You guys were right, you always are

Ok-Cause1108 · 2026-04-12T20:11:38+00:00

Yep once you stop loving them then what happens to them means nothing to you. You won't care if they win Powerball or if they are living in a cardboard box on the street. This is how you know you have moved on.

If you continue to be bitter and wish bad things on your ex you still very much love them. Indifference is the goal.

kingrobin · 2026-04-06T15:51:07+00:00

I don't really understand how y'all can have kids with someone and pray for their downfall. There's no situation where that will lead to your kids having better lives. Hate the ex all you want, but my kids come before my pettiness every day of the week. What's better for them is better for me.

Freeman2be · 2026-04-06T15:42:22+00:00

Great post and sage advice.

resentmentisunhealth · 2026-04-06T12:13:40+00:00

Its different with children. My ex and I had none. So she is really out my life. I never see her, she is no longer my problem.

Plastic_Efficiency35 · 2026-04-06T11:34:49+00:00

Things happened and has happened for a reason. Reasons we don’t understand- especially after you were loyal to the marriage- and especially when you have children.
God / the universe always has away of healing you and protecting you.

Anger and grief are normal feelings for us. Being betrayed……lost everything- hope,family etc.

The hardest part of the betrayed- is moving forward. Part of us still want to understand. To heal- in so many words.

I stopped “hating my ex”. Yes,karma is a biatch….thats her journey now. I love my ex more today- 1 year after the divorce. Why? No matter how I see it- she is still the mother of my children. For that- I am blessed. I am grateful.

My journey is mine now. Ex - will be hers.
Yes,I am still reeling from the divorce. But I can breathe. I am here because of the children.
When you fill your mind with love- and so much love- it overflows.
That’s when you attract- all the positivity- blessings from God/Universe.

Wish you the best

upvotersfortruth · 2026-04-06T00:31:21+00:00

“Sad but true” is our official theme song

Last-Researcher8796 · 2026-04-05T22:06:32+00:00

Having seen these sorts get their comeuppance i have noticed they never take ownership for their downfall anyway...it's either arrogance or sheer stupidity.

Docautrisim2 · 2026-04-05T20:28:08+00:00

The goal for an ex is to nothing her. You don’t care if she is hit by a bus, you don’t care if she hits the lottery. Her success or failure makes no difference to you. She is a stranger now. Just a blip on the radar of your past.

CommercialConcern828 · 2026-04-05T20:17:21+00:00

Pretty women usually land on their feet.

Always a man or 5 willing to clean up their mess.

Good for all involved i would say.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-05T20:07:17+00:00

It's been about 6.5 months for me and all I wanted was revenge at first. She is still with her affair partner and making money in her business that I funded to get going. This business that she promised would make it so I didn't have to work as hard in the future.

I care less and less as time passes. She made poor decisions that I always had to deal with our entire relationship. Im sure if anything happens to her I'll be completely moved on by then.

Im still lost and sitting here alone on Easter, scrolling reddit. I don't have many friends and they're all busy with their own lives. I don't feel ready to date. I already know it wouldn't work well. Some days I feel ready but a majority of the time I don't feel ready.

I'm pretty shy and introverted. This didn't effect me much when I was young and attractive. Women used to approach me and put in the work. They thought I was mysterious. I can be outgoing for short periods but get worn out quickly.

Hoping to find a girl similar to myself one day.

laugh3r · 2026-04-05T20:02:49+00:00

I think IF certain events have just transpired and it feels fresh to you, it is quite normal to let your emotions get the best of you. But how long you continue to let those emotions best you is up to you. You shouldn’t beat yourself up for having feelings, but you should understand how to handle those feelings in a healthy way.

In general, turn the other cheek, take the high road, etc. and wish them the best and focus on you and your goals.

I’ve been through some breakups and I’ve seen a couple of women subsequently fall off the proverbial horse. It doesn’t feel good to watch and you just have to be as positive, supportive, and hopeful as you can be while still maintaining some hard boundaries so as not to allow their situation or emotions to affect you.

In other words, if you see that there boat is filling up with water, don’t put their water in your boat just to help them.

nomohydro · 2026-04-05T18:07:29+00:00

I don't wish her ill will in life but I am pissed she betrayed our vows and took my money and then got pissed for not taking more.

Fit-Plenty8777 · 2026-04-05T17:26:49+00:00

That's usually where real peace shows up. When you stop tracking what happens to them and start focusing on what you're building with your kids. Indifference is usually the real closure.

Outside-Jicama-8468 · 2026-04-05T17:15:10+00:00

See, I'm still of the mindset that I hope she does well. I don't want to see her fail.

That being said, I know her and how she is and once the reality sets in and it's all said and done. She will fall flat on her face.

But it doesn't affect me either way.

WhydIJoinRedditAgain · 2026-04-05T15:44:23+00:00

The only thing I want is to see my kids more (we’re still living together now, but post-settlement). Congratulations.

TeddyPSmith · 2026-04-05T15:26:47+00:00

I was just typing into Grok all of the things I wished would happen to her. It’s cheap and I shouldn’t think this way but I’m a damn human being and don’t have to be perfect all the time.

For the record I don’t hope anything BAD bad happens to her. Just that the reality of the life she chose catches up with her

Title	You guys were right, you always are
Author	SadDivorceName
Upvotes	118
Comments	29
Date	April 5, 2026 3:21 PM UTC (3 months ago)
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