My supervisor asked me out

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June 23, 2019
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My supervisor from work, as in police officer. Female in a costume. You understand? She’s been placed in the office and mostly only does patrols because she cries sometimes the way guys are pushovers around the office, nothing sexual but where there’s a physical conflict she obviously can’t fight off a 300lb gorilla. So guys are always teamed up with her. Right? So every Sunday I get to be her partner and it’s going to her head. There was an incident this morning with kids stealing bicycles, we returned the stolen bikes and she was starting to come onto me. I mean I told her to stop... I thought she was just feeling secure after we closed the case or whatever but she asked me if I wanted to go out with her tomorrow. I said I was busy. She said at least your honest.

Obviously this is the rule we’re told to never break. Don’t shit where you eat. But man this red headed step child is calling my name and I just need you guys to help remember it’s all worth it


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Title My supervisor asked me out
Author OfficerWade
Upvotes 130
Comments 110
Date 23 June 2019 02:27 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/243139
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/c45hj8/my_supervisor_asked_me_out/
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[–]Jabbermouth674 points675 points  (32 children) | Copy

Experience is the best teacher.

I say go out with her. Have sex with her. After she goes to HR and you are fired you will never have to post a stupid question like this on askTRP again because you will have learned your lesson.

[–]ek1995114 points115 points  (12 children) | Copy

Lmfao

[–]EvolvedVirus19 points20 points  (11 children) | Copy

The problem is, anything he does can backfire.

If he rejects her, she's now out to getcha. If he sleeps with her, and then gets dumped or he dumps her, again, she's out to getcha.

Try to stay at a distance but if she's super persistent, she can kinda own you at that point. Also gotta remember, rejecting her may just make her more lustful and obsessed with you.

If she's ugly, you might be able to keep a distance, they may have a lot of doubts about themselves and may not go any further than that.

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn6 points7 points  (10 children) | Copy

can backfire

"I'm here to work, not date co-workers. Please respect my decision."

Let's not pretend you'll get fired because you turned down a co-worker you don't want to go out with.

[–]EvolvedVirus14 points15 points  (3 children) | Copy

You'd be wrong.

Let's not pretend you can get fired for having sex with a co-worker once and then dumping her right?

Wait, that assumes that women might be telling the truth TO HR.

If she lies about you raping her, do you think she won't lie about you raping her, just because you rejected her FIRST advance?

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

That comes with proof of the rape happening, which it won't because OP isn't dumb.

[–]EvolvedVirus0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

How is there proof with contraception?

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

.. a rape kit

[–]LabelMeIntrovert-1 points0 points  (5 children) | Copy

You clearly haven’t been in his position before... women hate rejection, especially if they’re really into you, next thing he’ll know is some department chief calling him into the office with some claim by the chick siting “harassment” or some other fuckery.

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn-1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy

I have been there, so don't make assumptions.

[–]LabelMeIntrovert-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

Well then you should know better...

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Excuse you? Know better about what, not shitting where you eat?

Pft.

[–]LabelMeIntrovert-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

No, your initial comment was naive to think that it’s not even possible, which is why your rebuttals are weird... anyways good day

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Getting fired because you told a co-worker you decline her offer?

😂

good day

Bye, Felicia!

[–]kaolin22423 points24 points  (3 children) | Copy

Yep. Do it!

Looking forward to the follow-up thread in four months when you have to find a new career because you torpedoed this one with your dick.

Hope you've been carefully planning your finances because it's going to hurt really bad once lawyers get involved... provided you can afford one.

[–]illmatic7082 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

He would make more money bartending anyway

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No he wouldn't.

[–]Philosfy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

‘torpedoed this one with your dick’ elite comment I’m howling

[–]zxcvb780918 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

She will fuck your brains out. Everything would seem normal. Until, she gossips with people at the work place about it. She will realize that she might lose her job over it. Then she goes to HR saying you drugged her or something. You will get moved or put on paid leave while they investigate it. After they conclude what they conclude you will get let go and she will keep working there or perhaps get moved to another department and start over.

[–]Atheist_Utopia88 points89 points  (1 child) | Copy

No seriously this is the best advice. Genuinely, just fuck her.

[–]jackandjill2256 points57 points  (0 children) | Copy

No stop goading this guy. That's terrible advice. lol

[–]Capt_Am28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not gonna lie, you had me in the first half.. Savage.

[–]User-31f64a4e9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Snarky but true ...

[–]Kkiy0M10 points11 points  (4 children) | Copy

Why would she go to hr? I say he records everything and just goes with the flow. That way he’ll at least be more secure than her.

[–]Jabbermouth27 points28 points  (3 children) | Copy

People are unpredictable. The chances she would go to HR may not be high, but they are still there.

Why risk it at all? HR is more likely to side with his boss than him. Not only is she a woman but she is also not as easily replaceable as he is. Even with records, there’s no guarantee they don’t let you go.

[–]askmrcia13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy

I think Going to hr would be the least of my worries.

I'd be worried about her gossiping more than anything. And people would all know that op and her is dating.

That's when the work environment would turn into an uncomfortable awkward environment.

And then that's when trouble would start.

[–]thrwy754792 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

If handled properly, even the gossip isn't that much of an issue.

Hope for the best, plan for the worst. Keep records of everything to prevent a sexual assault/harassment charge. That could potentially impact the rest of his life.

[–]Carboneraser3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or don't worry about fucking your boss and go with one of the 3.5 other billion others

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

also he'll be too busy starting his entire career from scratch to have the time

[–]ShotgunTRP1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not even this extreme. You fuck her and then want some space and she follows you around the office/work place annoying your ass off and theres nothing you can do about it except hurt her feelings and have her start rumors about you and...

[–]YungPlayStation3600 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

B-b-b-bars!

[–]RedPilledGodEmperor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is the best response.

[–]JedYorks174 points175 points  (2 children) | Copy

When you get married you can use a doughnut instead of a wedding ring.

[–]GandMeChattri9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Holy shit.

[–]crespo_modesto6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

the savings

[–]lossescollector46 points47 points  (9 children) | Copy

Don't do it bro. Too many downsides.

  • If things dont work out, it gets awkward as hell/if not impossible to work together.
  • If there's another girl at the office crushing on you and she finds out, she may get jealous and this can open the door to all kinds of issues.
  • You can't just "next" her if things go south because you'll be seeing her everyday at the office. And if she is crazy, and you disappoint her in some way, you always open the door to the possibility of a sexual harassment complaint which will almost auto cost you your job regardless of the details. Like the family courts, HR investigations are heavily anti-male bias.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah it’s also messy if he continues to scorn her, which is how she will take it.

Only path forward here is to not fuck her and also strengthen alliances with coworkers because she will try to bring him down.

[–]EvolvedVirus0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

He can also block all her advances from the start, and she can start rumors, make his life miserable as a supervisor, and get him fired too.

Best strategy: resist, resist, don't do anything with her, keep distance.... but if she is just hammering you and pressuring you obsessively, then you may have to surrender your D to her. It might be enough to keep her satisfied and then be as boring as possible so that she gets rid of you and doesn't want anything to do with you. Avoid doing anything at work to make it seem like you are dating.

If things go wrong for her, she will make up all sorts of lies to take you down, so you have to be prepared. Make sure nothing goes wrong for her. Make sure she is simply bored of you rather than angry at you.

[–]lossescollector2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

In my experience this isn't true at all.

If you tell a girl to her face you simply aren't interested or just make up some random excuse as to why you aren't romantically available from the start she may feel disappointed or whatever, but she'll probably just move on.

If you have sex with her, and then try to get rid of her, that's when the crazy comes out.

[–]EvolvedVirus1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

They don't need sex to go crazy. I have seen a lady at work go crazy because I didn't give her attention. She's scary, self-entitled, and I have kept a very large distance.

They can stir up trouble, just because you rejected them.

[–]lossescollector0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I'm speaking in general terms, there's always exceptions to the rule/outliers. Either way, I feel sorry for you bro. In our society only guys are recognized as harassers/creepers but there are chicks out there that don't know how to take no for an answer, and since our system doesn't really back up men in these situations, you are left to handle this situation on your own. Good luck.

[–]EvolvedVirus-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Exactly. It may be that sex creates an attachment that makes it even more risky. But the thought of being rejected, can also be a huge emotional strain too. Don't forget.

You can have sex and be a good person, and you may have an amicable breakup.

You can not have sex, but reject her in a callous way, and you may have a bad time.

Just gotta be careful about not triggering their crazy-landmines.

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Shitting where you eat never works out.

[–]ac7141 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with you. This is a clear cut 'say no with respect' and you will both move on.

So many here are jumping off to conclusions that constitute a fraction of the cases out there. There is no reason to be listing off various scenarios based on the details OP has provided.

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

surrender your D

Do you think he's that fragile that he can't just ignore her advances and tell her he's busy?

Let's drop the helpless victim complex.

[–]mugatucrazypills39 points40 points  (7 children) | Copy

Tell HR you are a Gay Muslim .

Then report Her.

[–]Sake9914 points15 points  (4 children) | Copy

I loved this and I 'm a muslim.

[–]AscensionExperiments2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

gross

[–]Sake990 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why its the best tactic

[–]phillip420691 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pack it up boys

[–]ChefCremeFraiche 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

Are you trolling us, OP? If not you’re a fucking grape.

[–]I_have_secrets1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

We should do surgery on him. A fucking lobotomy.

[–]Chadster11373 points74 points  (5 children) | Copy

First off no one can fight off a 300 lb gorilla. That’s a terrible analogy

[–]_Last_Man_Standing_54 points55 points  (2 children) | Copy

humans can't even fight a 130lbs chimp on even ground

[–][deleted] 64 points65 points  (1 child) | Copy

jamie, pull up that video of a chimp ripping that guys cock off

holy shit, dmt, the enlightened ape

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

lmfao

[–]trp282876 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I mean, police officers usually carry a gun, so they have a chance

[–]mksu711101 points102 points  (2 children) | Copy

Sometimes I forget most police are dumb as a rock, thanks for the reminder op

[–][deleted] 21 points22 points  (1 child) | Copy

There's literally an IQ range requirement: that's right, you can be too smart to be allowed onto the force haha

[–]jepalme11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

“You got a 1400 on your SATs, kid. You’re an astronaut, not a Statie."

[–]SeasonedRP14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Female police officers are like females in the military. They seek out men to fuck but if anything goes wrong, they claim they were forced. I'd be super cautious here, even more than in a regular work situation.

[–]SalesAficionado 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

Starts documenting shit. This bitch seems unstable.

[–]sstidman4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the most important piece of advice.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is the most accurate description posted yet. The problem is not sex or no sex. It’s a crazy chick with poor judgment who is probably willing to break other boundaries, if not break his career by maligning him if she feels scorned.

[–]idontalwayssin25 points26 points  (1 child) | Copy

Against common logic, I was fucking a coworker.

Worked as an analyst at a small business. I was seated next to a relatively cute girl, who I would proceed to flirt with and stuff. Eventually, I had my dick in her mouth after we decided to go and get some dinner.

That proceeded to regular sex. Lots of blowjobs, fucking & blowjobs in the office stairwell when feeling risky, and of course, the car. Blowjobs at lunch, so many blowjobs. Meeting up late at night and fucking her in the empty parking garage. Etc.

It was some of the funnest times of my life, even if it was dumb as fuck. But I didn't really care, I knew I was going to leave that job in the long run anyways.

I would do it again in similar situations.

[–]redvelvet_oreo19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

lol most people who become cops do not sign up to quit in a few months or find a new job...

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

There has to be a policy in your sop you agreed to, even if you didn't read it, that covers this.

The policy is in place for a reason.

Shes on a desk for a reason.

And superviser that would approch a subordinate for anything crossing that line is a bucket of crazy and I bet you allready know that about her.

If your willing to risk losing your job or get held hostage by her for crazy girl sex, go on then.

Just know what your buying and what the potential price is.

[–]ugluk19 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Make a baby cop.

[–]DigitalDragonSlayer7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is there a question here?

[–]IQtheMC 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy

Do what a girl would do in this situation. Be very tempting and flirty but friendzone her and make her one of your orbiters.

[–]inittowinit77721 points22 points  (3 children) | Copy

Bad idea. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Learned this the hard way.

[–]ChefCremeFraiche 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

This is right. The comment before yours was shit. In this case op can’t make her an orbiter.

[–]no_delay1-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Nope you are wrong.

Option 1 hard rejection.

Option 2 go for the score.

Neither will end well. The third option is to treat her like your little sister, smirk and not even take her comments or advances seriously. Just give her a playful look and a remark about how sill she's being.. This will keep a bit of tension, and she'll still get the message. Hell might even make work enjoyable. Liking people you work with and spend a majority of your day is a good thing.

The middle path is the way.

[–]EscobapRablo16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

perhaps ask her is she'll pay for your food? I know I'd go for free food imao

[–]Black_Jesup10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy

If she's your supervisor, she's the one with something to lose.

[–]TFWnoLTR33 points34 points  (1 child) | Copy

If only that were how it would play out.

The vagina almost always wins in reality.

[–]whiffofass 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Is she hot??

[–]That_Deaf_Guy8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Irrelevant.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Please be trolling. Please be trolling. Please be trolling.....

What, oh sorry, I was just mumbling to myself.

Don't shit where you eat. Don't even consider it. This is a harassment nightmare waiting to happen.

[–]flyinghorse11 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Would you have said yes if you didn't work together?

[–]Endorsed Contributormonsieurhire21 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Get her to shift her attention to another guy. Also, let other guys know that she's hot to trot, and hopefully someone else will dive on the grenade and save you the trouble.

[–]escapethesolarsystem0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Hmm, good advice actually.

[–]Endorsed Contributormonsieurhire21 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ha, yes, I had several lengthier suggestions, but then I realized they were too complicated.

If he subtly foists her on some other guy, she'll be grateful to him for doing the favor, provided the dick is good.

[–]red2hilt1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

not battle-tested but the below is my opinion:

I think she's now your bitch. don't fuck or her or give her any attention or go out with her, but you can now ask her anything you need and she will instantly do it. dude, she just put her job on the line for you. She will do anything you want at any point. you're now her boss and can get anything done that you want, while meanwhile you don't have to do ANY paperwork or any of the hard stuff associated with being a boss. you just ask her for what you want and I promise you she'll do it right away. don't go out with her or anything like that. don't even acknowledge her advances.

I'm not sure about the psychology behind this (maybe if she thinks she's compliant enough for long enough you'll finally go out with her) but this is the new rules. way better than the other replies you've been getting.

also you have to be a really good leader. don't ask her to do anything unfair, demeaning. be the law. be really fair. but ask for anything you want or need.

[–]LabelMeIntrovert1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

“I’m Gay”

[–]_Last_Man_Standing_4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

get a decent job

[–]empatheticapathetic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Record all interactions from this point on and ask to be moved from her. She might act out and accuse you of something due to the rejection but hopefully all the recording will nullify that.

[–]fartingaround0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Does anyone actuakly ask questions here?

[–]battlebrothercain0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would go to HR, but not yet. If you go to HR without evidence , she could turn the tables when HR confronts her and accuse you. I would record her hitting on you, talk to HR, if she tries to flip the script show them the evidence. Oh and don’t shit where you eat dude, what the fuck is wrong with you. Jerk off and clear your head

[–]razenha0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Preemptive strike time. File a complaint against her for sexual harassment. Rejected women tend to be vindictive.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Rp full of japes today

[–]Nov516050 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

what about transfer to another precinct, then smash ?

[–]caralto0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

if she is a HB9 or above, fuck her regardless of work status, else stop with the beta shit bro.

[–]Standgrounding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lol this shouldn't be in asktrp, make a field report

[–]zboo1h0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Abort, abort, danger, danger, abort.

[–]Red_Pill_Brotherhood0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You can't be serious. Don't do it.

[–]Lunchabel970 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dude just be straight up, I don’t date co workers

[–]kayfab0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Honest this is like mmmmm, don't fuck with the payroll, at my first job i learned that hard, i was having fun with a sexy Egyptian girl until she got mad cause i did not want something serious.... man i paid the price and lost my job.

[–]mrpoopistan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Those LiMu Emu commercials just took a surprising turn . . . a surprisingly sexy turn, that is.

[–]sebastianconcept0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There is absolutely no lack of women that have a thing for policeman. So I'd say you either treat her as marriage or don't shit where you eat and stick to freedom and abundance mentality or even an LTR but not there.

[–]comu_nacho0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Keep a record man. You can buy cheap pen sized spy cams. Don't know about the legality of it, but that's a chic that carries a gun, and you're a symbol of the patriarchy. The news would live to fuck you up.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It could be a loss either way. If she feels scorned, she can also attack you in many ways at work. But if you fuck her, you’ve created an ally but only until you start dating someone else seriously and then she is going to feel scorned. So —- You’ve gotta document this somehow with a coworker or HR or something because there is no way this isn’t going to cause her to try to bring you down somehow in the future. Though obviously fucking her is the least messy path forward.

[–]McDrMuffinMan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've had a bad experience dating co-workers before. And leave it at that.

[–]escapethesolarsystem0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nobody asked, because they all just assumed you're in the country they are in, but what country? Your legal, social, and employment risk varies greatly by location.

In some places, you could pump and dump her and there would be basically zero consequences. In some places, you're already fucked, even if you reject her, she'll trump something up and your career will be over.

[–]Eminencemiddle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Is she hot?

[–]Project_Zero_Betas0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

NEVER EVER get involved with a female that has ANY connections with law enforcement. Fact that she actually IS one makes this all the more perilous. The downside massively exceeds the upside. Trust me.

[–]travlingsomewhere0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck her.

[–]boom_bostic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Rejecting a woman will make her your mortal enemy. She will hate you for the rest of her existence.

I say, if she’s attractive enough to get it up (and c’mon, that don’t take much), then go ahead and give it a try.

I think it ends worse if you reject her.

[–]rmcassio0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

fuck her, but record all your conversations

[–]redvelvet_oreo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would report the instance to HR. Girls seem to do crazy shit when they get rejected. You sound like you just let her off easy but she may come at you again until you have to put her down for real. Its better to have it on record. She might hate you for rejecting her and do something crazy or fabricate some story about you.



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