Is a man who approaches by being sexual worth pursuing?

claravoyance · 2019-07-11T12:28:50+00:00

"He told me that after sex we would have a relationship" I call bullshit. He's saying that to get what he wants.

WeeChickadeeFromSC · 2019-07-11T11:03:40+00:00

Ew, yuck, no. Please pass on this guy. No guy worth keeping who’s SERIOUS about you would propose to have sex first upfront.

WeeChickadeeFromSC · 2019-07-11T11:07:26+00:00

Think of him as yummy, sexy eye candy, but the kind you just look at and pass on cuz it contains toxic ingredients...

Mrswizardwizard · 2019-07-11T12:34:30+00:00

He told me that after we had sex we would have a relationship

Never ever believe a man when he says this.

Look, if you could have the coolest thing in the world but there was only 1 left forever and it was sitting on the store shelf, would you just demo it in-store and walk away from it? Wouldn’t you be afraid somebody else would snatch it up?

If a man decides you are so important and likes you so much that he wants to commit to you, he will do it. He’s not going to beat around the bush on it and possibly have someone else swoop in and take you. This guy simply wants in your pants and is using whatever lies he can to get there. He will have sex with you then say he “just isn’t ready for a relationship yet”. You deserve a man who romantically courts you right from the start and is respectful of you as a woman. This guy isn’t it. Chuck him in the trash and move on to someone better. Next!

WeeChickadeeFromSC · 2019-07-11T11:09:58+00:00

No guy who’s serious about you would DARE to say anything sexual to risk turning you off, so early on. In fact, consider it as a red flag that he mentioned wanting to have sex w/you immediately. This guy is thinking w/his dick and telling you so.

omgkeklolwutdank · 2019-07-11T12:26:25+00:00

"He told me that after we had sex we would have a relationship but I didn't believe it" this nigga lying

transdermalcelebrity · 2019-07-11T13:35:46+00:00

The “relationship “ he’s talking about could very well be something like “occasional booty call”.

If he were really interested in you he’d at least want to get to know you before bringing up sex.

Did you tell him you’re a virgin? Because it kinda sounds like he’s interested in your virginity.

bluest_light_ · 2019-07-11T13:04:47+00:00

He’s lying. He just wants to get into your pants.

ange-nocturne · 2019-07-11T17:23:16+00:00

Why are you so scared to lose the interest of some sleazy guy you barely know? The language you use sounds very desperate (pursue him, persuade him). Let men pursue you. If you have to chase or persuade a man, he doesn’t want you. This guy is now giving you ultimatums because he sees how desperate you are. He wants casual sex, you want a serious relationship, move on. Raise your self esteem and your SMV if you think this is the best you can do.

LateralThinker13 · 2019-07-11T17:09:01+00:00

He told me that after we had sex we would have a relationship

And if you believe this, I have a really nice bridge in Brooklyn for sale, cheap.

I'm not sure though, maybe it could happen

I'm hoping you're just young and optimistic. Because this is incredibly unrealistic thinking and not RP at all. Men won't become what you want because you want them to be so. Read the sidebar because you sound like a 16-year-old bluepill girl who is a "good girl" but wants to justify becoming sexually active.

EDIT: Also, being in the r/Femcels community isn't going to do positive things about your self image and value. If you want a man to desire you, work on you. Short of having an irreparable gross physical deformity (severe Turrettes, hunchback, acid attack, etc.) you can raise your SMV high enough to land at least a decent man... and even if you DO have one of those afflictions, there are ways around it. Looks are less than 50% of getting a relationship with a guy. They're just the easiest way to get in the door.

-Acta-Non-Verba- · 2019-07-11T16:20:13+00:00

He's a handsome ashole who uses that line with girls because it works for him, because HOT!!!!. In no way is he serious. He's a player who will pump you and dump you. You are just a toy for him. No man would ever approach a girl he respects like that.

[deleted] · 2019-07-11T17:29:21+00:00

He doesn't see any future with you besides a few hookups. No man who is serious about you will behave as he does. If you make yourself so easy, you will ruin your value.

shupup2609 · 2019-07-11T15:06:26+00:00

He isnt the last man in this world and he is not your type at all. You need to be sure first about the person that will you be happy with him? and will he care for you forever? or will he hurt you? if sex is important for you then save it for the right person. Good luck

Rodo78 · 2019-07-11T17:58:13+00:00

ummm how about no and realize that you are a gift and deserve more than that.

Save yourself for someone worthy, youll love yourself more in the end.

I eventually married my first, that is how special it was, I was and he was.

iamRRading · 2019-07-11T11:59:10+00:00

After sex nothing will happen. Some of us just want sex upfront with nothing attached. We just confidently ask for the sex on the first approach.

it_was_just_here · 2019-07-12T05:20:26+00:00

Never take a man seriously who approaches you with just the offer of sex and then "maybe" a relationship in the future. He's going to take the sex and ghost you. He's a clown. Men who you feel you need to "persuade" to be in a relationship don't want a relationship, just sex. You need to have him properly court you before sex. He needs to take you on dates, buy you gifts, maybe even give you money. After that, he needs to offer a relationship. Then sex is on the table. If he can't do either of those things for you then move on and pay him no attention. I can assure you a man who can properly court a woman will find you.

alphatruth · 2019-07-12T08:30:28+00:00

Dude sounds like degenerate. Stay away.

WeeChickadeeFromSC · 2019-07-11T11:08:11+00:00

LET the ones who react badly disappear. You don’t want those guys!!!

LookingForEquanimity · 2019-07-11T15:08:57+00:00

Not worth pursuing. Please don’t.

jfiscal · 2019-07-11T11:29:45+00:00

I can tell he's out of your league by the way he dangles a scrap of commitment in exchange for the ability to casually use your body as a plaything

uniqueeleni · 2019-07-11T18:49:46+00:00

I was ready to tell you that you’ve probably been through this before and you know the drill, so in the end you can decide whatever you want. But then I saw you are a virgin. So yeah, don’t do it and no he is not worth it and he is not going to commit.

[deleted] · 2019-07-11T20:54:18+00:00

No?? What kind of man tells you “let’s have sex first then a relationship”? What kind of partner would he be?

Maybelowsmv · 2019-07-11T22:35:15+00:00

LookingForEquanimity · 2019-07-18T15:19:33+00:00

I’m so curious for an update. Do you feel like sharing?

samthecre8tor · 2019-07-11T15:26:01+00:00

You have to start somewhere. But a relationship will not come from saying you want to take it slow. You’re playing a mind game. He was honest with you. Women tend to want honesty but when a man is honest about sex he becomes a creep...which is not true. Look, if you do want sex, just have it and be safe. But if it’s a relationship you want, start there and be willing to walk away from a guy that is not wanting the same. If you trick a guy into a relationship...you’re not really in a relationship and it will end at some point.

Good luck. 👍🏽

Whisper · 2019-07-11T18:00:57+00:00

Only if he is smooth enough to make you say yes.... Instead of getting on RPW and asking.

Title	Is a man who approaches by being sexual worth pursuing?
Author	ellierodg
Upvotes	38
Comments	52
Date	July 11, 2019 11:01 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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