Q4Men: Do you approach women during the day or night? Why/Why not?

a-WaltzingMatilda · 2019-02-12T00:54:14+00:00

First things first:

Invest in an unmarked white van

This is of paramount importance.

Everything you do after that is golden.

Pull up to a woman at night and yell “get in the van” and she’ll admire your intimidating bravado, if she protests, qualify it with “now bitch”. The assertion levels here will even get other females in the area interested.

Pull up to a woman during the day and yell “get in the van”, and she’ll be intrigued. You own a van, you’re clearly a man of means, a self-starter, a business owner, your own man, and above all “a provider”. You pay your taxes. You are catnip to women.

Follow these simple rules and your dating options will increase exponentially.

hammerhaunts · 2019-02-12T00:15:27+00:00

I dont ever approach women

concacanca · 2019-02-11T22:24:36+00:00

I like to jump out from dark alleyways in the dead of night.

IroningBoard9191 · 2019-02-12T02:30:04+00:00

I've had sex with a double digit number of women. All of them I met online, I would likely be a virgin if it wasnt for the internet. I've tried approaching IRL, but either I got rejected or was too nervous to try and close, a few most likely wouldve said yes though. Definitely have gotten IOIs I didnt follow up on, but most girls "signaling" were ones I wasnt attracted to.

I'm actually extremely fucking nervous around women IRL that I didnt meet through the internet. I can only do well when I'm in my element, which is starting off warm. I'm unable to take it from cold to warm purely IRL.

Melohdy · 2019-02-12T01:05:05+00:00

During daylight face to face, from behind at night.

[deleted] · 2019-02-11T22:22:14+00:00

Both.

Do you only approach women at night? At the club/bar?

Yes, yes.

Do you approach women during the day? Assuming you never had contact with this woman before?

Yes, yes.

Why/Why not?

Sexual drive.

I also am at my job 90% of the time. Having something to look forward to at my bed is one of my only pleasures. (the only ones being sleeping, gaming and eating)

Why would I not do that? I have access to thousands of new women each semester because of my career/study choices and we will probably not gonna see each other again... so not much of a problem.

wtffellification · 2019-02-12T08:34:41+00:00

I don't approach women. why not? because the best reason for doing so, I find, is "so I wouldn't be alone in the future". that's not a good enough reason I feel

Loban8990 · 2019-02-12T11:22:12+00:00

Never. I work too hard to get Metoo'd. I only talk to them if I have to. And if I have to I always keep it on topic and professional. No personal questions.

CrestfallenWolf · 2019-02-12T06:33:15+00:00

No.

Why the FK would I.

PearsOfWrath · 2019-02-12T11:46:06+00:00

Night. Preferably while they are asleep.

[deleted] · 2019-02-12T13:36:47+00:00

I only approach women in any serious manner at social events like parties or clubs where I know they're there to socialise and expect to get hit on. They're much more receptive and much less likely to think it's weird a stranger is chatting them up.

Cold approaching is an utter waste of time and I've never bothered to do it. Even most of the "PUA's" will tell you the success rate of this is very low.

That said if I happen to get talking to a girl in my day-to-day life I will usually get a bit flirty. Not for any particular purpose, just because that's how I naturally am when I talk to cute girls. I come off flirty. This isn't an attempt to actually go further though. I still do it now even tho I have a gf. As I said it's just how I come off, it's not a conscious effort.

So to answer your question I approach at night since that's when parties happen and clubs open.

wokein · 2019-02-12T00:41:39+00:00

I don't approach women at all. I always scare them away.

A lot of men use online dating even though it bears little success

I love it when a woman mansplains things, especially when its a feminist as clearly us men have no clue about our own experience.

Modernlaugh · 2019-02-12T00:05:15+00:00

I used to but then that Gillette ad happened and I learned not to do that

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MrHerbSherman · 2019-02-12T00:38:31+00:00

I honestly just use tinder. I guess I go out and do the odd approach here and there if it feels right in a given situation but tinder is so much easier

Cho_Assmilk · 2019-02-12T01:14:42+00:00

I approach women anytime I feel like it cause I'm married and have no intention of anything further than flirtatious conversations. It takes all the need to succeed out of the equation, thus making it considerably easier.

Pastelitomaracucho · 2019-02-12T05:09:27+00:00

I don't approach women.

capablanca2018 · 2019-02-12T10:48:07+00:00

I never approach. It'll usually be considered unwanted unless it's at a club and ONS territory. Pretty much nobody "approaches" women outside of clubs or work.

SyrusDrake · 2019-02-12T12:32:05+00:00

I never approach women, regardless of setting. It would be rude and not appropriate for someone like me. It might make them uncomfortable and that's too high a price to pay simply for me not being single.

Tedesche · 2019-02-12T13:42:31+00:00

I only approach romantically after getting to know the girl first. The first “date” is never a date. It’s a friendly lunch, preferably with others present, preferably my friends or hers. It’s a coffee break or an extended conversation born of small talk. She won’t see my place until I’m ready for her to spend the night there. And when I finally do approach, it’s not very romantic; it’s pretty upfront, honest, and always with a relatively discrete “out” for her—I usually make it clear I assume the answer is no unless she says otherwise in the near future. Gives them time to think about it.

I’m not vouching for the effectiveness of this strategy in getting lots of ass—that’s obviously not what it’s meant for. It’s kept me clear of most of the trash out there, and helped me navigate my own neuroses and anxieties about the dating “game.” It’s worth mentioning that the above process usually comes to a halt in the beginning stages, because I’ve found that most pairs of people have some pretty significant incompatibilities that you only catch on closer inspection. These are best done before the “relationship” has even begun IMO; less pain for everyone involved.

decoy88 · 2019-02-12T14:24:13+00:00

I used to. Nighttime can be scary, speshly if you’re black, I’d stick to daytime/idle situations where they didn’t look busy.

The fact that I like talking and getting to know new people in general helps a ton also.

But Tinder made me lazy....so lazy. I’m very out of practice, and I also don’t need to anymore.

[deleted] · 2019-02-12T16:01:52+00:00

I don’t go out on any task looking to pickup women. That should never be the objective unless you want to deal with frustration

I do go out to talk to people/strangers, interact with community, etc. if I’m at a coffee shop, a workout class, a grocery store and there’s an opening (clear ‘IOI’) then I don’t mind starting a conversation and trying to get a number. But this isn’t “oh there’s a pretty girl in the room time to talk to her” and more “I’ve talked to the cashier about her hair, this older woman who I see regularly about how her kids are doing, and this new person could be interesting”

Can’t stress enough how much easier it is to talk to women you find attractive If you talk to everyone. There is no “break the ice” build up to the conversation. Your ice is already crushed and lying all over the damn place

darudeboysandstorm · 2019-02-12T16:33:31+00:00

I approach the lady at the coffee shop for coffee, afterwards I gave her a tip. If she was wearing a wedding ring is this cuckoldry?

[deleted] · 2019-02-12T16:36:59+00:00

Nope. A woman at the store is not looking for meeting someone. Just like I don't like it when a woman comes on to me at the store. I'm looking for socks not to be flirted with.

Only on dating website because they are there for that purpose.

[deleted] · 2019-02-12T18:31:51+00:00

No because women find me creepy.
I'm fat, unattractive and weird.

dicklord_airplane · 2019-02-12T20:39:49+00:00

I very rarely approach strange women. Cold approaches are awkward and they rarely go anywhere where i live because women are extremely suspicious of random guys. I usually only approach women who are in my network or hobby spheres in some way.

gabriot · 2019-02-12T22:50:16+00:00

Night was less pressure, but day allowed you to "punch above your weight" so to speak because of how much more courage it took (and I've found it's a huge turn on to women when you "act like a man")

leftwingsoysquad · 2019-02-13T00:35:41+00:00

Daygame is good for friendships/relationships/flings. If I see a chick I'm interested in, I'll drop a compliment about what attracted me to her "aren't you colourfully dressed?!"

I've actually gone from "my phone's dead, do you have the time?" to a conversation on the bus, "hey I'm really enjoying talking with you, wanna stop off at my place for a beer?" to having my dick in her mouth shortly after. It just takes a) balls b) genuine honesty (women can sniff out lines/game etc) and practice.

You have to gauge her interest/IOIs and escalate quick, use KINO, set the frame GENERALLY but the "trick" really is "JBY" - you can't be a liar, or a bullshitter - if you're gonna neg her, neg her about something she's deserving to be negged for. I personally use negs as a "calibration" mechanism - if she can playfully take teasing, she's the kind of chick I want to be around, they're getting rarer and rarer.

Clubs are good for P&D or multi-bangs, but I've cut out the "scene" entirely and just do organic approaches these days (then flake) as I am in monk mode and I kinda enjoy leading them to "no I don't have a boyfriend" and then "well hey hopefully I'll see you around then *wink*" and walking away... The looks on their face are priceless, and I know if I see them again and approach that they WILL remember me and they'll be primed for whatever. I actually DO hope I'll see them again, so they're gonna pick up on that honesty/smile/microexpressions and body language when I do.

beachredwhine · 2019-02-13T01:33:59+00:00

I "approach" women all the time. Old women, young women, men too. Everyone. I am very good at memorizing names and faces and I frequently open them by asking what their name is. In this day and age a lot of people find that in itself shocking. A lot of the younger girls get all excited I think cause they think I'm going to ask them out or to get to know them better but I don't do that anymore since I'm married. I'm just very social.

Later I'll often see someone I've chatted with and I'll say hi and use their name. That seems to really shock young women I suppose they think I'm stalking them or something. Whatevs. Never had any problems since I'm not stalking them. If I see them again and say hi again maybe a month later I've had them say, "do I know you?" and I just chat away and tell them who I am again and be my normal pleasant self. That seems to get them back into realizing I'm just a chatty friendly guy.

I've gotten people's names wrong as well. Multiple times. This guy I would see every now and again eventually asked me why I kept calling him Marco. "uhh cause that's your name?" He laughed and said no my name is Jessie. A few months back he told me he worked for black rifle coffee company and gave me five bags of their coffee to try out. Good stuff!

despisedlove2 · 2019-02-13T03:53:44+00:00

I don't approach them at all.

equanimous_samsara · 2019-02-13T10:37:24+00:00

No, I don't want to be anyone's boyfriend, so why would I approach her? If I'm "lucky" she'd say yes, and instead of being rewarded you just proceed to the next stage, where it's on me to make everything happen while she passively agrees or puts obstacles in the way. Then you proceed to the next stage, where it's on me to make sure we build closeness and attraction. What makes any of it worth it?

It's good for an ego boost, not much else. At least with online dating you can meet up, fuck, and be done with it with far less bullshit.

IndependentBowler · 2019-02-13T15:32:40+00:00

I don't approach women (in a sexual/romantic context. There are times when I will consciously or unconsciously move in a direction towards at least one woman.) Why would I approach someone (of either gender) and interrupt whatever they are doing?

Whenever I am out of the house I am usually doing something. And when I am doing something, I tend to be, you know, wanting to do that thing. It might be walking to somewhere, working on something, shopping, or so on. Usually I want to do that thing well, and I usually perform whatever it is I am doing the best when I am not distracted by other things.

Again, why would I interrupt someone who is most likely doing something and distracting them from doing whatever it is they are doing by interjecting my presence in their life?

SerpentCypher · 2019-02-11T22:38:29+00:00

I don't approach women. I'm like the guy version of your average PPD woman. I get inundated with constant attention from girls every time I leave the safety of my house.

_Neon_Shadow_ · 2019-02-12T00:38:40+00:00

Do you only approach women at night? At the club/bar?

No. I don't go to clubs/bars.

Do you approach women during the day? Assuming you never had contact with this woman before?

Yes.

Why/Why not?

Because I find them enthralling for one reason or another. So why not? All the women I've approached have responded positively, it brightens their day. It makes me feel good to make them happy, even if they shoot me down.

[deleted] · 2019-02-11T22:18:54+00:00

I approach both day and night because it's the only way to meet women.

online dating is trash, the quality of women willing to meet a regular guy aren't worth it, especially since men vastly outnumber women online, this allows women to have higher standards and inflated sense of self worth.

Ordinate1 · 2019-02-12T04:30:42+00:00

Title	Q4Men: Do you approach women during the day or night? Why/Why not?
Author	wokein
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Date	February 11, 2019 10:07 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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