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[–]GoosehasthreelegsFDS Newbie170 points171 points172 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I did too! Happiest day of my life after an emotionally and physically abusive six years. :)
[–]moxymoxaloneFDS Newbie92 points93 points94 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Truly, the day my divorce was final was to that point the happiest day of my life.
[–]xYenneferFDS Newbie90 points91 points92 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
This is so important. We don’t live in a utopia where all men are HVM. The majority of them turn out to be lazy, unmannered, misogynistic, sexist, cheating, abusive trash after marriage, and sometimes before. The stigma around divorce is for the MANS BENEFIT ONLY. DIVORCED WOMEN get shamed, but divorced men are perfectly fine! Fuck this logic. Men created this garbage stigma to force women to devote her life caring for the scrote, being his free bangmaid, and raise his kids, while hes putting the LEAST amount of effort into her. Low value men LOVE women who take their abuse, neglect and give up their bodies for him. And of course, he’s secured behind the idea that she will never divorce him because she doesn’t want to be shamed and hated by her family and society! He can put absolutely no effort, and get away with it because the person whos suffers the most from a fucking divorce is the woman! Tell me this is not a fucking misogynistic world!
[–]Proud-PurposeFDS Apprentice16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In absence of material leverage, scrotes always resort to shaming.
[–]vmuzondiFDS Disciple12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
All of this. I saw a scrote talking about how you shouldn’t date a career woman because she’ll divorce you for a chad. They know we have more options when we’re monied and accomplished. That’s why they love putting those women down. They need that fantasy so women can stay dependent on them. I’m glad more women are becoming more accepting of divorce because we’re learning to be happier alone.
[–][deleted] 24 points25 points26 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Plus women get brainwash to want a one and only marriage, so if even you realize you regret the first marriage, you probably less likely want to get married again. Quite honestly I do wonder why I never want to get married again if my first marriage ever fail. But now I wonder why should women ever feel shame if their first marriage or relationship never work out? We need to raise the next generation of women to be okay to ditch their shit boyfriends/husbands because they don't have to tolerate that. It's fuck that women get the bad rep if they keep divorcing but men clearly don't get bad rep like they should.
[–]EmpressOfMyLifeThrowaway Account1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I completely agree with this. My father was married 7 times, my mother was his 3rd wife. Yet, other women didn't care and continued to date him. Granted, he always prayed on vulnerable women, especially from his home country who was desperate to come to America.
But if a woman mentions she was married 7 times, she'd be vilified. Heck, my own mother didn't want to divorce my abusive stepfather because she didn't want to admit to 2 failed marriages.
[–]siberiansummerFDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What about the diVoRCe rApE 😩 /s
[–]apple_coresFDS Newbie[S] 131 points132 points133 points 5 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
I say normalize because in my culture and religion (Christian), divorce is very taboo. I’ve seen countless women stay with their awful husbands because divorce is one of the worst sins to commit. I say enough is enough. People can change after marriage, men can scheme and manipulate you into marrying them. You are not the problem, they are. Divorce. You deserve good things.
[–]ThatOneRedditGirlFDS Newbie41 points42 points43 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Oh my gosh!! This is the reason it’s taken me so long to decide that it’s the only option I can stomach. I’m a Christian and you’d think divorce was the ultimate sin. It’s so infuriating because my husband has spiritual abused me this whole marriage and that was one of the things we agreed to before marriage; no divorce. But of course he’s allowed to abuse me spiritually, sexually, emotionally and psychologically! That’s not condemned apparently. Even if it is, it doesn’t stop him.
[–][deleted] 41 points42 points43 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Not Christian but my culture (south Asian Hindus) it's the same. I remember there was one woman in my parent's extended friend group who had gotten a divorce and people talked behind her back about it all the time. But she ended up getting re-married to a guy she actually loved while all the aunties talking about her are still stuck with their miserable NVMs
[–]PasdepromessesFDS Disciple29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
100% agree.
It’s sad that being divorced is so looked down upon. Imo being disrespected and staying should be seen as ‘not normal’. People who disrespect or abuse their so are the ones who deserve all the shame and disapproval.
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[–]siberiansummerFDS Disciple7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
All religions were made by men to oppress women. God never wanted us to suffer, men did
[–]typeadhdFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Facts
[–]LovedDemonsFDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not a Christian, but the way you put it is so logical. I wish Christian women in particular would wake up and realize this!
[–]degnan1214FDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I say normalize because in my culture and religion (Christian), divorce is very taboo.
That's one of the problems I have. In my particular church, it is taboo, but it depends on the individual congregation. Some are more lenient than others. A married couple (from church) are both divorced because their first spouses cheated on them. Divorcing because of infidelity is acceptable in the Bible. But they still get crap from some church members because they are...divorced! Horror!
I just don't think that can be right, to be permanently tied to a cheater. Or to someone who is beating the crap out of you. Come on, that can't be right.
[–]TokiMarvelFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same in my family’s (my former) sect of Christianity. It was justifiable for my mother to divorce because her husband cheated. The stigma and wretched scarlet letter still haunts her, and only after her ex-spouse dies she is able to remarry. Spoiler: Mom’s not looking to marry anyone ever again.
[–][deleted] 35 points36 points37 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I really needed this because it reminded me of how two months after we separated, he started dating and sleeping around, while I waited a full year to work on myself and decided to go on a few dates.
The shame I was faced with for it being "too early" yet he had zero repercussions for putting in zero effort to see our child, never once tried to prove saving the marriage, sleeping around right away, etc. So I'll be damned. I celebrate that I left. And fuck the divorce shaming that we deal with, as well as the bullshit of "too early to date" or "times a ticking you're not getting any younger".
I'd also like to add that they (NVM/LVM) love to drag out the divorce as long as they can because we are still legally attached to them and likely have their last name over our heads. But again, they get no shame for starting over within a few months, weeks or even days. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. I'll take a slice.
[–]PasdepromessesFDS Disciple40 points41 points42 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Good for them. I would too if I were married to a N/LVM.
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[–]SayNadFDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My half sister is another story. She’s been in an emotionally abusive marriage for decades. Divorce is not an option because “she’s a good Baptist.” So she takes her misery out on everyone else. Her brother and I cut her out of our lives and she still can’t get a clue.
Ugh I am dealing with two such relatives right now. They are rich but one has a shitty husband, while the other is the second wife (we are muslim) and got divorced. They are both rich, while my family is the poorest. So of course they take their misery out on us, come to our house and get mad over the pettiest shit while being all smug about their millions and cars and whatever. And can't get a clue why I hate their fucking pickmeishas' guts. Fuck em.
[–]bonnie_no_shameFDS Newbie30 points31 points32 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think this aesthetic is kind of ironic. It uses the vibe of a prom or an engagement - rites of passages of the beginnings. The execution is overdone, because it tries to go against the stereotype: divorce is failure, it’s the ending, and a divorced women is worthless. The message is divorce is something worth celebration, it’s the new beginning, and the divorced women is free, fresh and autonome.
[–]Adventurous_Rise_307Pickmeisha™️27 points28 points29 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I plan on celebrating mine both when I file then when it’s finalized
[–]GlobalDynamicsEurekaFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly, you can't even be sure after two years who a person is. I don't want to be anyone's forever gf, but I am technically still married to a man I dated for two years. The timeline was right, and it felt like the logical next step. That doesn't mean it should have been. Lesson learned.
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hell yes! Celebrate that!
[–]gothoneybonesFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I LOVE ALL OF THIS! Seriously, divorce SHOULD be celebrated. No good marriage ever ends in divorce. I'm legit planning my divorce party when my ex finally does his part to finish filing.
Got an idea from another post on here to throw a "Nacho Wife" party, totally going to invite all my friends to join me on discord to stream tacky movies while eating nachos. & hell yes I'm going to get a tacky cake for it. 😎
(I'm also debating taking the piss out of engagement/pregnancy announcement photos and hiring a photographer to do a "Newly Single" professional shoot but that might be extra dramatic XD )
[–]warinmymind94FDS Apprentice5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes! We need to start celebrating divorce as it can be freeing and empowering especially when it comes to leaving a manipulate or rapey LVM
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Twice this weekend, I mentioned being divorced to some female acquaintances and they both, individually, went on about the merits of alimony.
I am very secure in who I am and what I stand for, so I didn’t bother to inform them that I didn’t ask for a dime from my ex husband. I made more than he did and left all of my hand picked and self purchased furniture at our old home because it reminded me of him. And I mailed him back his ring (that was a hand me down).
Let them think I’m some kept woman 😂 I have no desire to prove myself to relative strangers.
[–]BlacktontonguetoffeeFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Normalize not marrying shit men just bc you ‘want’ to get married
[–]gigi_chiFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I actually love this concept 😂
[–]basicgirl2022FDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She looks like a queen
[–]MonicaLSolisFDS Disciple1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There should be no stigma around divorce. No two people be forced to stay together for the sake of tradition
[–]ElturtleoFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think divorce parties are a great idea. My mom didn’t have a party but we did go out to eat to celebrate her being divorced for 10 years. We ate our favorite food and made fun of him lol.
[–]KetoKittenAroundFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m a happy divorcée and loving life!!!
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[–]apple_coresFDS Newbie[S] 29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I disagree. Especially if you are breaking away from a completely nvm. She got her freedom, let her celebrate how she wants.
[–]apple_coresFDS Newbie[S] 16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I know. When I say let let her, I don’t mean you are telling her not to, I mean no need for criticizing her ways of expressing her joy. This isn’t a case of her writing paragraphs bashing her ex husband. She’s just celebrating and posting some pics, geez Louise.
[–]PasdepromessesFDS Disciple16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I get where you’re coming from, but I would probably get myself that cake too. And open a bottle of champagne while I’m at it. The only difference is, I wouldn’t put it on any social media.
[–]apple_coresFDS Newbie[S] 10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I probably wouldn’t put it on social media either but I can’t fault her at all for putting this out there. I’m sure she was happier on this day than on her wedding day and wanted to share that.
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[–]apple_coresFDS Newbie[S] 11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Because she wants to. Period. It’s a victory for her. And good for you, that’s your own way of celebrating.
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[–]apple_coresFDS Newbie[S] 10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Why is it trashy and ungracious to celebrate and post picture of your divorce but not of your wedding? Lol. It’s because we associate divorce with failure and negativity. It’s completely high value for her to publicly announce she’s happily divorced. She chose herself and no shame in having a sash and cake made for herself.
[–]CassieGreen85FDS Disciple8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s because we associate divorce with failure and negativity
Especially towards the wife! Regardless if she initiated the divorce or not, the general feeling I get from the public when they find out about a divorce, is wondering what SHE did.
I still remember Jennifer Aniston's divorce with Brad Pitt, people were just going insane, putting ALL the focus on her, pitying her (in a "what an idiot" kinda way), saying she was missing/losing out, etc. I don't even remember Brad Pitt getting a fraction of that scrutiny and criticizing.
[–]vmuzondiFDS Disciple10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don’t understand how celebration links with high value behavior. Is she not allowed to share her happiness? I think this is inspiring for women stuck with LVM/NVM who are afraid to go through a divorce. To me it’s just like celebrating marriage, a new born, graduation, etc. because it signifies a new beginning.
[–]PunnyPrinterPickmeisha™️16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
After I’ve seen what some women get put through before, during, after getting divorced, I won’t judge. There are some terrible situations out there.
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