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[–]cherryloafFDS Newbie532 points533 points534 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
"Lol daddy issues!" says the scrote that watches porn and would be disappointed if he had a daughter
[–]Hipster-AuroraFDS Newbie194 points195 points196 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Who has massive mommy issues himself that he projects onto his gf
[–]DJSparksalotFDS Newbie44 points45 points46 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Big oof
[–]TigreImpossibileFDS Apprentice17 points18 points19 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Self-awarewolves 🙄
[–]localgirlcultFDS Newbie398 points399 points400 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Men fail as fathers so much that "dad who went out for cigarettes years ago and still hasn't come back" is a FuNnY jOke.
[–]salty_redheadFDS Newbie140 points141 points142 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Jokes are funniest when they’re based in reality.
[–]torabullFDS Newbie100 points101 points102 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Laughing through your own trauma is funniest thing
[–]queenofcabinfever777FDS Newbie23 points24 points25 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How else are you supposed to cope?
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[–]Ms_TillyRuthless Strategist0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
TLDR
[–]snakeeyesninelivesFDS Newbie337 points338 points339 points 3 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link
oh my god how did i not notice that before!!! the kid will idealise the parent they're missing and not notice the parent who's actually raising them and society does that on a larger scale
[–]gigi_chiFDS Newbie100 points101 points102 points 3 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
Why do you think kids idealize the parent that is missing? I can’t understand how the hard working parent who raised the child gets overlooked so much 🙁
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[–]YveisGreyFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think its a case by case scenario because some kids hate their absentee dads which is also harmful to them, and by that I mean harboring all that anger
[–]gigi_chiFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup I can understand this 100%
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Apprentice86 points87 points88 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My cousin does that. He gives his mother a hard time but ignores his father's neglect. She had to raise him, so he made her the heavy, I guess. I dunno. But I see it all the time. Everything is a women's fault.
[–]isthisattractivetomeFDS Newbie68 points69 points70 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Because the one that stays is flesh and bone (often having to do non glamorous parental work like discipline), and the other can be projected on in their absence. Same thing with divorced dad’s who aren’t the primary parent- they get to be fun part time parent.
[–]gigi_chiFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup I get this
[–]smilodon91Throwaway Account51 points52 points53 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Easy... because that hard-working parent is predominantly female, and society still overlooks women in all aspects of life all the time.
[–]SpaceC4seFDS Newbie39 points40 points41 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
only when the child's parent is female. society thinks single dads deserve a billion accolades, even when they barely raise their kids
[–]Pudding5050FDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The bar for people considering somebody to be a good father is so fucking low.
[–]Pudding5050FDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Because it's easier to love a fantasy that behaves exactly how you want in every situation than a real human being that occassionally disappoints you, disapproves, sets boundaries, disagrees with you and is less than perfect. Imaginary daddy who you've got not contact with won't tell you not to fight with your sister, to go to bed, that you can't hang out with friends, won't accidentally treat you unfairly etc etc
[–]FedUpWithEveryoneFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They idealize the failed parent and get mad at the good parent because they know the good parent won't leave them. They can be emotional with a single mom because they're secure in the fact that they love them and won't go (or perhaps they push them away to reinforce the fact they won't leave because they're secretly afraid they will).
They project their anger on the only parent left because they're the only parent left to emotionally respond when closure with the failed parent is impossible. If the child can idealize a father who isn't there and blame the mother they don't have to accept the internalized shame they feel over being unworthy of love.
In their heads it goes like this: If mom made dad leave, it's mom's fault I don't have a father. If I made dad leave there must be something about me that makes me unworthy of love, family, and social connection.
Of course, none of that's true, and you can tell your kids that, but it's one thing to tell a kid or teenager they're worthy of love and it's an entirely different matter whether they accept that or let themselves feel it.
By the way, fuck deadbeat dads.
[–]maznykFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The full time parent has rules and actually parents their child. This makes mom look like the fun police while dear deadbeat dad shows up once a year (after weeks of her begging him) like he’s the king of kings passing out gifts and being focused on all the fun they’ll have that day. They can idealize the absent parent who’s only ever on their best behavior and fun mode that one day they show up, and spend all year yearning for their time and attention.
[–]Adventurous_Rise_307FDS Newbie36 points37 points38 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Not true. I have friends whose dad was in prison their whole life. He tried “having a relationship” once out, but they’re not having it.
Kids aren’t stupid. It might be harder for them when they’re young, but when they get older and can understand better, oh buddy, do they understand and love and appreciate the parent who stuck around and worked damn hard for them.
[–]theshedirewolfFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Kids aren’t stupid whatsoever, but in my experience, dads whisper “fun” taboo things to kids when Mom isn’t listening. A lot of times, it turns out to be grooming, so of course Mom can’t know. I’m enraged at how much I’ve found that men are grooming, raping, and blaming little girls. The moms are even blaming the CHILD DAUGHTERS AND NOT THEIR GROWN FATHERS. Gross monsters. No penis ever for me please. Eww.
[–]nowheyroseFDS Newbie97 points98 points99 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Holy shit!
[–][deleted] 183 points184 points185 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
The first rule of misogyny: it’s always women’s fault.
[–]Newwavesupport3657FDS Newbie75 points76 points77 points 3 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
As someone whose mother should’ve left but stayed I think single mothers deserve nothing but praise. They put their kids before the image. Some women think they’re worthless outside of image and will deny abuse over it. It is sick. It is so sick.
And so many men resent and hate their mothers; notice we never say “mommy issues?” Everyone just shits on abusive mothers but fathers abusing we have to be quiet about.
Even though paternal abuse tends to be sadistic, maternal abuse is often emotionally immature women seeking their kids to re-parent them.
A mother can also become a narcissist due to spousal abuse and she takes it out on her kids.
Men deserve all the flack they get for failing as fathers; being a father can’t be all the damn hard. They should’ve zipped it if they were going to have kids just to abuse them.
I’m jealous of people with fathers who weren’t there; better off without them. They cause so much damage when they are there.
[–]K80L80FDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"And so many men resent and hate their mothers; notice we never say “mommy issues?” Everyone just shits on abusive mothers but fathers abusing we have to be quiet about."
This made me think; there is a bad term for 'mommy issues' but it actually is kind of like the word "simp" now that I think about it, "Mama's boy".
Like why do we have a bad term for a man that loves and respects his mom?
[–]lizyahrightFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
God I've been doing alot of unlearning during this quarantine and this one got me. I never thought of it that way wtf!? All these mind games and gaslighting.
[–]Brown_chick45FDS Newbie21 points22 points23 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]AnnieandFishFDS Newbie48 points49 points50 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well, yes but no. “Daddy issues” cause insecure children, which is great if you want to be a low-effort boyfriend. Single motherhood was antagonized to jump-start adoption as a concept, so children could be signed away from single mothers to more “stable” families. Specifically trafficking children by slandering women isn’t better than creating dysfunction in adults, but it was rooted in a higher likelihood that single parents would be the women who weren’t dying in wars and dangerous jobs, and for profit. It was because of the value women have in bringing life into the world that we weren’t societally-disposable, but the consequence of that would be a campaign to convince at least the US of the dangers of single motherhood (to sell their babies). It’s one of the roots of misogyny here.
Overall: Insulting girls with daddy issues just compounds on already low self-esteem to create weaker women. Dragging single motherhood has deepened misogyny, especially as it pertains to women in the workplace, who can expect an unspoken pay cut for every child. It embedded the notion of motherhood being at odds with professional capabilities through today.
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[–]PasdepromessesFDS Disciple35 points36 points37 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I’d walk away from all of them. Let the men raise these children. If they’re blaming us already, I want to give them something to complain about.
I can be the fun mommy who takes them to Disneyland every year and gives them chips and fizzy drinks in the weekend.
[–]treesbarkFDS Newbie78 points79 points80 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Better yet, don't give a dead beat the chance to get you pregnant. The child is the real victim, as it had no option while both parents had multiple.
[–]PasdepromessesFDS Disciple64 points65 points66 points 3 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
I’m childfree for this reason. But it’s ludicrous that women who want to share custody after a divorce or only want to do weekends get villainized while it’s the default for men.
Edit: I know a lot of divorced men, who only wanted to do the weekends or 2 weekends a month when the kids were little. When they became self sustainable (round the age of 12, high school in my country) they quickly filed for shared custody because that would mean they only had to pay half of the child support.
Edit: a word :D
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[–]PasdepromessesFDS Disciple8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Nope, was just winging it on my phone and the Spanish dictionary was on so it didn't give me autocorrect :D
Edit: thanks for the heads up!
[–]Eva4ever28FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As a single mom with “daddy issues” this shit hit deep. It took me a LONG time to realize this stuff was on the men in my life and not my fault. Having my father leave as a child was soul crushing and it took a long time for me to learn my worth. I was never treated with the respect I deserved because of HIM and ended up having a child with a man that didn’t treat me well. Now I finally love myself the way the men in my life should have and I attract HVM. It’s tough, girls but you deserve better!
[–]travellingtaurus2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I swear, the more I follow this sub, the more I find new ways to be disgusted with society
[–]JesusisKingisLordFDS STRATEGY COACH2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well damn
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It’s pretty insane
[–]chochetecohete1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This hits square in the feels.
Single mums are looked down upon for choosing a bad partner. Kids suffer from having a bad dad. And dads somehow escape any scrutiny at all.
[–]Lopsidedbutinvisible0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Loving this!
On a side note, I loved Maxim for one section women would choose to pose in bikinis and call out their dead beat dads and ex's who didnt pay their child support.
That is how you shame someone. By talking to their peers and target audience. Weaponize your beauty and turn it against the scum. I wish that was less effective than going to court, but that's how most people work.
[–]amalgamation750 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Anything to place the blame on women, I suppose
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