10 months into my LTR with Mandy and the push/pull game is starting to get pervasive, and I am not sure why?
To be straight, there is only one person playing this game - her.
If I had to guess, perhaps my level of comfort is low, however I feel as though I am providing the exact level of comfort I am willing to provide, and no more. I have no intentions of providing "fake" comfort just to shut her up.
The push/pull game goes something like this:
"Blah, blah, blah, you are annoying/"
"Yep, I am. Chat later, have shit to do."
"Wait, what? I was just kidding - come here" as she kisses me, or proceeds to blow up my texts telling me she misses me.
Typically happens on Tues/Wed after we see each other on the weekends. No I do not ghost her during the week. We still chat often/FT and I try to grab her for lunch every other week or so since my schedule is so flexible. I have to eat after-all, might as well have lunch with someone I like.
I get the push/pull dynamic when you are trying to hook up and/or the relationship is fresh. But 10 months in?
I know two modes - on/off - in/out - you get my time/you dont - you get my attention/you dont.
If you annoy me, I dont respond.
Obviously I understand that I am clearly winning this game of push/pull as I do not fall for the bait.
But it is a boring game. And I clearly do not give enough fucks to keep her comfort level high enough for her to not want to play this game.
What is next level game here?
I am apparently obtuse, and need to manufacture some drama perhaps?
This is not a shit post BTW.
Actually - now that I have typed this, and am reading it.....
Maybe I am the one doing push/pull and don't realize it?
Fuck. Someone set me straight....