"We're not going to have sex every day any more."

TheVegetaMonologues · 2014-09-26T02:26:07+00:00

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theoctopuss · 2014-09-16T11:51:56+00:00

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krakosia · 2014-09-16T11:44:18+00:00

Turns out, what she was really saying was "We're not going to have sex every day any more... unless you want to."

my boy's a man... [tears of joy] i'm so proud.

Julian_Berryman · 2014-09-16T12:11:50+00:00

I was fucking livid when she got back. I was waiting outside, ready to get in my car and leave unless she had something good to say. I told her it was rude as fuck to keep me waiting for no reason, and asked why she never bothers thinking of anyone but herself (which is true, even if this situation in particular wasn't that bad). She gave me some excuses, turned the shit around and got mad at me, and then she said she refused to stand outside and argue.

You still have a long way to go, to be honest. Hanging around waiting for her, arguing in the street, again waiting for her in your car etc etc.

You should have left when she took so long to show up. "Where are you?", "Sorry I made other plans" is all that was needed. Act aloof. Your time is precious, isn't it?

Cyralea · 2014-09-16T13:37:45+00:00

She expected me to follow her, as usual. I didn't.

Solid frame control. She's in the wrong, you don't go chasing her like a wounded puppy.

I got in my car, and started making plans to meet up with my coworkers.

Correct course of action. Your time is valuable, act like it.

She says "Why are you doing this to me? I don't want to fight."

I told her if she didn't want to fight, come to my car.

Shit test passed.

She says "Why? What's in your car? My feet hurt and I just laid down."

I didn't text back

And this is where you won. You made a decision, and chose not to enter her frame by not acknowledging her challenge.

You've got a lot of stuff to work on, but you know what you did right and what you didn't. Good FR.

2014-09-16T13:26:41+00:00

this is a girl who, when we started dating, said her ideal would be 3 or 4 times a day

You'll begin to realize that every girl will say this early on but it's up to you to keep her wanting you every day

penhova · 2014-09-16T13:01:30+00:00

Somone willing to give me the explanation that commands are better than giving choices?

Livnontheedge · 2014-09-16T15:18:48+00:00

Everyone starts somewhere... Don't beat the little fella' up for sharing. Constructive criticism is important, but just kicking him in the nuts for coming here and say "I have a BP problem, and I want to be more RP" is, well.... Dumb?

Frozen_Tundra · 2014-09-16T11:42:05+00:00

but mostly because I feel like I'd need to ask for permission to go and I want to avoid an argument.

You need to work on that part for sure.

chainlinks · 2014-09-16T13:12:28+00:00

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pcadrian · 2014-09-16T13:59:40+00:00

started making plans to meet up with my coworkers. Usually I blow them off 100% of the time and hang out with gf at home, partly because I'm not that social but mostly because I feel like I'd need to ask for permission to go and I want to avoid an argument

That's a symptom of a much deeper problem you need to tackle. Like me from 3 years ago, you get all caught up in your relationships that you stop spending time with your friends/coworkers/etc. The way I got over it is by making a conscious effort to NOT do that, i.e to make plans with my friends. It sucked at first, as all I could think about was spending time wiht the gal. The oneitis was bad. But slowly that neediness stopped.

Turns out, what she was really saying was "We're not going to have sex every day any more... unless you want to."

LOL I like that.

2014-09-16T14:24:23+00:00

You guys do realize that something like 1 in 4 people are on adderall at college right?

While it's probably not very healthy, it is common..

GSpotAssassin · 2014-09-18T01:13:16+00:00

Possibly related, but Adderall reduces all drives (sleep, hunger, as well as sex).

suloco · 2014-09-16T11:32:02+00:00

Good job! Now start working on that dependency, that will work proper wonders in LTR.

Modevs · 2014-09-26T02:33:32+00:00

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Whisper · 2014-09-16T21:01:26+00:00

We had sex that night.

And the night after that.

And the next night, and the next night, and the next night.

Turns out, what she was really saying was "We're not going to have sex every day any more... unless you want to."

No.

What she really said was "you're not making me want sex every day, and it's going to stop unless you make me want to".

By standing up to her, you gained her respect, and then she wanted to. Dread game doesn't pressure women into sex. It makes them respect you, which makes them want sex.

WeAreAllSheep · 2014-09-26T06:09:49+00:00

Exposed for a fraud.

subreddit drama ensues

mtersen · 2014-09-16T14:25:22+00:00

Oh god OP, you niave duck..... 1, she is propably fucking someone else. She still has sex 3-4 times a day, just not with you, probably fucking her drug dealer. 2, shes a drug addict, lying is their language, she is probaly lying to you about a lot more than getting wasted when your not around... You are stil very much blue pill, boy.

Necrovir · 2014-09-16T16:48:42+00:00

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Zanford · 2014-09-16T17:57:20+00:00

1st mistake was waiting at her house for her (sounds like you were waiting outside, with no key...big chump move.)

2nd mistake was not leaving after 10 minutes when she was late.

3rd mistake was getting worked up about it.

But after that, looks like you handled it well, and things turned around. Good story; an example of how it's possible to turn things around after some bad moves. (I once did something similar at a girl's place; when she went cold, I started making plans to bounce; she sensed it and asked me to stay and apologized.)

Funny: the answer to the title of this post is the title of the post which, right now, is next to it on this subreddit: "FR: FR: "Why did you dump me?" "Because you wouldn't fuck""

TheGoldenCaulk · 2014-09-16T13:53:24+00:00

my girlfriend told me I shouldn't expect sex every day any more

My response: "HA! Nice try. I'll see you in bed"

23490865243879526487 · 2014-09-16T14:25:19+00:00

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Necrovir · 2014-09-16T14:27:34+00:00

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IllimitableMan · 2014-09-16T11:54:10+00:00

Good story.

But, Adderall and weed? Are you in highschool?

2014-09-17T23:40:12+00:00

She decided to stop off at a friend's house to pick up some adderall, spent 45 minutes there

Hahahahahahahah

No words needed.

Sashi-Mee · 2014-09-16T15:31:39+00:00

Hey man,

First time in this community.

I'm gonna try not to go on a long § on how it's not a question of men or woman who gets to be on top, but about being the best you no matter how many tiny clues you can find to persuade yourself otherwise.

Sex is cool, as long as it's something that makes you feel better.

A stop in sex in relationship usually indicates a dysfunction, and woman tends to reach this measure faster than men because they are usually best served in sex (lets say general fewer insecurities and young generations are really focused on girls pleasure ).

Having say everyday doesn't mean a thing on the long run. It shouldn't be an objective, it just happens when you discover someone new, and fades over time. That's probably why she initiated the slow down. She got bored. A break made it back, cool for you two ! :)

in short :

TL;DR : relationship and sex are two different things. Find your way in both and you'll be the happiest being.

dorseyc123 · 2014-10-04T09:45:25+00:00

I think having sex is not good idea ppl gets tired all the time and some ppl want have sex their wife and husband they get stressed out.

myschadenfreude · 2014-09-16T21:46:32+00:00

Fuck her every day for two weeks straight. Then dump her and never look back. She's messing with you and she knows she can; she's tainted by your self admitted weakness.

After the break up immediately deal with your first paragraph before anything else. Realize all you need is you and the rest is gravy.

Edit: added clarification

ilike2partyhowaboutu · 2014-09-17T01:48:43+00:00

She decided to stop off at a friend's house to pick up some adderall, spent 45 minutes there, and didn't text me until she left even though she knew I was already at her house waiting.

You sure she's not blowing her drug dealer?

2014-09-17T18:28:47+00:00

Never ever EVER say "sorry".

dorseyc123 · 2014-10-04T09:53:48+00:00

A woman loves to be hold and coddle with husband which a movie plus going out special day woman loves that alot not staying home making hot love all the nothing wrong having sex everybody love sex. Even I do girl friends and boys Friday and yes they get horny

bh3244 · 2014-09-16T21:04:33+00:00

your girl doing to a dudes house unsupervised is unacceptable behavior. that would not fly with me.

TheBreadWinner · 2014-09-17T04:47:50+00:00

So youve learned what being a leader does for you.

Dont stop. Dont get complacent again. Life is better when you tell it what direction to take rather than seeing what direction it takes you.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-09-26T07:36:33+00:00

I have a very similar story in my 20+ year marriage. ON OUR HONEYMOON my wife informed me (after YEARS of sex multiple times a day) that: "I don't have to have sex every day."

Dumbass Bluepill me told her: "Of course not dear."

Fast forward through 2 decades of denials, shit tests, games, withdrawal of affection, and sex twice a month- an ovulation and a pity fuck every month like clockwork.

When I unplugged my wife admitted (rather belatedly I think) the proper response would have been: "Fine, you don't have to have sex with me every day- but I need to have sex with YOU every day" (followed by grabbing her, throwing her on the bed and fucking her silly after kissing her mouth shut).

Shit test passed 20 years late.

TLDR:

Women WILL ALWAYS try to cut back the sex in order to seize control of the relationship.
Don't "ask" for sex; TELL her what you are going to do to her body and then do it.
ANY woman who refuses her man is CHEATING on him and is NOT a GF or wife; the response should be complete withdrawal of affection and time until the GF or wife returns- or until you make it permanent and get somebody better.

Necrovir · 2014-09-17T15:00:50+00:00

This is a great story for an admittedly "young" swallower of TRP. I'm married and have been slowly adopting the strategies put forth on this subreddit (and other sites like Heartiste), so this particular line makes it even easier to swallow:

"To be clear, I'm not an asshole, I'll comfort her after a bad day, no matter how upset she is, as long as she doesn't start taking that shit out on me."

Thanks for the reminder -- I have to keep this in mind when my wife has had a bad day and tries to justify a crappy attitude with me.

Masonjarteadrinker2 · 2014-09-16T22:42:46+00:00

My man (Denzel Washington voice)

Philosophic_fellatio · 2014-09-17T02:15:05+00:00

Adderalls an aphrodisiac, also increasing your girlfriends sex drive.

"We're not going to have sex every day any more."

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Title	"We're not going to have sex every day any more."
Author	Necrovir
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Date	September 16, 2014 11:07 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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