I see this come up a lot, with the latest example here. Many of the respondents are referring to MRA and other men complaining about feminism as "whiney," which is used as a pejorative to ridicule and demean people who have grievances. "Whining" is typically associated with children who have some petty complaint. Oftentimes, the response might be someone saying things like "here's the smallest violin in the world playing just for you."
The key thing to note is that to accuse someone of "whining" is also a manipulative tactic as a way of saying that the "whiner's" complaint is insignificant or not worth consideration. It is, in fact, a value judgment and an attempt to set oneself up as an authority as to which issues are worthy of complaining about and which ones are not.
There are plenty of issues and tragic events in which people might complain, whine, cry, or even wail in despair. But not all of them would be considered "whining." Those who identify others as "whiners" are very selective and inconsistent in their observations, indicating that it's not the act of "whining" which they're addressing, but the implication that the issues someone is "whining" about should not be considered important or significant enough to address in earnest.
Another thing of note is that, in addition to "whining" being associated with children, it's typically other children who are the ones calling them that. So, to call someone a "whiner" is really quite childish and immature, and it says more about the individual making such an accusation than the person they're directing it at.
I'm not saying that people shouldn't do it. After all, we have Free Speech, so people can whine as much as they want, just as others can whine about the whiners. It's all good. Maybe the MRA and their fellow travelers are whiners, but I would think that mature adults should be able to hold it together long enough to at least hear them out, listen to their complaints, and possibly even address a point or two.
I would also add that those who accuse others of "whining" are being deliberately provocative and could be indirectly responsible for inciting violence. This is not good. It's not really your place to judge the value of other people's pain, and it's certainly not a good idea to provoke people or pour gasoline on a fire. I would suggest that blue pillers abandon this particular tactic and stick to the issues instead.
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