Wife was away on a business trip for 2 weeks (no she didn't cheat/IDGAF if she did, but I know she didn't). She arrived home this past Friday night pretty late from the airport. We were both exhausted, so no sex that night, which is fine. I wanted to do it, but it wasn't a huge deal that we didn't. Saturday rolls around, I had work during the day, went and saw a movie together that evening.
For some reason, I was pretty short fused with her the entire day. Probably because I'm doing no fap and I was ready to explode after 2 weeks of no sex while she was gone (cheating on her is not something I would do). She kept texting me while at work, I basically ignored them because of how busy I was. We invited over her sister and her sisters boyfriend for dinner and then left for the movie.
I've been tracking her cycle (even though she is on birth control, were not ready for kids yet) and according to posts I've read on here, I'm supposed to be more alpha during her fertile times.
We arrive back home, getting ready for bed, watching a tv show that we started earlier in the week and my wife shoots her feet over to me and says that her feet are freezing. I don't know why I said this, but with an emotionless reaction, I look at her and say in a snappy way, "put some socks on then". I remained cold and distant, didn't want to cuddle with her or anything. She looked at me in disbelief. Normally I would tell her that I would warm them up for her, but I was still in an irritated mood for some reason. I wasn't being bitchy or naggy, but I was just annoyed with her in my presence. I honestly don't know why. (Just started red pill not too long ago, is this signs of red pill rage?) I feel like I've been getting more easily irritated with her lately.
She sits there for a min or so (hamster was probably spinning) and she mentions that she noticed that I've been snappy towards her all week (which I calmly denied and said that I paid great attention to her on her trip (facetime) which she agreed to and said yeah I was actually a great husband to her while she was gone (she was on the rag, so from what I've read, I'm supposed to show a bit more beta), I said, Yeah, I'm tired today tho. I was being an asshole for no reason, so I apologized (yeah I'm sure someone will call me a pussy for that), we kept talking about random shit and eventually I started to initiate sex.
I forget how it came up, but during conversation, she mentioned something that made me respond with "I don't need sex from you babe, but I do want to have sex with you because I love you". Her hamster must have been spinning again because she sat there for a minute and was thinking deeply about it (We've joked before about our hallway neighbor wanting to sleep with me).
I then remembered that during the fertile part of her cycle, I need to dictate what should happen in bed. We began fooling around, I told her to take her clothes off and get on top of me (Recently, she hasn't been into being on top). She resisted for a bit saying that it hurts her hips, but I said fuck that and told her to get on top anyway.
I was super dominant in bed, the most alpha I've ever felt while having sex with her. For once, I didn't ask her to flip into different positions, I forced her into them. This resulted in the loudest and most violent orgasm I've ever seen her have.
Yesterday (Sunday), I tried initiating again, but she had no interest at all. I brushed it off and said okay, not butt hurt. I'm wondering if it is because I showed her a lot more affection than I did Saturday. (I wanted to cuddle with her, kept rubbing her back, etc.)
I forgot to mention, while on her 2 week trip, she showed me a ton of attention, kept saying how much she missed me, etc. Now that she's back home, we had sex, it's as if she never went on the trip. I feel like she's right back into the comfort with me.
So here are my questions:
Why am I so short fused with her now? I don't wake up mad or anything at her (in fact I've been very level headed after starting bjj and muy thai over a month ago), but I find myself getting irritated by her (I try my best not to show it). Is this part of red pill rage?
For those of you who have a wife on birth control, do you find it more difficult to get her in the mood? I've read a ton of info that although her overall mood with be a bit more level throughout her cycle while on BC, her libido takes a bit of a nose dive, no matter how well you game her. I've read about starfish sex vs good sex and I've been applying things I've learned (caveman when she gives starfish, which is what I've been doing).
Since discovering red pill (at least since I started MMA), I've been focusing on my goals more and making them first priority.
I feel like although I'm staying busy, I still spend too much time with her at home. I go to work, come home and either go to the gym or to MMA, come home for dinner, watch tv, etc. I still feel like I'm too available for her. Anything I can do in a subtle way to spend less time with her to show her I'm busy and don't have time for sexual denials?
Lastly, Does anyone else experience this type of interest switch? She missed me for 2 weeks, came home, had sex and now seems less interested? If so, what I can do to flip the script? Like I mentioned, I'm trying to stay as busy as possible with work and my other things.