I am a 35 year old male with a partner who cheated on me who is 32. -I am a psychologist myself so have the ability to have great insight. Doesn't mean in my own life I always do but with help of my own therapy through this I will add insights that are not soley based on my un-insightful thought process but will add the benefit of the insight I later gained which was often after the fact.
I found a phone bill that she had asked me to print out. I noticed a shit-load of texts and calls to a phone number that I asked her about that night. It turns out it was her ex-bf.
Now she broke up with her ex-bf 3 months before meeting me. I had also known openly that she remained in contact as she would travel often for work and she would leave her 3 dogs at his house to watch them for this last year of the relationship. I was fine with that, never jelous and she told me they remained friends. We almost lived together after 2 months so I wasn't even worried remotely about them spending time together as we spent almost all the time together unless she was out of town.
Well when I found this phone number, I went back and looked at the last 12 months of phone records and saw an insane amount of calls and texts to her ex for the past 12 months-since we had been together. Way more than any normal ex relationship. I read her texts on her phone and she was still sending him pictures and found out she had lied and met up with him on her birthday a few months back for lunch. She told me she was going out with a friend.
She confessed she had remained friends with him, never told him she was dating/living with a new guy and simply wanted a friendship with him. I was pretty upse. Here is the text
Her-Happy birthday-I cant believe it is a year since I have seen you
-Him-I still miss the way you taste-
-Her-Did you like my pics?
-Him-I want one of your pussy
-Her-That is for in-person only. I am still waiting on out second date-
-Him-well last time you met me, you left me for some other guy
-Her-lol-you know that's not true-I explained the situation
-Her-Don't worry I will send you more pics.
I about died.