Men, would you sleep around with women more if you had the opportunity to?

NockerJoe · 2019-04-30T08:09:16+00:00

I think the most powerful moment in my life was when I was about 24 and saw two female coworkers point and gossip about me and realized I didn't give a fuck. Probably the biggest inhibiting thing young men have is they're conditioned to seek approval from women and take judgement from women as if that judgement is some metric of grand worthiness.

The key point of being a fuckboy is you don't care what women think. If you did you'd be so hung up on every approach and some vague social reputation you'd never actually do the approach. Instead you can take your L and learn from it and improve your timing and your banter and try again five minutes later with a different chick and take another L until suddenly you don't.

In my experience women will call you gross and gossip as a matter of course. Bitches gossip and shit on dudes just for the sake of doing it. The only question is are you gonna get so hung up on that or are you gonna live your life instead.

SerpentCypher · 2019-04-30T10:44:44+00:00

I personally wouldn't. Sluts of either gender disgust me tbh.

And fyi, guys couldn't care less about women calling them a "gross fuckboy" because those women go on to fuck the "gross" fuckboys. They're basically pointing out to him (and themselves) that he has been preselected by many other women which only makes him more attractive.

[deleted] · 2019-04-30T09:57:33+00:00

No, I want to keep it to one person I have an emotional connection with.

spicesalt · 2019-04-30T12:03:47+00:00

Nope. Im not a fan of casual sex at all, I really dislike our sex-driven culture to begin with; I really dont think sex is something that you should share with anyone and that will never change. 2nd part of the question is weird because high sex drive =/= going around fucking alot of people

[deleted] · 2019-04-30T15:02:48+00:00

Absolutely, you're getting the best of a woman that way. All of the fun, none of the maintenance and bullshit and drama and expectations that the men she's serious about have to deal with.

Barely-moral · 2019-04-30T10:50:18+00:00

I wouldn't. I want to stay in the same monogamous LTR until I die. I have no interest in sleeping around.

I don't care about the way I am called or judged unless it affects my chances to get what I want.

Zero_The-Hero · 2019-04-30T15:49:24+00:00

They already call me a fuckboy, but I don't care because the girls calling me that are the ones I don't want.

It does suck when a nice girl is scared of me hurting her because she thinks I'm a fuckboy.

No, I have enough sex. Remember too much of a good thing ruins it.

Eastuss · 2019-04-30T08:40:15+00:00

Yes.

How would they possibly know? And I wouldn't care. They already think badly of men when they do nothing but exist.

Maybelowsmv · 2019-04-30T14:13:42+00:00

Yes, 100%. I have never had any casual sex whatsoever. And if a girl calls me a gross fuckboy, I would absolutely take it as a compliment; rather be a hot fuckboy who gets laid than a good guy and can only get relationship sex.

WestsideMoonWalker · 2019-04-30T08:02:54+00:00

Nah. I find it boring and prefer LTRs far far more. Sleeping around has never had appeal to me.

As for the second question, meh. Some people like you, some people don't.

AndemanMan · 2019-04-30T15:16:54+00:00

Men, would you sleep around with women more if you had the opportunity to?

sure. you really need to qualify this though, it's like asking if people would like more money. the answer is obviously yes

how would you feel if you were called a gross fuckboy by many women because of your high sex drive and woman count?

now it sounds like you're trying to make a point... so I'm not going to answer. hah!

platinummattagain · 2019-04-30T16:26:36+00:00

Yes

Imagine caring about being called a gross fuckboy by many women

Gravel_Roads · 2019-04-30T08:05:17+00:00

Honestly speaking, if I'm in the mood to fuck, I'll probably fuck any girl that's 1.) Down to clown and 2.) Chill about it.

how would you feel if you were called a gross fuckboy by many women

I am 100% certain that plenty of people would think I'm gross. It doesn't bother me -- I think plenty of people are pretty gross right back. I'm also 100% find with this not bothering them, in return. People care way too much about what strangers think.

You can't please everyone. But you can please yourself, and the people who care about you. So I just kinda focus on the people who like folks like me and leave the haters to gnash their teeth and tear at their clothes in their own time, if that's what they wanna do.

passepar2t · 2019-04-30T10:07:41+00:00

Obviously we would and those who say they wouldn't are going to hell for lying.

kandyapplez · 2019-04-30T14:12:09+00:00

gross fuckboy by many women because of your high sex drive and woman count?

for the millionith time that is not what a fuckboy is. why does the manosphere think fuckboy is the male equivalent of "slut", i literally only see that definition of it used there

[deleted] · 2019-04-30T08:04:04+00:00

Nah, not worth the risk. I also value pair-bonding, which is antithetical to sleeping around

Edit: regarding the other question, I don't give a fuck

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gunbusterxl · 2019-04-30T10:12:28+00:00

Absolutely not. My lack of a high sex drive prevents your second question from happening.

MGTOWKapow2 · 2019-04-30T11:18:11+00:00

That all depends.

If it was because women actually lived the way they profess to. "Sex is no big deal, women love casual sex, oh my God" then if it was a case where she and I would be like "okay, we've tested for diseases, birth control's lined up, we've both agreed if you get pregnant we're not keeping it, and there's a law saying you have to go through with that because that's what we agreed" then yes, I'd be more than happy to negotiate with however many women I was mutually interested in to touch, lick or slide into whatever.

Except that's not how life works, which is why I don't.

ohheyhi99 · 2019-04-30T12:16:45+00:00

I absolutely would if not for my fear of STDs. I think a decent number of women have done their share of messing around, so it wouldn’t be hard to find someone who didn’t mind. And “fuckboy” is usually directed at men who still get what they want anyway, for better or worse. And I’d be ethical about anything I did.

analt223 · 2019-04-30T13:01:57+00:00

A bit more ya, but not a ton. Maybe 1 more sexual partner each year (most years i have 0 fwiw)

Million-Suns · 2019-04-30T14:56:45+00:00

Men, would you sleep around with women more if you had the opportunity to?

Nope. If one of them is a baby trapper who pokes holes in condoms, these few minutes of sex is not worth 18 years of child support. Plus the kid will have the face of a woman I deemed good enough to have sex with but not good enough to spend the rest of my life with.

I'd sleep only with women that I'd be okay to parent with. And there are so few of them. So even if I had the opportunity, more likely will not choose to do it.

abaxeron · 2019-04-30T14:56:48+00:00

If I magically gained this opportunity today? - No.

If I had it since puberty? - Most likely, yes.

Additional question, how would you feel if you were called a gross fuckboy by many women because of your high sex drive and woman count?

I get called a gross fuckboy, a rapist, a narcissistic abuser, and an incel by many women. What would change?

As long as it's not happening in bed, I'm fine. I'm even fine if it's happening in bed, in certain context. You know, "!yobkcuf ssorg uoy ,redrah em ekohC".

[deleted] · 2019-04-30T16:00:23+00:00

No, I wouldn't. I'd be doing the same thing I'm doing right now. However, if I did sleep with a lot of women I certainly wouldn't care when people judged me for it.

darudeboysandstorm · 2019-04-30T16:27:40+00:00

As someone who has been called a gross fuck boy... not all that bad. I wouldnt though, I am happily committed to my GF.

maljo24 · 2019-04-30T18:22:18+00:00

Is this a rhetorical question?

Bntt89 · 2019-04-30T20:16:37+00:00

Why not if I decide to get a LTR their would be no way of them knowing anyway? The only girls who would know would be my friends so realistically it isn’t that big of a deal. Also does this mean that women are like coming to me to have sex or do I have to work as hard as I do as a guy to get sex?

SeemedGood · 2019-04-30T23:24:31+00:00

No. What I really want is a loving relationship with a woman who appreciates me for my being as opposed to appreciating me for my utility. The number of partners one accumulates is often just the result of failed attempts at finding a woman that’s capable of actually loving a man.

And, unfortunately, being labeled a “fuckboy” or “player” tends to get you more attention from women rather than less so picking up the label doesn’t really have negative repercussions. Have never heard the word “gross” attached to either as that’s indicative of a man not being attractive, which creates an oxymoron when attached to the term “player” or “fuckboy.”

Pastelitomaracucho · 2019-05-01T20:21:41+00:00

Not really.

It's just not worth it.

I prefer monogamy.

SirNemesis · 2019-05-04T04:23:34+00:00

I'd rather have a relationship, but sure, sleeping around would be preferable to celibacy.

And better to be called a gross fuckboy than a loser virgin. Women sleep with one of those and not the other.

[deleted] · 2019-04-30T08:31:54+00:00

Yes, no, maybe, I don't know. Could you repeat the question?

I actually don't know what I'd do. Would I get bored of it all or would I never stop? Who knows.

But I know I wouldn't care if a woman called me a fuckboy. Because that's the same girl I fucked 2 weeks ago. You're as much of a fuckgirl as I am a fuckboy.

spicesalt · 2019-04-30T09:31:55+00:00

Nope. PPD has put me entirely off relationships.
As for sex, a pocket pussy is safer and doesn't think being approached by an unattractive man is sexual assault.

how would you feel if you were called a gross fuckboy by many women because of your high sex drive and woman count?

Women say this as to not appear sluts, but it's these guys who get all the action.

concacanca · 2019-04-30T10:00:17+00:00

No. If I were single again then I'd still probably not go full slut mode even though it appears to be pretty easy in your 30s.

squiddy_s550gt · 2019-04-30T11:48:21+00:00

No, i usually have that opportunity. I usually have a couple girls i can call, but most of the I'm too lazy or busy to bother with it. If need be i can probably go out and find a new one.

how would you feel to be called a fuckboy.

Used to get called a man whore all the time, even tho i really wasn't that bad. Didn't really pay much attention, guessing they were just butthurt

wtffellification · 2019-04-30T10:46:12+00:00

when you say 'more opportunity'.... does that mean a woman kneeling in front of you, begging you to have your cock passionaltey licked? because that would be a fantasy of every man, probably. THAT IS UNTIL it actually happened... because in reality, it would almost be too easy

so, it's tricky to talk about IF's you know? because half the pleasure of 'the mating dance' for men is the thrill of the chase itself. maybe not even half, maybe it's what the whole basis of male sexuality consists of

I think a better question is "would you go through all the trouble it takes..." and it depends on particular men and how much trouble it takes them to get it.. and their values... and their sexual drive... but generally I'd say most men would say yes. THAT IS until they actually knew what it's like.. Even a Chad has got to go through the trouble of putting on a condom.... etc. point is, it's hard to hypothesize, we don't really know what we want until we have it, even if it sounds like every man's wildest dream

If I didn't get called gross due to being a fuckboy, I would probably be called gross due to not being a fuckboy.. so no I don't bother that much either way

WhiteningMcClean · 2019-04-30T11:10:00+00:00

My ability to pair bond has been fucked from the start so sure, why not?

[deleted] · 2019-04-30T13:58:31+00:00

We already are called like that. Usually by fat feminist women

Suck-Less · 2019-04-30T16:35:34+00:00

I’ve turned down sex before. Either I wasn’t attracted to her, or I knew she wanted more than just sex. The truth is, I prefer an emotional connection with sex. I’m really trying to fix this problem though ;)

LeadInfusedRedPill · 2019-04-30T19:33:35+00:00

how would you feel if you were called a gross fuckboy by many women because of your high sex drive and woman count

Lol sounds like projection to me

CamoWoobie100 · 2019-04-30T12:13:04+00:00

Yes I would.

It depends on how pervasive "fuckboy shaming" would be. If it was equivalent to slutshaming. I would definitely take it into account and just be like sluts are today and keep it on the DL and just fuck tinderellas.

That being said, no I dont think women should get a pass on being a slut just because men would do it more if they could, which I'm pretty sure is what you are hinting at. Men and women arent the same.

Men, would you sleep around with women more if you had the opportunity to?

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