Why the hell should a guy nowadays consider marriage?

UWontHearMeAnyway · 2026-03-05T23:10:53+00:00

I really wish it were otherwise, but a man shouldn't. Not until laws and court practices change to be more equal.

lenaphobic · 2026-03-06T01:01:38+00:00

Going through a divorce right now. You tie down assets, make promises, plan to spend your life together and vow to never leave… and that usually means absolutely nothing when the wife is packing her bags and planning her next relationship or stage in life.

Men almost always get screwed, even in amicable divorces. Never assume the woman you love now is going to be that same person in 5, 10 or even 20 years from now.

Evening_History_1458 · 2026-03-05T23:01:42+00:00

It’s too late for me but please no marriage without an iron clad prenup

One_Dey · 2026-03-05T23:43:30+00:00

Y’all are living in la la land. Even ironclad prenups get wrecked in court- there’s no such thing.

There’s no benefit for a man to get married. It’s all risk.

SidewaysGiraffe · 2026-03-05T23:24:37+00:00

Tax benefits and immigration dodges, mostly.

herp225577 · 2026-03-06T01:53:14+00:00

I don't see any good reason. I was stupid enough to do it twice. Never again. Learn from my mistakes!

Wolverine-Explores · 2026-03-06T00:49:43+00:00

Only reason I’d do it is for a visa.

Yamariv1 · 2026-03-06T02:03:13+00:00

You shouldn't...

DesertCool500 · 2026-03-05T23:47:05+00:00

Because they are delusional and frankly stupid!

I only give a pass to men that got married before 2015. Anyone marrying after that deserves whatever marriage BS comes their way!

Broad-Choice-5961 · 2026-03-06T08:14:45+00:00

I see NO benefit for men to marry women in today's world. Upon divorce, she makes more money than him, she takes the kids, she keeps the house for now at least. He gets fucked and is tapped for child support, alimony, doesn't get to see his kids near enough and his support payments pay for her new boyfriend. I feel sorry for young guys today. I get losing oneself on the net, on the phone. Don't need women for sex anymore. Companionship? What's that.

Dudequality · 2026-03-06T02:48:08+00:00

There are legal benefits, but in any situation where divorce laws are gendered, I think the risks outweigh the benefits

HansDevX · 2026-03-06T15:26:13+00:00

Nope. A man should never get married.

cpoyntonc · 2026-03-06T23:23:37+00:00

Unless a woman is crazy for you over many years (demonstrates almost unwavering physical desire for you, emotional desire to engage with you and unbridled loyalty) then she does not deserve the ring

Almost always only the friend or the fwb that makes you feel the right way. The relationship turns an avalanche and the marriage is the ultimate plunge into madness

Almost always the more you give yourself away the more they take away. Like their huge growth in comfort/safety afforded by different stages of relationship is synonymous with the stages of your huge hollowing out to an empty husk

All the socialisation and romantic media propaganda forces men into servitude. We need to break the chains and function as human beings again. We need to sense the signs, not accept toxic behaviour and dump at the drop of a hat. No our job is not to appeal to her (that is media and family crap gargle speaking). Our job is to be real, blunt and our authentic selves. If you need a model look at how women often do it and adopt into your frame

If we're not being completely objective about the situation then we need to empty the bs from our heads lest we're not equipped to deal with relationships let alone marriage

Gstarfan · 2026-03-06T03:59:54+00:00

Pro tip never live with your gf. It's tempting but don't do it.

PsyStarrk00 · 2026-03-06T04:16:34+00:00

You shouldn't

ColorMonochrome · 2026-03-06T01:20:51+00:00

This is a real tough one. Until laws change regarding alimony and spousal support I really don’t think guys should marry. The laws are truly broken. I see all the time, especially where male celebrities and athletes are concerned for example, a court ordering the man to pay insane amounts of money each month to the ex-wife in perpetuity.

Well dumbass judge, celebrities don’t earn massive amounts of money in perpetuity. Just like athletes, which is a much more obvious situation, they have a very limited lifespan, sometimes just a few years and then it is all downhill. Sometimes within the span of a year a celebrity is finished.

So now this celebrity who made great money for a short period of time has to pay his ex-wife $100,000/month forever. The system is absolutely fucked and punishes men. If you get married, I don’t care how poor you are, you had better get a prenuptial agreement signed before you marry and update it as you go along.

Salty-Big-9661 · 2026-03-05T22:59:39+00:00

It may be an unpopular opinion, but I strongly feel that normalising divorce has some inevitable consequences for the idea of marriage.

When divorce isn't normalised (i.e. it's a rare not-really socially acceptable deviation) you can assume you'll be with your spouse forever. This isn't always true but you can reasonably assume that. It allows you to comfortable buy gifts for the other party, pay on dates or run the household. You can do such things since you're both the team and you have the common interest.

When divorce is normalised (i.e. it's common and socially acceptable) you can't assume you'll be with your spouse forever. You need to consider the possibility that the other party may leave whenever they feel like it. Thus you start thinking about your own interest. You can't comfortable buy her gifts or pay for her on dates as she can leave anytime. You can't comfortable run the household while he's at work since the household can end at any moment. You can do such things only if you get a benefit in exchange. Otherwise, it feels like exploitation.

Of course, it's true that seeing divorce as a serious "sin" has some negative consequences too. Not wanting to divorce even if you're in a harmful relationship is parhaps the most obvious one. Having said that, I mighy have poor imagination but I really can't imagine how you can think more about the common interest rather than about your own one without the promise of a lifelong marriage.

In other words, in something temporary we think about our own money and time not about the common interest, do we?

2cats2hats · 2026-03-05T23:30:18+00:00

Why the hell should a guy nowadays consider marriage?

If offspring is involved marriage is beneficial to both parties. I knew of deadbeat unmarried parents who dodged support payments. Some parts of the world taxes and insurance are cheaper, because you're married.

Comprehensive_Baby53 · 2026-03-06T00:30:17+00:00

Traditional marriages with women who had good healthy parents that weren't radicalized by the feminist movements of the last couple of decades are still possible. Few and far between but I somehow found one and we have a great marriage, she's stay at home mom, I'm the primary bread winner...The nuclear family strategy works.

CauliflowerBig3133 · 2026-03-06T01:27:13+00:00

Marriage not even once

ihih_reddit · 2026-03-06T04:24:12+00:00

If he has/wants kids it makes sense. But other than that, I don't see any reason

Centaur_Warchief123 · 2026-03-06T08:43:02+00:00

I have a car, a house, free time and energy to myself and my hobbies, I would have none of them if I married. Sadly I am Asian so my parents are pressuring me to marry, I ask them, why would I? I have yet to receive an answer other than “Establish a family.” What family? Women just take your shit and leave at the slightest inconvenience.

Any man who marries deserves everything coming for them tbh, stop being stupid.

Imvrasos · 2026-03-06T12:54:28+00:00

The very notion of marriage got corrupted when the state got involved and degraded it into a contract, where the financially weaker party is massively rewarded from just walking away.

For the religious among us, you can always get married without involving the state; for all, the benefits of marriage can be enjoyed without signing a tremendously one sided and unfair state sponsored contract.

Specifically for the West, and especially for countries where prenups aren't even legally binding, marriage is effectively an intelligence test for men.

UltramanGinga · 2026-03-07T11:36:05+00:00

Alot of Women are emotional financial risks...do not ever get married. Be in a relationship but if she starts that bullshit where she feels like shes entitled of you owing something to her for being in a relationship with her...its time to chuck it. Do notclet these things turn into emotional investments. Always plan the back door way out physically and emotionally. Never tell her youre saving money. Its nobody's busniess becuase she could try and take that too.

MinuteCampaign7843 · 2026-03-06T06:14:54+00:00

No reason at all to get married. The woman has all the benefits. We have all the risks. Better to enjoy your life without a ball and chain. If you want some fun, you can rent them no strings attached.

NathanJesus · 2026-03-06T14:49:18+00:00

If you are from a highly conservative church/denomination that still holds women accountable.

No_Issue4598 · 2026-03-06T14:39:31+00:00

I already got screwed by the child support system and saw how they treat men. Now I don't want to get married.

2026-03-06T20:33:37+00:00

Truthfully for tax and other legal benefits. It’s not a great deal straight up, and not a decision that can be made lightly

siddsp · 2026-03-05T23:35:46+00:00

If you found someone you thought was the right person, none of this would matter.

yoursenpaii666 · 2026-03-06T01:30:16+00:00

to answer your question- for having companionship.

zamkiam · 2026-03-06T01:23:25+00:00

if she’s pregnant with his children its better to stabilize that situation that to not

krackedy · 2026-03-05T22:41:14+00:00

I got married because our lives were already financially intertwined anyway. We lived together, were buying a house together, had kids together.

Marriage didn't make anything more expensive.

Clippy4Life · 2026-03-05T23:59:24+00:00

I only married because I told God for him I would do so. If not for that faith, I would not have married. So far it seems to be going well. I see so many cases where things have not gone well and I'm constantly trying to force these possibilities out of my mind least I end up causing the very thing I'm trying to avoid.

Logically I cannot provide any arguments to tell a man he should marry. There simply isn't a reason for a man to marry right now except for God himself. Only downsides, literally no upsides or benefits. That tax break means nothing if things go badly. How many suicides by men does it take to tell the next generation of men to STAY AWAY from the current deal? Apparently more than we have already. But in my opinion, marriage under the government is just another thing for the governments to try to manipulate.

NotUsedUsernameYet · 2026-03-06T00:33:54+00:00

Because some men genuinely want to be fathers. And finding a woman who would give birth to your child without marriage is extremely difficult, especially when you consider other requirements for mother of your children.

To avoid “paying for the woman” marry someone who is in the same tax bracket as you.

Soulful_Sadist · 2026-03-05T23:54:29+00:00

Only a marriage that is mutually grounded in the sacred (Covenant Marriage anchored in religious/Biblical faith) has a chance of surviving. Yet, even as I say that, it's not lost on Me that even there it's still a gamble.

As always, being always prepared to walk away if things go sideways, always secure in your own ability to sustain a life for yourself and any offspring that are actually allowed (oh so benevolently by said woman in question) to be brought into the world. If you're a Man of some degree of wealth and upward mobility, a business owner/operator, etc., etc... you best go into it with a solid prenup already scribed by a lawyer and ready to be tailored to the relationship in the moment. Always be up front from the beginning with the girl about it, too. If she has a problem and walks away, she likely did you a favor.

Cloxxki · 2026-03-06T01:37:20+00:00

We are looking at corner cases on the cusp of impossibility. Young, lives with parents, never dated. Virtues, character, personality, mindset. Then, marriage can be safe enough with prenup. If her head is screwed on right, she won't demand marriage though, knowing what that means, basically your husband being a dumbass and risking all for fresh pssy. Even with fresh pssy, such a stretch to make it seem a decent plan. Might as well avoid it.

Yitastics · 2026-03-06T01:20:35+00:00

If I marry, and that is a big if, i'll write a really good prenup to make sure I will not lose my wealth if she decides to break up or be a horrible wife. The only thing I see as a positive by marrying is my wife getting my last name, which I see as something very important and a big act of love.

OffTheRedSand · 2026-03-05T22:56:06+00:00

you end up in divorce in a majority of cases and can pay for the woman the rest of your life basically.

this is only true if your wife is a SAHM or in rarer cases wife.

don't marry a non-working woman and if she stop working break up or don't marry her.

SpicyTunahRoll · 2026-03-06T03:38:32+00:00

Who are you? Al Bundy?

Kidscribble · 2026-03-06T05:43:15+00:00

Because people are not doomers like the people on this subreddit. They actually have love and hope in life and touch grass on the daily. Seriously. I understand the risks and government involvement is bizarre but like is it so crazy to imagine people just love each other? They want to show their love to each other and the world by taking a step like that?

Title	Why the hell should a guy nowadays consider marriage?
Author	Final-Psychology2809
Upvotes	216
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Date	March 5, 2026 10:31 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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