Financial slavery

Particular_Car7127 · 2026-03-21T14:49:43+00:00

Start lowering your standard of living, they can only take what you provide.

951life · 2026-03-17T19:24:59+00:00

Canadian here (Ontario). Maybe your province is different, but here spousal support is tax deductible for you, and taxable for her. Support amounts can also be recalculated if your (or her) income changes in the future. It might be slightly less bad than you think.

If she will accept a buyout that might be a good option. But it has risks as well, like if she takes the buyout then you lose your job and have a lower income, you lose the ability to renegotiate. In my case I went with the buyout anyway which she accepted, so I'll only have to pay child support moving forward.

RCougar · 2026-03-17T15:05:15+00:00

Your country is broken. Leave and find success elsewhere. Preferably where Canada can’t come after your income.

mrweatherdude · 2026-03-17T15:04:30+00:00

Thailand.

Terrible-Award393 · 2026-03-17T14:21:50+00:00

I pay my ex 75% of my net salary each month ($7600/mo). The legal system is dramatically skewed to favor the woman who didn't work. And since the law changed a couple years ago, I can't deduct any of this. So 40% of my salary gets taken for taxes, THEN I pay her, and she doesn't have to pay tax on it. It's utterly absurd.

You can have income imputed on her but will need to prove she can work. Did she have a previous job and elect to stop working? Basically, can you prove she can make $X a year? Otherwise they only impute minimum wage.

In the 5 years since we divorced, she's done a whole lot of jack shit to improve her situation. She works a job as a receptionist at the kids school for $23k/yr so she can be around them 24/7 and continue to be the helicopter mom that she's always been. And I can't do a damn thing about it. The brightside is I only have 2 years of alimony left - then all she gets is child support. Entitled losers like these people should suffer endlessly until the end of time, if you ask me. Leeches.

Substantial-Run3367 · 2026-03-17T13:15:34+00:00

I was in a similar situation. Not as bad but similar. I ended up buying my ex out with all of the equity in the house that she never contributed a dime to... Best of luck.

Il_Valentino · 2026-03-17T10:54:15+00:00

Over 20 years married, maybe 5-7 good years. I was just told I have to support my spouse (that I want to separate from) to the tune of 60-70% of my take home pay per month. How is that even legal?

what the actual fck?

Cheap_Perception9233 · 2026-03-17T09:40:01+00:00

Leave Canada. Just move to another country. Makes no sense.

dpatron · 2026-03-17T04:39:30+00:00

Here's my advice when a man is faced with financial devastation. If you know you are done be done. Drag it out and make her initiate the lawyer. Hell if Canada fucks you that bad what is the point of paying a lawyer? Stay away from her and stash some cash. Maybe you can survive 2 more years and sneek 20k. Its a long shot but I feel for you man the deck is stacked on you. Avoid and stash to survive another day if that is possible??

upvotersfortruth · 2026-03-17T04:12:36+00:00

I didn’t agree to her not working, she just refused to go back when she stopped working 15 years ago.

This is a difficult situation.

47omek · 2026-03-17T04:09:36+00:00

Alimony and the ridiculous "child support" (read: mommy support) awards that are far beyond the basic needs of the child are just the modern form of indentured servitude that is somehow legal, as long as it's only men paying it. Every woman getting these ridiculous payouts should be required to work - in a real job - AT LEAST as many hours per week as the men paying before they receive a dime.

Redditneckbeardzz · 2026-03-17T02:12:03+00:00

Man Canada seems like a terrible place to live

EvalCrux · 2026-03-17T00:57:49+00:00

My corporate wannabe boss man wife turned into a SAHM part time worker: to juice child support including daycare 50+% of my take home. I take issue with the court, and have only been paying half. Let them destroy me can’t be much worse. She talks like the kids are hers not mine, and with silver bullet false police reports, she’s supposed to make bank over it. I don’t think so.

Family court is not legal. PSA

Majorpia · 2026-03-17T00:53:13+00:00

Thanks guys. It’s me that wants out. I’m done with the volatility. Worse than crypto. My peace is worth more than constantly moving goalposts and daily disrespect.

Leaving the country has actually crossed my mind. I’m thinking about giving her the equity in the home I paid for and did all the work on. It’s hundreds of thousands of dollars in equity but I still don’t know if it will be enough.

mesi130 · 2026-03-17T00:29:42+00:00

That’s why lots of people stay married it’s to expensive to get divorced. I don’t get life time alimony crap.

OkJaguar5013 · 2026-03-17T00:28:37+00:00

Did she just drop the news on you? Man… I’m sorry brother. I’m here to learn as well. These fucking broads man… sorry you gotta deal with this

ehzog · 2026-03-16T23:34:59+00:00

Fellow Canadian here, there’s ways around it! Think outside the box. Get radical. You’re already on the “other side” of life. No time left to waste!

BloodstainedBearRug · 2026-03-16T23:27:16+00:00

I’d get the fuck out of canadia

Queasy-Bid4796 · 2026-03-16T23:25:32+00:00

St Lucia passport -> anywhere else

JayRock1970 · 2026-03-16T22:43:12+00:00

Ouch bro, horrible situation. Sorry don't have advice but heart goes out.

james-ransom · 2026-03-17T03:55:29+00:00

DO not do this:

Go to your nearest embassy say you booked a trip to the philippines and you need it expidited. You might be able to get an extra passport (then you have 2). Go to your bank get all the cash they allow you to, go to all atms, get cash out of all credit cards, buy large gold necklaces in cash, most your neck will hold (long story, tsa must let you through + legally its hard to get ahold of something worn). Buy bitcoin, transfer the coins to your own wallet, put this on a public place encrypted. Marry someone. Get a new citizenship. Rejoin the west as a free man.

Title	Financial slavery
Author	Majorpia
Upvotes	31
Comments	35
Date	March 16, 2026 10:29 PM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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