Bluepill marriages that work

cholomite · 2018-07-20T14:12:05+00:00

Some guys just have low standards and think that twice a month duty sex with an uninterested wife is the norm, and society and the media reinforce that. Especially guys who have never seen what a woman is really capable of, they just assume she was always a low sex prude. Feminism has made it so the bar of female behavior is so low, most guys are getting fed turd sandwiches and gobbling it up like its a filet mignon.

mrpjourney · 2018-07-20T14:01:58+00:00

Reading FB? One thing beta/bluepill relationships do very well is paint this awesome picture on social media.... my wife tells me all the time about how bad her friends relationships are... but you wouldn't know it to read their FB page...

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-07-20T14:25:39+00:00

What is the red pill? Truth.

Are these marriages true? Are they getting the sex, the happiness, the LIFE they want? Is the man pedestalizing his wife and she's NOT losing attraction to that? Is the man becoming the best, true version of themselves? Are they leading the family to become the same? Is he getting laid like tile?

All questions to ask. But I can say this. You can't accomplish red pill goals with blue pill behavior.

Chump_No_More · 2018-07-20T18:30:26+00:00

From my observations, there are two parts to a successful marriage.

An alpha man who is confident in his mastery of the world, owns his shit like a boss, and understands the nature of women.
A woman with high self esteem, healthy self worth, strong moral & ethical values, and understands the nature of men.

There needs to be a measure of both.

I take my parents as anecdotal case study.

Papa is as blue-pill invested as they come, but has been a natural alpha all his life. Retired engineer from Boeing, several patents under his name. Respected amateur gunsmith, several local shops sent work his way for repairs and sight mounting. Avid sportsman. Growing up, we spent much of our leisure time hunting and fishing. My fondest memories are of dad taking me and buddies (several from broken homes) into the mountains to 'live off the land' for extended weekends. Mastery of my dad's domain was without question. He would often tell my brother and I that our family was a 'benevolent dictatorship'... and we had no doubt to his veracity. Many more memories of dad sauntering up to mom working in the kitchen, swiveling her around, planting her with a kiss and a swat on the butt, winking at us as he walked away. Mom scolding him halfheartedly with a big smile. Married 62 years and to this day, they still adore each other.

To give you some additional insight, mom & pop are 82yo and last month, pop completely rebuilt his fence (to the board), with mom ferrying boards and he hammered them in. Took them two days.

Mama was born on a modest farm in the south with six siblings, four younger. Her mama died when she was thirteen, the oldest remaining, with the youngest still in diapers. She became 'mama' to them, feeding and caring for them and still managed to graduate high school. She was a den mother for my scout pack for many years. Was not too proud to clean other peoples houses during the big Boeing layoffs of the 70's. Made sure we left in the morning with clean clothes and never scolded us when we came home covered head to toe in mud... just peeled us off and threw us in the tub. My brother and I were as free-ranged as they come... dad insisted on it. She was, and still is, utterly devoted to my dad.

Any blue-pilled man who finds a woman with these essential qualities is a lucky son-of-a-bitch and if he has any measure of alpha and natural frame within him, stands a good chance of holding it together.

Problem is vast majority of men aren't and are completely unaware that, next to prioritizing and working his mission, identifying a wife-worthy woman is the single-most important act of his life. They believe the trope, embrace the fantasy, and either fall into the pit of despair and ruin or find the red pill and spend a significant portion of their remaining time on earth clawing their way out.

A single RP aware man would never fall into that trap. He would embrace abundance, understand his threshold of acceptable risk and either wife-up a woman who brings true value to his life or maintain a soft harem commensurate with his mastery and lust for life. Either way, it would be his game he was playing.

Rian_Stone · 2018-07-20T14:51:27+00:00

People say what they aspire to, not what they have.
People say what they have today, not what will come tomorrow
People lie to look good to the herd
It's just. Like they say, perfect life
Those who sick tend not to be out with friends having this conversation
Dad fuck Strange on the regular he's got. A. Harem, of. Course he's happy

CoachDad9 · 2018-07-20T16:27:36+00:00

Drinking with my buddies one night they asked how often we all get laid. It was 1-2x a week all around, except me. They're totally happy with their wives and think 1-2x a week is great. I'm not going to call them losers just like I wouldn't call a guy making $40k a year who's happy a loser, but it's not for me.

gameoflibidos · 2018-07-20T14:32:26+00:00

No.. it's just the early part of marriage where the wife hasn't realized he's an emotional sponge and co-dependent on her yet.

Once she does, downhill fast.

Reach180 · 2018-07-20T17:30:45+00:00

Dont believe what people tell you about their personal lives. A lot of the people who you think have their finances together, for example, are living paycheck to paycheck and floating by on credit.

Also....lots of guys spew the soulmate thing and are trying to convince themselves, or suck up to their wives. I actually did this for a while...it led to a few months of reciprocal adoration from my wife, followed by a rapid plummet to beta rock bottom.

I cant say for certain it doesnt work for anybody, but the reason most of us are here is related to playing that role to some degree and failing with it.

UEMcGill · 2018-07-20T17:53:20+00:00

The world is a bell curve. They taught a gorilla how to speak sign language but that doesn't mean you can go out in the jungle and tell a Silverback "let's be friends" with your hands.

Its called God in the margins...

SteelToeShitKicker · 2018-07-20T21:43:50+00:00

I went to an Imago relationships workshop some years back. It was all about how to communicate better and how you should unload all of your feelings and upset childhood on your spouse. It was total horseshit, and I think half the couples in that workshop are divorced already.

Towards the end of the course, they brought in a couple who had gone through the course earlier and apparently use the communication methods. The guy looked brow-beaten as fuck and I doubt he ever got much sex, if any at all. Yet, this was the "successful" implementation of the program. No thanks.

I think that "bluepill marriages that work" are perhaps measured using a different yardstick than we use. I don't think the husbands are happy, and I don't think the wives are happy either, but they hold the reins, so they content themselves with that. But, they aren't divorced, so it must be a success!

simbarlion · 2018-07-21T00:22:58+00:00

I've come to realize that a bp relationship for a woman is much like having a dog. Feed it regularly, Pat it once in a while and it will love you forever.

RedPillCoach · 2018-07-21T16:04:42+00:00

They work until the woman loses interest. Women always get bored with betas. Then she becomes prickly and unpleasant. Then she cuts off sex and the beta doesn't even know what hit him and has no tools to deal with the ultimate shit test.

I have seen many happy loving couples who go to church and hold hands who have not had sex in years. They broadcast their happiness in public but it is a.lie.

[deleted] · 2018-07-20T14:50:27+00:00

What's the deal with relationships where the man claims the marriage is amazing, they're soulmates, yet all of it screams beta/bluepill so loud I have to cover my years?

he's religious and his wife is fat. pay men like this no mind

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-07-20T15:50:07+00:00

Could just be an outliner... I have a good friend who is blue pill all the way. But his wife fucks.

Some wives are just dtf.

RandomlyChosenTitle · 2018-07-20T19:10:13+00:00

Short answer is that women aren't the only ones with overactive hamsters

Westernhagen · 2018-07-20T23:38:03+00:00

Those are the same guys who are in the deadbedrooms sub lamenting the fact that their wife hasn't touched them for years.

FireTempered · 2018-07-21T00:28:07+00:00

It is all about who owns your balls. Not much more to it really.

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2018-07-22T19:46:27+00:00

Those marriages aren’t “working”. It’s lack of awareness. They’ve been lying to themselves for so long, they’re drinking their own punch.

justpickanyusername · 2018-07-20T14:01:02+00:00

They don’t work.

straius · 2018-07-20T17:49:00+00:00

Some of them work fine but it doesn't matter because the only thing that matters is what you want. Those men may have different priorities than you so I wouldn't use their definition of success. But yes, some of them work fine. You never know what the man or woman's history was and how that may have formed their priorities or what they value.

But in the end it doesn't matter in so far as it applies to your own situation. There are all sorts of low liklihood arrangements that work out there, whether it's marriage or something else entirely. RP is not the only possible arrangement that works for two people. But it might be the only arrangement YOU would decide works for you. And that's the part that matters

DoctorNini · 2018-07-21T07:43:34+00:00

"These are the types of guys that fully believe open and honest communication will solve anything." Is that what makes a relationship blue pill, in your opinion?

I am married to a RP man, and we are (mostly) open and honest with each other. I would say we are probably more honest than most BP couples I know, as we genuinely reflect on ourselves and the processes and dynamic in the relationship. When one of us messes up, we own up to it to each other. Most BP couples I know will try to explain their own faults away and blame it on their partner, which is basically lying to both themselves and the other. From this experience, I would consider honest communication a more RP quality. Curious to hear what you/others think!

Title	Bluepill marriages that work
Author	AlexGreenleaf
Upvotes	1
Comments	35
Date	July 20, 2018 1:43 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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