Why are some women so comfortable physically abusing guys?

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March 12, 2019

I recently went on a few dates with a girl (20) who got violent towards me the last time we went out. I'm physically fit, 6'0, 190 lbs, and work out regularly.

  • I've already gone no contact with her.

We were heading to a restaurant in her car and she was driving. I was sitting in the passenger seat and conversing with her. I should note that I got a "bossy" vibe from her from the get go, but wasn't expecting her to do this. A Cardi B song came on the playlist and I made a couple of jokes about Cardi B as an artist. This girl proceeded to hit me as hard as she could on my chest repeatedly. I told her to stop and she did, but a few moments later she started hitting me in the neck and jabbing her fingers into my throat.

I've never experienced this before from a woman, so I grabbed her arm and again told her to stop. She thought it was funny and said I needed to just "take it". I looked her dead in the eyes and told her "don't ever hit me again" to show that I wasn't fucking around at that point.

She didn't apologize and just down played the incident. She even got upset that I grabbed her arm to defend myself.

I'm shocked that a chick would do this after only a couple dates. In her mind her behavior was totally fine. I'd be in jail if I did that to her.

Thoughts? Obviously a hard next, but what the hell?

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Title Why are some women so comfortable physically abusing guys?
Author scanfan2022
Upvotes 168
Comments 162
Date 12 March 2019 02:27 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/221621
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/b02c2u/why_are_some_women_so_comfortable_physically/
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[–]Endorsed Contributorleftajar120 points121 points  (20 children) | Copy

Well, the answer is pretty straightforward: they can get away with it.

In some areas, if your woman hits you, and you call the police, they are required by policy to arrest you.

[–]GGrub850 points51 points  (2 children) | Copy

For this reason, should you, as a man, ever be on the receiving end of domestic abuse, the best way to approach the issue is to setup hidden cameras, record various episodes of violence and lawyer up. Never call the police first. They're not on your side.

Words are ammo women use against men. Silence and cold hard facts are our best weapons against them.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon25 points26 points  (1 child) | Copy

the best way to approach the issue is to setup hidden cameras, record various episodes of violence and lawyer up. Never call the police first. They're not on your side.

You don't set up hidden cameras, you just fucking LEAVE.

[–]GGrub87 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

The above is with the assumption the fight is happening in your own house. Most of the time it will. Women are smart enough not to go ballistic in public spaces.

If you leave her in your house during an episode she can injure herself with something with your fingerprints on it and you're royally screwed if you didn't record that.

Do not think for a second you're off the hook if you're leaving the house during an episode. All you're doing is giving her more options to screw you over. Setup those cameras and lawyer up.

[–]LoneWolf0mega9 points10 points  (10 children) | Copy

Where the fuck does it say that ? I don’t want to believe you

[–]etherael16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

Duluth model. Which is incidentally a large part of this puzzle.

In any social setting as any participant at any time, ask the question "why am I being physically attacked" and at the end of the day the answer will always boil down to because the party attacking believes they can get away with it. In the modern day as a man this is a deep multilayered phenomenon, from the starting social promotion of "girl power" and encouraging aggression in women to the promotion of white knighting and submissiveness to women in men, on to the outright demonization of even retaliatory or self defensive violence from men in response to violent women, and then all the way to the actual laws of most western nations that employ the Duluth model, where you will be subject to actual violence from an overwhelming force against you will be physically unable to prevail (as many police as it takes, literally a white knight horde with a license to kill at her constant 24/7 disposal) coupled with long term severe consequences to your quality of life as a result of said event whether through direct physical injury or the financial and legal consequences on the event in question.

The root of this question is why are women risking their personal safety by poking the bear, which assumes that the bear isn't in an enclosure with snipers around it all the time forced to submit to said poking or end up shot. That assumption is incorrect.

Given that frankly it's pretty surprising and to the credit of the quality of women in general the violence is not more common, although it would seem a society with this kind of configuration is pretty much guaranteed to promote those who engage in said violence rather than those who refrain from it longer term. The only winning move for men in that situation is exactly what this guy did. Walk away completely, cut contact and never look back. If a woman physically attacks you in light of all the above, she is either dangerously stupid or utterly psychopathically evil and you should not risk further contact with her.

[–]harry_lawson12 points13 points  (8 children) | Copy

Because the male is considered the aggressor by default in cases of domestic violence.

[–]Foolish_ness4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

He said where, not why.

[–]TFWnoLTR2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You would have to ask a lawyer for the specific states because they vary.

In my state, Michigan, police are required by law to make an arrest when on call to a domestic disturbance. The Duluth model is used as part of training that influences how individual police make judgements while on scene.

I once had to call the police on a violently drunk roommate and was surprised that they weren't allowed to not charge him with domestic violence, even though the officer said to my face that she didn't think it was nessisary to make any arrests. She also explained that they typically arrest the individual who did not make the first call to police and let the courts sort it out later.

It's all fucked up because feminist activists think they know better than police and push policy that actually disincentivises calling the police in a domestic violence situation.

[–]Bascome4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Duluth model is what he is talking about.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

To be fair, he usually is by majority. It's sort of like profiling. What doesn't make sense is YOU are calling the police on HER. This doesn't make sense to me. Why would one call the police if they were the aggressor. It's like calling the police on yourself.

[–]harry_lawson0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

To be fair, he usually is by majority.

Ehhhh, even that’s debatable. There was a study a while ago, by the CDC I think, where men were found to be something like 40% of domestic abuse victims. I’ll try to dig up the study a bit later.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I highly doubt that, but prove me wrong if you can source it.

[–]harry_lawson0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Overall, 28.5% (32.5 million) of men reported experiencing rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner at some point in their lifetime as compared to 35.6% (42.4 million) of women. 32.5 million + 42.4 million = 74.9 million. (32.5 / 74.9)*100 = 43.4%. So of the total 74.9 million reports, men made up 43.4%.

CDC report (skip to section 4): https://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/pdf/NISVS_Report2010-a.pdf

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah men are still the majority but still damn.

[–]thrwy754795 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well, the answer is pretty straightforward: they can get away with it.

This is the main reason a girl would do it, she's been getting away with it.

All it'll take is 1 wrong guy to do this to, and she'll end up in the hospital if she's lucky.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

In some areas, if your woman hits you, and you call the police, they are required by policy to arrest you.

This is the US with their Violence Against Women Act that carefully defines the "primary abuser" as male (using slightly more subtle words but the police get the message). This is regardless of who is calling the police and who is hitting who.

The police are also under pressure to get their against-female violence figures down. They want to arrest and imprison men for this, the facts are not relevant.

[–]Irtotallynotrobot1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, primary aggressor is the one more physically capable of inflicting harm. That's the one they have to arrest. This also sets off a chain of reaction in court that doesn't end well. It prevents men from getting assistance from government programs meant to help the abused. I always tell people to go to the hospital, if you get seriously abused by a woman, and tell them you fell down the stairs.

[–]MardGeer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ok you genuinely freaked me out, cameras are always the idea to go but where the hell do police arrest you if you're the one calling.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wait what... come again? Why the hell would they arrest the man!?

[–]Imarobot20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No. The policy may require them to arrest someone on a domestic violence call if they have probable cause a felony or misdemeanor occurred but does not mandate the arrest of the male.

You’ll more likely encounter cops who believe the woman over you resulting in your arrest.

[–]Ronaldo-CR7-112 points113 points  (6 children) | Copy

I had a girl one time try to break my fingers. She thought it was playful and funny and then went full force crazy trying to break them. Obviously she wasn’t strong enough to do so but she literally wanted to break my finger. This was at a bar and she was hammered, I told her I’m going out for a smoke and left. Crazy bitch

[–]throwitpplaway47 points48 points  (1 child) | Copy

Had some instances like this. Especially when they are drunk. They remind me of the mischievous 4 year old nephew who always tries to play fight you but he hits you hard as fuck

[–]ChadTheWaiter1001 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I give them an extremely hard, but non bruising pinch.

[–]ChadTheWaiter1001 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Lmfao! Omg. What were you doing when she was trying to break them.

[–]Ronaldo-CR7-2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Laughing in her face and just making it seem like we were joking around to the people around us. But I can feel her trying her hardest to break my fingers. Luckily she’s small and weak and I lift otherwise I’d probably had broken one finger.

[–]ChadTheWaiter1002 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just hearing that makes me wish I was you. I would have smiled. Bottled up that rage. Said let’s go out side to my car. And slapped the shit out of her.

[–]MisterMarbles19880 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If she was successful, she would have blamed YOU for having "frail girly fingers" after all, she is "only a girl", how could she break a man's fingers???

[–]360_no_scope_upvote78 points79 points  (1 child) | Copy

The wires are crossed be thankful she showed you her true self

[–]scanfan2022[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, she definitely showed her true colors right out of the gate.

[–]throwawayycheyeah66 points67 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lol the people saying it's not a big deal have never been punched by a bitch. You literally cant defend yourself and they know that shit and will keep doing it.

Putting up with that shit is as bad as letting her tell you about sucking cocks behind your back and staying with her. Have some self respect pussy boys.

[–]throwitpplaway2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I can still remember when I was little chad in 7th grade and actually smacked this chick. Even then was swarmed with white knights trying to destroy me.

[–]alphabachelor10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Check out the nicegirls subreddit.

Full of examples. As to why? Because there’s a lot of mentally ill women too but unlike men, they rarely get called out or held accountable.

[–]resnine2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ultimately that's what it all comes down to. No accountablility for their actions because of the natural physical difference between the sexes.

[–]AshyBoneVR427 points28 points  (8 children) | Copy

A Cardi B song came on the playlist

Playlist, as in she personally selected the song? Not from the radio? Yeah, full on red flag.

This girl proceeded to hit me as hard as she could on my chest repeatedly. I told her to stop and she did, but a few moments later she started hitting me in the neck and jabbing her fingers into my throat.

She'd get punched at this point and time. I can handle the chest hits, the hitting in the neck would be annoying, BUT JABBING HER FINGERS INTO YOUR THROAT? Nope, that's where I draw the line.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

She'd get punched at this point and time

And you'd be in jail for it

[–]MardGeer1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Depends, I've seen girls just freeze at being hit hard, cry, get hit again and freeze and never call the cops. I just had my mouth open the whole time as he said " it'll take them at least 5 minutes for them to get here, wanna see what I can do in 5 minutes?" And then I left lol, met the guy again a coupleb month later, free as a bird. Still this whole, cops will arrest you regardless of if you're the victim scares me.

[–]resnine2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yea... why the fuck would you risk it. Don't know this chick yet. Ain't worth it.

[–]MardGeer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's not what I'm saying, I'm just sharing a story of an event I didn't think would happen.

[–]TheBigPone32 points33 points  (1 child) | Copy

I believe they lack the self discipline and respect that boys are taught when told to not hit others. When I see women trying to hit someone they always do the same pallete of dumb faces the little girls of my elementary school did while chasing the boys to hit them because of nothing when I was a kid.

Also for some of them there seems to be no voice of reason in their mind telling them that assaulting men is not okay, when they want they just act like it's their birthright to do this or something.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I can't believe I had to scroll this far down for an actual answer. Well said.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed43 points44 points  (1 child) | Copy

Use the five year old test.

If it was a five year old doing this should you get upset?

Are you her daddy or a teddy bear or does she cut the heads off all her teddy bears?

[–]rawrlolrofl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't get it, so it's cool because a 5 year old would do it?

[–]TopCatCabcurr5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stay the fuck away from that nutjob lol. Don't put your dick in crazy.

[–]morgandavies8343 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I've dealt with a lot of stuff like this, let me explain...

I dont think your girl is representative of the norm, that is particularly batshit behaviour, if you have some way of warning people about what kind of person she is I would do it.

Girls as a group however can and will physically assault men with no reprecussions. This happens especially when they are drunk.

I believe the root comes from a few things.

  1. Society not taking male suffering seriously.
  2. The physical power imbalance between you that allows you to stop her at any time you should like and that she cant easily do lots of damage to you (that at least is the perception)
  3. Societies unwillingness to assign responsobilty to women for their evil or victim blaming (if the victim is the less disagreeable party they tend to get the responsibility for avoiding the repeat of such an incident)

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

if you have some way of warning people about what kind of person she is I would do it.

Great advice.

[–]RapeYogaEnthusiast46 points47 points  (10 children) | Copy

Literally contact the police. Assault is assault. Also, Cardi B is fucking garbage and the fact that she hit you for criticizing Cardi B is a huge tell. Or just go on another date with her and beat the shit out of her in an alley or something

[–]inittowinit77788 points89 points  (5 children) | Copy

Cardi B makes music for women who think talking louder is winning the argument

[–]resnine5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

99% of the lyrics are complete utter non-sense but she's just saying it all in a ghetto loud obxious way... how the fuck

[–]iakat10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hahahah thanks I'm going to use this. So true.

[–]inittowinit7776 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

for sure man, I got it from a meme myself and it’s true af lol

[–]Mescalean9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Im stealing this 😂

Thanks for making me laugh within the first 30 minutes of waking up you just shook my morning dump loose 🤣

[–]-_-Indeed-_-8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

nobody needed to know that

[–]harry_lawson11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or just go on another date with her and beat the shit out of her in an alley or something

I know this is a joke but this is the type of shit that got the original sub quarantined.

[–]resnine4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Carbi B puts them in the mindset of thinking they are hardcore violent bad bitches

[–]HurricaneHugues9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Username sorta checks out

[–]Project_Zero_Betas2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She doesn't deserve an alley. Make it a dumpster behind a Chinese restaurant. Abusive bitch.

[–]DadOnDabs15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's like playing GTA with cheat codes. Nothing bad is gonna happen so who cares.

[–]one_hidden_boi3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

The key in the situation is to restrain and not harm

Tightly hold wrists, hold back of neck, hell even a headlock if you have to

Wrist behind back is especially effective without doing harm

This is how we handle drunk shits in security to avoid charges against us (if they got hurt it's because they forced themselves out of a hold)

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Because women actually have privilege in our society and that privilege is not being held accountable for a lot of dumb and shitty things they do. There are two reasons for this: one, they know if they hit you and you dare to hit them back, there will always be a beta white knight around to come and save her. Two, the feminist law enforcement system we have in place will always side with the woman in he said/she said situations. Your best bet is to always have a recording app rapidly accessible but even if she somehow gets arrested, she knows she can cry crocodile tears in front of some beta cuck judge and she'll get away with a slap on the wrist.

As some others have mentioned, there is also a thing called the Duluth Model, which forces policemen to always automatically arrest the man in any domestic violence situations. For example, your wife could be throwing some boiling water at you and hitting you with her rolling pin (and you having the fresh wounds to prove it) and the police will take you away from your house to protect her from you.

can you feel that male privilege yet shitlord?????

The old adage stands true even in this post-patriarchy fucked up age: never hit a woman (unless there are no witnesses and you're really good at hiding dead bodies).

[–]SeasonedRP0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

And just as important-never live with a woman.

[–]Rubbish276 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'd rather get punched than listen to Cardi B lol. She does it cause she thinks she can get away with it. You did nothing wrong.

[–]Garathon-4 points-3 points  (1 child) | Copy

He should have pressed her foot on the gas and pushed her out of the car.

[–]Rubbish270 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah no

[–]ifeelfuckingterrible5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because there are almost no consequences for women.

Hit her back? She calls the police and they take her side.

You call the police first? They will still probably take her side.

Plus plenty of guys put up with it since women aren't a serious physical threat.

[–]spartan_samurai2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

She doesn't sound like a normal person, may be she is used to hitting people for fun and get away with it. You should be glad that you found this stupid behaviour within couple of dates.

Hard next if you prefer not to be her punching bag.

[–]scanfan2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The last sentence in your comment sums it up perfectly.

[–]imaginethrowaway2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

yep that sounds weird

[–]helaughsinhidden2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's a man's fault. Seriously, hear me out.

Some women feel comfortable hitting men because some men are so weak they put up with it.

Most of you men are blaming society, police, etc. It's all BS. The truth is, her dad didn't show her what a man looks like. Maybe she don't even know him and mom's boyfriends and fwb were trash too. She grew up and found her own men that also put up with it because he had her on a pedestal and as long as she gave him some pussy, some validation, or whatever his weak frame was after from her. Once she realized how easily manipulated a blue pill beta was, she could do whatever she wanted.

For you young guys lurking here, contemplating swallowing the red pill and think it's ok to be a weak beta, this is some other man's mess that he gifted the world. This world isn't so big that you can shit where ever you want without someone else having to either step in it or fix it when you've gone. This is why men will frag an unfit officer or mutiny an unfit ship captain. Don't be that faggot.

u/scanfan2022 Hard next? Why wait?! I'd have left her ass on the side of the road or stopped at the next gas station and left here there, blocked her number, and never think about her again. There is no voice louder in a woman's head than the echo of her last words and actions being replayed on an endless loop by her hamster brain after a man has left without explanation.

[–]Studmuffin936 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wouldn’t put up with it either. I think it’s amazing women can get away with physical abuse but if it were a man that’s assault and jail time.

[–]bin_chicken4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’ve personally dealt with this shit and it’s one of the reasons I think we need the red pill. White knight culture especially says that this type of scenario where a girl hits a guy is fine but if there is at all a bit of defence from the guy (in this case you grabbing her arm) it can count as abuse. Completely backwards ideas from these feminists preaching “equality”.

[–]gbnz871 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Some people are far too sheltered and havent had any one tell them no or had any repercussions for their actions. Most women like this tend to get miserable if people dont do or act as they say, some of the more confident ones get aggressive to get what they want.

They will inevitability get hit by a man who retaliates and it will end quite badly for them.

[–]shinywhitedarkness1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

A female friend of mine also has a tendency to hit me on the chest or stuff like that. When I tell her to stop she simply tells me I should stop being a pussy. It's so hypocritical.

"Empowering women" my ass.

[–]ChadTheWaiter1001 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Give her a heavy blow to her shoulder and laugh. If she says anything tell her to stop being a pussy.

[–]geo_gan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because women are protected and empowered by modern society to be as violent as they like and suffer no consequences. There were a few times where some cunt bitch in work environment pushed me to the edge of my cool knowing she was protected and I couldn’t do anything about it. Whereas I was thinking if this was Game of Thrones world I would have smashed her head into a pulp there and then like The Hound looking for his fucking chicken. Really pisses me off that bitches take advantage of this societal protection to push men past their limits on purpose.

[–]OilyB1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

They feel safe doing it. There are no repercussions, so they've never learned to control their physical behavior. Also, they have very narrow knowledge about male pain thresholds, they think we can stand anything, including balls and fingers...

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

they're conditioned to do it lol. watch any mainstream music video, hero movie, read any super popular YA literature. sad but true.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Why are some women so comfortable physically abusing guys?

Because they can.

I looked her dead in the eyes and told her "don't ever hit me again"

Right..... but next time kick her out and/or just leave.

Violent women PUT YOU IN JAIL. They hit you, call the police, and you get locked up.

You have to avoid them: run away if you have to.

[–]Ayymane230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I hate a plate hit my chest and abs pretty damn hard luckily it didn’t hurt. Needless to say that was the last time I ever saw that bitch. Her true colors started to show and my god was she crazy

[–]cluelessguitarist1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I would have kicked her from my car, take a walk girl..

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It doesn't matter why. You just leave. The why isn't your problem. Let the beta guy she ends up with at 30+ deal with it.

[–]SalporinRP1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

A venn diagram of Cardi B listeners and sluts would pretty much just be a circle

[–]Kabuki4313 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy

I usually set it clear the first time this happens.

"Do that one more time and i will slap you across the face" usually gets the job done.

[–]ChadTheWaiter1000 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Nice. Have you ever had to act it out brother?

[–]Kabuki4310 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Yes i have and as always they either start with the same old crap.

  1. U gonna hit a women ?

  2. Downplay to i was just jokingly doing it.

[–]ChadTheWaiter1001 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Nice. I remember growing up there was this huge black bitch in my neighborhood. I was a scrawny ass boy. But still I was a male. This black bitch disrespected me and I laughed and called her a bitch. She slapped the shit out of me.

I was stunned and wondered if I should hit her back. I didn’t and I deeply regretted it. Fast forward a few years. Puberty hits and I start lidting. Still skinny, she’s still huge (6’0 250ish and this is HS). She disrespects me again. She slaps me again.

This time I had an outer body experience. Everything went silent. I watched myself lock eyes with her and confidently walk to her (after she backed off from slapping me) I cocked back and slapped her to the ground. I told her if she does that again I’m gonna right her just like I would a boy.

[–]rawrlolrofl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

In california in my high school that's instantly a court date, anger management, community service, etc. don't live in california.

Still impressive tho

[–]MCA_T2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm physically fit, 6'0, 190 lbs, and work out regularly but let a girl hit me and get away with it.

bro you shouldn't of even let it escalate to a second time you should of shut her down straight with a "what the fuck do you think your doing"

and the moment the neck punches and throat jabs started you should of slapped the taste out of her mouth

same people telling you to be alpha and hold frame are the same telling you to let her hit you and not defend yourself

controlling frame involves in violent situations too, you were not in the wrong so you were in every way obliged to dominate that situation and put her in her place

conflicted individuals... snm

obviously you shouldn't of beaten the shit out of her but you do not allow anyone to put hands on you and get away with it, regardless of what society, women or red pill says

[–]_new-dawn0x22 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

They crazy. Just smash and dash.

[–]idreamofkitty20 points21 points  (2 children) | Copy

I disagree. Never stick your dick in crazy.

[–]animal-mother 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Crazy fucks the best though.

[–]Garathon7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Only if they don't know your full name and where you live.

[–]Auphor_Phaksache1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You could probably try telling her to save it for the bedroom. Dont tolerate abuse.

[–]craneonacrane1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Remember that child who always wanted to wreck things or decapitate birds' heads? Now make the comparison

[–]cafeitalia1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Cool story bro. Next time don't let the girl drive for second date. She meets you wherever you are going.

[–]scanfan2022[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cool comment bro. I wanted to drink that night and she offered to be the DD.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Loves Cardi B, get violent for her, downplay it?

She is just mental, an exaggeration of what women can do.

Now, can you imagine how awful she can be while drunk?

Go read the sidebar.

[–]1redhawkes1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

There's such a thing called boundaries.

She obviously found some chunk in your armor and tried to exploit that. Should've grab her arm and twisted it.

This behavior stems from fucked up parents, usually nonexistent/weak father figure. She thinks that if that behavior is okay with the wimps surrounding her, it's also okay with you.

If you tolerate shitty behavior, it's going to get repeated. You need to use the good old bitchslap.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you tolerate shitty behavior, it's going to get repeated.

That goes for a lot of things in life. It's an important lesson we all have to learn. Got to put control on these bad acts otherwise it's going to keep happening.

[–]mojokabobo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Some girls see it as a form of kino.

[–]jbpostv0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I doubt this woman would be so ratchet and low value without having giving off some red flags. If you're looking for an LTR as an abundance man, qualification is the order of the day. Qualify Qualify Qualify. Make it your default move. Show you're putting pressure for her to prove herself in comparison to the dozens of other options you have.

Women do this because they know you can take it physically and want to see if you will put up with it. Important to note: think about how abundance you must have if you can test someones worth by literally hit them and seeing if they'll put up with it. A girl shit testing with hitting basically says I'm willing to risk losing you completely because there's a line of other men who will come and try again.

Some people like to say that shit testing is a sign she's into you. That's not wrong but its not specific enough. Shit testing is a sign she's into you but wants to make sure you're not faking it. She needs to test if you're the real deal and she's not afraid to risk losing you.

Some girls will evaluate you mostly based on how much fun/positive emotions you can provide on the date, some will look mostly at your drive, purpose and achievements, some will evaluate you based on how easy it is to gain your validation and some will evaluate you on frame with testing and trying to gain power over the dynamic.

  1. Fun/Enjoyment
  2. LMS
  3. Validative SMV
  4. Dominance

I think this has to do with how their father's were. I dated a HB7 who's father was very uninvolved in her life, always working and didn't give her enough attention. I didn't really try to make our outings particularly enjoyable and was very low effort or concern for courting her. Very unresponsive to snaps and never texting first. Worked like a charm. Would this work for a girl who's looking for a guy who shows her a good time (1)? No it would be a disaster because you're boxed into being boring. A girl who's father was always in charge, holding his ground and not taking shit is going to give you shit, knock you off balance and see if you hold frame. I honestly prefer dates that focus on 1 and 2 but this is a psychological game for many chicks. Its not just about having a boyfriend you enjoy time with, its about sense of status.

Next time read into her primary dimension and focus on maintaining it. If she's about 3 or 4, do everything you can to make her like its a privilege for her to be on a date with you and afraid she might lose you for something she did wrong.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Last paragraph is Calibration, got to know what kinda chick she is. Let me ask ya here, do you have a sort of litmus test for figuring out what kind of girl she is before the first date? Trying to gauge/measure things so that I can calibrate my game according to her personality/upbringing.

[–]rawrlolrofl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just ask her about her family when it comes up, be totally nonjudgemental and she'll tell you everything. Check out Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man. I use the calibration of their father thing too, it's incredible how they just want their dads

[–]wanderer7790 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Some people are just crazy. I can understand someone getting mad about something reasonable, like you insulted her or something and so she slaps you. But cardi b? Sticking her finger down your throat?

In the old days they kept people like this in asylums. Now they're roaming free among normal folks and we're supposed to be trained in how to spot psychos. We truly are living in clown world.

Anyway, check your local laws but I think you can record people in your car some places. That way if she tries it again you could ask her to leave the car and call the cops if she doesn't. Make sure the video goes to the cloud cause sometimes the white knight brigade will try to confiscate your phone.

[–]ghjklzxcv1230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Living in us is shit sometimes, a female would never imagine doing smt similar to me. you get cucked by your country, it is sad.

[–]ChadTheWaiter1000 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Depends on the setting. Back in my blue pilled days I had a crazy ex. One time we were arguing. I lived in a two story town home with parents. I was 17. No one was home but us. I told her to leave. I said something like gtfo you fuckin slut.

She came running at me swinging for the fences. This bitch has beat up a few males just from sheer craziness. I made the mistake of teaching her how to throw effective punches a while back. Anyway. She was swinging. I dodged all punches and picked her up. I carried her to the bed and slammed her down. I screamed in her face don’t ever do that again.

Another time we were in the car. She was talking shit. I said hit me then bitch. You keep saying it fuckin do it and see what the fuck happens. I’ll give you a free shot. She didn’t hit me. She waited until I wasn’t looking and blindsided me. I immediately grabbed her by the throat and told her I would kill her if she did that again.

Thankfully I never did anything to leave a mark on that bitch. Now, that was blue pilled days. Nowadays I would tell her to not do it one time. If she doesn’t listen I would act responsively to the situation. If I’m in the hood and have no chance of getting caught I’ll beat the bitches ass. If I’m in the middle of a million people I’ll just leave. Ymmv.

[–]hazelstein0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Pimping the bitchh since bullpilled love it

[–]AceMav210 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would've just grabbed her hand and squeezed it

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K180 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Slap her Girls want to go on about how they can handle shit, joining the military, having babies and such. They should be able to handle a slap, then.

[–]Since19910 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Gentlemen, I have a domestic abuse misdemeanor all because my gf wanted to get a VPO, for me grabbing her arms to get her to stop hitting me. I admit I did throw her down when she refused to stop. However the cops. We’re NOT called and I left after trying to console her and apologize. I showed up to the VPO hearing without council. Don’t be an idiot like me. Get a lawyer. The judge didn’t give a fuck about what I had to say. Any time I spoke I was stop to be quiet. Bc my exgf basically wrote an entire 3 page essay about basically be being an abusive POS when 75% of what was written was sensationalized and false. Tried to fight it but they said my ex “threatened to show the bruises and other evidence (finger marks on her arms, on her back from the fall) The DA happened to be in on the hearing and based off that bs I got a charge with LITERALLY only the evidence of my exgf’s fantasy letter. Thanks justice system. Whatever you do just don’t even lay your hands in them. Just leave. Take the hits and go on your way. Always lawyer up whenever there is an option. None of this would have happened if I just walked away. It might not have happened if I had a lawyer during my VPO hearing. Your more of a man for walking away and never looking back than to defend yourself.

[–]-SquirrellyTemple-0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Nip that shit in the butt. You need to have the persona to where no matter what, no one would ever dare to raise anything against you.

[–]BCampbell97 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

Bud* as in the bud if a flower, nipping it before it can grow.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Pretty sure he was just trying to be funny.

[–]BCampbell97 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Maybe, or maybe it was a common mishearing of a saying. Not trying to be an asshole... I'd want to be corrected in that situation.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Seems too funny to be a mistake... nip in the butt Lol

[–]MOSFETBJT-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you had sex with her, lie to her by saying you gave her an STD. It'll be funny.

[–]Garathon-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wow, you are desperate. I would have slapped her face and left.

[–]Irtotallynotrobot-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah I've got one plate that pulls that shit. She hit in me in the face once and I told her if she does that again that I'll walk out the door and never come back, hasn't tried it since but I'm sure she will.

[–]Malcomania-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s the cardi b song. I don’t think she meant to physically hurt you in any way but it is a theme in certain cardi b songs make girls feel like a bad bitch. There was a couple who went viral in the club with the girl pointing fingers and singing cardi b in the guys face aggressively as a joke. I think the girl was doing it in a way to joke with you even flirt with you. I could understand why you would think this way if you didn’t see the vid or won’t familiar with cardi b but I don’t think she was tryna hurt but just try to recreate the vid with you. But I wasn’t there she may have overdid it considering you weren’t together and weren’t even that close.

[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why are some men so comfortable paying abusing girls?

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

It’s because you’re a Pussy. Better put the fear of god in that bitch. My chicks know damn well to never put hands on me because there’s always repercussions and consequences in life. You’re not built that way and it’s ok, the women in your life will sense your weakness and physically abuse you but you’re a good guy.

[–]Since19910 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Cool story bro, I can sense your immense strength through the internet.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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