process. Once you hit the intermediate phase (usually 1 year) you wont believe what type of superpower this is: to go out and reliably expect to get laid

PageLeast8629 · 2026-01-30T05:07:53+00:00

Honestly I think u shouldn't keeping the score. And 1/12 isn’t bad for day game at all, it’s normal. Eye contact is different from availability. The real leak is probably the flow or transition to the ask. Curious how you asked for the number and when.

ghrinz · 2026-01-30T04:05:22+00:00

Some days, you don’t get any leads, some days you get many. Once you have their contact, try text game

senator_chill · 2026-01-30T06:51:23+00:00

, XXL

real_belisarius_533 · 2026-01-30T08:18:51+00:00

Hey bro you got a number ,not a complete waste of time .

lolman1312 · 2026-01-30T14:54:30+00:00

you've already good advice regarding conversation starting but 12 people is not even close to enough interactions in 6 HOURS. at my uni campus or just in the heart of the city, i used to approach 20+ girls in an hour. genuinely. if there was an attractive girl that didn't seem busy or in a bad mood, and wasn't in close enough proximity to see me talk to the previous girl, i would go up to her. don't even think about it, just go straight in.

Only_Ad8049 · 2026-01-30T16:27:01+00:00

1 out of 12 is good. Girls making eye contact and smiling is kind of normal though. Especially in some university towns.

Plus, you're kind of early. Around February 10th is prime season.

illusive-man-00 · 2026-01-30T20:44:10+00:00

What’s your height?

Is your face above average!

VisionsOfVisions · 2026-01-31T03:42:44+00:00

Do 11/12 of these girls actually have a boyfriend?

No, that's the most effective shutdown phrase that exist. Learn how to intrigue these 11 girls and your success rate will go up.

AdmiralAdama99 · 2026-01-31T21:33:52+00:00

I think you're number closing too soon. Try making more of a connection with people first. Maybe even set a 5 or 10 minute timer to help elongate your sets.

Also when you go for the number close, try not mentioning going out again. It might feel like you are asking her to commit to going out for an hour but she's only talked to you for one minute. Instead have a frame that the texting will be casual chatting and you'll see where things go

ArjunVermaReddit · 2026-01-31T21:45:59+00:00

You asked for the coffee too early. Yes your conversation wasnt great but thats ok, you're young and the nervousness can be cute. You gotta talk for 5 to 10 minutes minimum before you go for the number. She doesnt know you, shes not gonna go out with you.

One big tip Id give is to try and avoid saying 'Hey I saw you from over there' that shit is really copy pasted and they know, and its also low value because it literally adds nothing in terms of chemistry

Dynamix86 · 2026-02-01T12:06:17+00:00

Logical conversation doesn’t work. You need to spike their emotions. Humor works best for this. And if you can qualify them, even better

EmbarrassedTruck2101 · 2026-02-01T14:02:45+00:00

Closing skills need to be improved

Frequent-Pension-583 · 2026-02-03T05:20:17+00:00

Now reenact this as a 40 year old man…

RoutineNet4283 · 2026-04-25T18:44:52+00:00

Are you still doing day game? I am in NYC and beginner would want to do daygame

Otherwise_Scar_4831 · 2026-01-30T07:01:59+00:00

If that is your normal interaction then you’re opening up very direct followed by interviewer mode. Going in direct isn’t necessarily a bad thing if that’s what works for you and you’re comfortable with. Try adding in some teases or cold reads. Instead of asking her her major guess what it is. Or once she tells you what her major is tease her about it.

IamRocksteady · 2026-01-30T10:22:08+00:00

Until you haven't done several hundred approaches and constantly tried to improve and learn from each interaction, you don't really have enough data to make any judgments on whether if it's worth it or not.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2026-01-30T11:03:48+00:00

A lot of them just say that

You gotta pry a little further and say "what's his name?"

Or ask "are you in a serious relationship with him?"

It's a shit test that you need to pass.

If your confident you shouldn't have any problems passing them.

Ask for her number or ask to get a drink at a nearby place.

Jabss93 · 2026-01-30T03:26:53+00:00

I did it too last time. Its not worth it bro. Its better to focus on yourselves, going to the gym, build your business / careers.

But it takes sometimes to learn. But it just makes your life so so much better n easier.

I feel like day gaming is not even worth it? Field report

Comments

1 Never tell a woman she's beautiful at the beginning. Demonstrate your interest; don't verbalize it.

2 Observational statements to get the conversation going -- while you do other stuff with her.

3 Boyfriends don't matter. Sometimes they're real, but even then you should be inviting her to do something with you next. That's why you're asking for the number--to keep in touch for the next thing.

Title	I feel like day gaming is not even worth it? Field report
Author	KeithBanters
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Date	January 30, 2026 1:43 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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