Have you ever noticed that there's few "how to get laid" articles outside the PUA/manosphere community?

CainPrice · 2019-03-26T16:37:51+00:00

The casual sex culture is intended to be discreet, private, and exclusive. There are certain behaviors people who are a part of the causal sex culture do to signal interest and availability for hook-ups to each other. Casual sex people know who's down and who's not, and how to act to signal that they're a casual sex person to other casual sex people so they don't expect relationships and know that you don't expect one.

If you're not a part of the casual sex culture and you don't know how it works, you're not supposed to be able to fake it and sneak your way into it. It's a lot of drama and aggravation when a woman accidentally has sex with a guy who's not part of the game and he becomes judgmental or over-attached.

Trying to sneak into the casual sex game when you're not a part of the culture is very taboo.

TheJim66 · 2019-03-26T11:11:08+00:00

Because "how to get laid " is by definition pua/manosphere material.Its like saying outside of cooking magazines /sites there are no how to cook articles.

Is it because most men don't struggle in finding sex and hooking up? I suppose that would make sense, getting laid is something that is not meant to be hard. She either likes what she sees or she doesn't. And despite evo psych bullshit; women are only picky if he is unattractive to her, otherwise those panties are coming off (if there's no social consequences).

Is this bizarro world?

When you hear guys talk about things that are frustrating or difficult; it's their jobs or their interests/hobbies/activities. Not bringing some girls from tinder home.

Yep,definitely bizarro world.

Seriously though, are you that out of touch with reality?

Eastuss · 2019-03-26T09:20:04+00:00

Why there are not articles about getting laid?

Because getting laid is easy

But only if man is attractive

Barbling

Real men don't find it difficult

Real men seek relationship and not sex

That's lot of useless text just to say "men who need trp are bad".

-TheGreasyPole- · 2019-03-26T10:04:32+00:00

There is demand for this stuff, TRP shows that.

I agree that demand isn’t well served by the MSM. But I think that’s due to an unwillingness to supply it rather than lack of demand for it.

Basically, mainstream outlets want to make money. Attracting a horde of SJWs and Women trying to shut you down is bad for making money. And telling guys “ways that work” to get NSA sex attracts people trying to get your site shut down and advertisers to unsubscribe as an internet mob forms.

You can’t go wrong telling women and men stuff that’s good for women, that’s a license to print money. Telling women things that are bad for men seems to get a pass too. Telling men things that are bad for women gets you hounded and/or demonetised and/or advertisers withdrawn.

The mainstream responds to the incentives put in front of it.

TRP steps in to fill the gap this leaves in mainstream advice.

rus9384 · 2019-03-26T11:06:12+00:00

Not bringing some girls from tinder home.

There are quite many "How to make a good Tinder account" articles. Saw one such question on Quora. So, that one thing is popular anywhere.

Now, regarding other things. Two points.

I'm not a Westerner, so things might be different.
The information might be outdated.

I saw things like "How to spot a slut", "How to seduce ANY girl" and even "Use this gum/sweets to make her horny". I was not into manosphere, to be honest. Apparently, I saw them in ads, before I installed AdBlock. So, if that shit was everywhere, apparently it's a popular problem. I guess in the liberated West there are more sexually liberal girls. SInce that, there are less problems with getting laid.

However, if it's so easy to get laid, why are there so many incels?

coratoad · 2019-03-26T17:25:27+00:00

Maybe most normie men dont care about picking up hoes for casual sex and want relationships.

[deleted] · 2019-03-26T20:38:36+00:00

I feel if you’re a person that need these articles, then the advice won’t work for you. Fact is there is only one piece of advice to help men get laid: Be Attractive. That’s it. If you’re wondering what you’re not getting laid then the answer is you’re just not hot enough. You’re not coming off too strong or not strong enough, it’s not that you’re not saying the right things, you’re just not hot enough. You either get laid or you don’t, there’s not potential unless you’re revamping your looks.

Gravel_Roads · 2019-03-26T10:05:52+00:00

It's all how to have a successful relationship, how to sustain a romance, that stuff. Very little how to be a stud that bangs the whole sorority house.

...uh, duh? Because thirsty men who want casual sex with no intention of commitment are, by their very concept, unattractive to women. So even for the men who are looking for these things, it's best to not be very overt about it.

However, magazines and media will subliminally suggest what is culturally attractive at any given time. Women's magazines have a million pictures of skinny chicks talking about how to lose weight, how to do their make-up, how to style their hair... Women aren't reading tutorials on "How to Score With Men", but they do try to emulate the way women look in magazines.

Now look at GQ magazine. Look at how the men dress in men's magazines. How they style their hair, what sort of scent they wear, how they hold themselves, their "DGAF" expressions and casual demeanor. Look at the environments they are pictured in - fancy bars, beautiful outdoors, being generally "men about town".

Emulating these men is essentially "Looks Maxing", same as women emulating women's magazines.

The reason there aren't any "How to get Laid" articles is because most of the time it's massively circumstantial. Even RP doesn't really have a lot of suggestions on where to go specifically (because it depends on where YOU wanna go), or how to talk specifically (because it's dependent on the environment you've chosen), or who to approach specifically (because it'd dependent on your personal tastes.)

Media can only show you what is considered "generally attractive". Everything else depends on what you want out of a scenario.

Just look at how confused the poor novices on askRP get about whether they're even "allowed" to have LTR's, because they "heard you're supposed to spin plates and not commit". For these dudes, anything more specific is just giving them an awkward script that they'll try to follow then inevitably fail because they don't even know what they'd doing and neither does anyone else.

sm0089 · 2019-03-26T10:08:58+00:00

That is because the topic of "how to get laid" for men is viewed almost as a taboo in the mainstream media and society. Society wants/expects boys to grow up to become providers and have husband-material qualities. Boys becoming (or wanting to become) studs and sleeping around goes against the social narrative.

celincelin · 2019-03-26T09:25:24+00:00

Just goes to show how "taboo" this topic is.

Also, men who know how to get laid "naturally" aren't on the manosphere, but since they are Alphas, they need help staying in relationships they've told themselves they want hahaha.

Further observations would be that since women can only really "see" the top 20% of men relative to their SMV, these articles usually written by "dating gurus" which are either women talking about Alphas or Alpha men talking about "just be yourself/buy her chocolates as a surprise", which when misapplied by manosphere men, makes them a "creep". I say none of this with malice, only factually, as someone, like many men of my age, who spent more time than we should googling "what do women want" and "how to build confidence" before TRP. I am well aware of the male clickbaity dating industry.

TheLongerCon · 2019-03-26T10:00:44+00:00

I hear plenty of men bitching about women

Do you know that most suicides in the marines aren’t actually related to PTSD, but their wife cheating on them?

Most men have women problem. Most plumbers aren’t surrounded by hot chicks.

concacanca · 2019-03-26T09:59:47+00:00

Lol. I used to read FHM magazine as a teen. They had all sorts of articles like this. There was even a guide on how to get strippers into bed lol. How effective they were IDK.

I'm sure if you read menshealth, artofmanliness etc they will all have stuff like this. However I will say that I think a lot of this stuff in recent times has stemmed from The Game in the same way as I guess some of RP does.

tiger1296 · 2019-03-26T11:41:45+00:00

Mainstream people live mainstream lives, trp was originally made for people who can't get girls easily, then the incels got wind of it and it snowballed into something else

dicklord_airplane · 2019-03-26T12:40:44+00:00

You are very out of touch reality. I don't think you have much experience with average straight men. Its like everything you know about men came from a book or the internet.

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diffdedbed · 2019-03-26T13:07:16+00:00

I don't look as PUA stuff as about how to get laid. I mean I'm sure it is for some who are really bad with women, but thats not what I think of it.

PUA stuff is for getting women who normally would be out of your league or hard to approach. Its basically how to get attention and hopefully not look creepy doing it.

ilptrandom · 2019-03-26T17:48:03+00:00

A lot of men who want casual no-strings sex with attractive young women just pay for it. They hire a hotel room, they call a number, they fuck the girl, they pay her, they are back to their ordinary life doing their ordinary recreational activities without the need to learn a whole bunch of shit that isn't particularly relevant to their job or their interests.

caseynotcasey · 2019-03-26T17:48:46+00:00

I think it's a tautology - any such article would be condemned as part of the manosphere lol

darudeboysandstorm · 2019-03-26T18:14:29+00:00

Getting laid isnt nearly as difficult as it is to deal with the people you have sex with.

Getting laid isnt an art in itself, people skills are. If people were smart and wanted to get laid they would study different things than what they are looking for.

I liked the book crucial conversations, maybe it would help some spergs.

NockerJoe · 2019-03-27T04:23:14+00:00

I'm not a PUA but I've seen a few of their videos and my impression is that these guys aren't about casual drunken flings and most of what they talk about is relationship stuff. Most of the self-help relationship stuff I read is also geared towards multi-date stuff. The only difference is the processes are fairly similar up to a certain point and their audience is awkward nerds who need the process broken down from step 1.

That's not to say stuff like Tinder isn't hard on guys. No man I know has ever really relied on it and the ones who swear by it are women who got their dates/boyfriends using it. It's just that the difficulty is the default and thus doesn't get spoken about in the same way you don't talk about the bricks behind a banksy piece or the water that lemonade comes from. You talk about the exception and not the norms.

AngryNurse2019 · 2019-03-28T12:11:19+00:00

Because it never was about “how to get laid”. It was about hating women, from the very beginning.

[deleted] · 2019-03-31T01:20:12+00:00

Because women don't want sex, they want relationships, and women control the media.

AngryNurse2019 · 2019-05-01T04:21:53+00:00

Because it was never about getting laid. It was about hating women. They’ve kept their focus on that.

Thotasaurus_Rex · 2019-03-26T12:16:28+00:00

Most men do struggle to have sex, especially when you consider that the top 10% of men have over 50% of the sex.

squiddy_s550gt · 2019-03-26T19:14:33+00:00

Growing up in the 90s there was tons of advice for young men to help them get laid, but it wasn't specifically about girls. It mostly centered around lifting weights or becoming successful.

Back then we knew what we had to do to attract women. We knew the jocks and the business men got laid.

Most of us grew up with fathers back then to teach us how to"be a man". My dad told me you only get what you work hard for

smokecheck1976 · 2019-03-26T09:32:17+00:00

Well, the first problem I see is that you were clearly reading women's magazines. (This line is a throaway joke since irony doesn't come across on the internet.)

There are magazines that address these issues, however the advice article is usually either on the page adjacent to or opposite a picture of a naked woman.

There is some truth in what you are saying about what I will call advertising, and that a hard desperate sell is these least likely effective method. That said, good salesmen are the ones that learned from a whole lot of bad sales and bad pitches, and a good mentor did nothing but shorten the learning curve. One woman wants Mr. Perfect who brings her flowers and takes her on a date, the next wants some guy "that just needs a little fixing", another wants a guy that is bold, the one after that wants a guy that is a little shy. It's my job to figure out what she wants and sell her on that. I would much rather take a romp through the sorority house than ever be in a relationship ever again.

Title	Have you ever noticed that there's few "how to get laid" articles outside the PUA/manosphere community?
Author	BlessedRainsAfrica
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Date	March 26, 2019 9:13 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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