My woman of one year wrote me a love letter. Very positive, very good... very telling. I have work to do.

dontdrinkthekoolade · 2015-01-22T17:15:31+00:00

Awesome interpretation. I highly doubt I would've picked up on that if I had been in your position. Just another reminder to always improve. Thanks OP!

BlackHeart89 · 2015-01-22T19:06:42+00:00

OP... keep in mind, some women are down for the good guy. Just read her carefully. Sometimes, simply being a masculine man is enough. No complaining like a bitch and handling your business like an adult is sexy to women.

Also, women who are trying to settle down try to avoid talking about sex too much in heart felt letters and shit. They don't want to seem like a whore. As long as she's fucking you good, she finds you sexy.

projectself · 2015-01-22T17:16:21+00:00

if you think you need to be more exciting, do it for you. not her.

do not change a thing "for her", or for any woman.

Nofappin2015 · 2015-01-22T17:15:53+00:00

It's stuff like this regarding TRP that's really struck a chord with me. In the past, I'd receive words like this from a gf, and I'd think "Wow I'm doing a really good job!" and I'd start slacking off.

Now, I'm with you. I recognize that maintaining my role as her sex god is extremely important, and I can't slack off when it comes to keeping her excited and on her toes. A nice, predictable, stable man is boring to her. To be my best, I have to be that stable man while also maintaining the beast she was attracted to when we first started dating.

sociosexualstatus · 2015-01-22T18:25:03+00:00

Mate, in my experience, whenever a girl sent me a love letter, it was because she felt guilty about losing her attraction over me. It usually coincided with her cheating or thinking about cheating, so whenever I get a long email or a love letter from a girl, I always assume that she is getting bored with me and wants to cheat on me.

dadu83 · 2015-01-22T18:24:48+00:00

How exactly does one build excitement? My go-to is to do spontaneous stuff...like an impulse vacation on a long weekend or similar.

But how does someone like OP who is a full-time dad manage to pull off something like that? I guess he could if he took the kids along (or maybe he finds a sitter for the weekend)? I am clueless about family life!

2015-01-22T20:05:00+00:00

Keep in mind this is a love letter. Not a lust letter. Your sex life with her would be a better test of whether of not you're fulfilling the AF role.

In otherwords, just because she has the fuzzies doesn't mean she's not feeling tingles as well. Examine the other aspects of the relationship to determine if shes got the hots.

lazypengu1n · 2015-01-22T17:09:03+00:00

Here's the true test of your beta or alphaness:

Did you write her one back

runnerrun2 · 2015-01-22T18:21:45+00:00

Read "The Sex God Method". Don't let the title fool you that it's something macho, it's very insightful and has great tips for your situation in how to increase attraction. It's mostly about what happens in the bedroom as the title suggests but the advice generalizes well and it explains the mentality to adopt. Put some manliness in there and she'll be happily surprised. As will you how positively they respond to this.

rpscrote · 2015-01-22T20:05:20+00:00

Of course don't forget being stable is highly important for your children. When you cant be both exciting and stable, it seems you've made the right choice to be stable for your kids over "exciting" for some replaceable woman.

Good post though. I'm sure there are ways you can do both

flexiblehold · 2015-01-23T06:34:42+00:00

My interpretation is you are a beta bucks to her, and that's fine if it's ok with you. Beta's get laid and in their own ways can find happiness. It's just that you might also find out one day she's banging on the side an irresponsible chain-smoker who rides a motorcycle and is a "painter."

I think you're on to something... Why did she not write a flirty, sexy letter, telling you how when you did that thing to her she came 14 times and she needs it again soon? Or whatever...

She's praising you for having your shit together, but that's not the aspect of yourself to offer a woman in sexual transaction. It's so close to having your greatest asset be "niceness." If woman's primary praise is how "nice" you are, that's a problem in the alpha/beta continuum if you ask me.

Just my 2 cents, thanks for posting and best of luck.

Edit: fixed awkward wording

nsummy · 2015-01-22T20:08:14+00:00

Well what are you worried about exactly? That you aren't exciting? or that she seems you as submissive?

If you honestly don't have anything to complain or grumble about, don't start now to "prove that you are alpha." That would be no different than the mini-dramas women create for no reason. And most guys would kill to be in a situation in life with nothing to complain about.
Everyone is different but I would rather have a woman notice how responsible, hard working, and positive I am than have her talk about my "sexiness." There are a million good looking idiots out there that are empty once you are past their looks. Same with exciting. What do you want her to say? The stupid woman bullshit of "you are so random!" Try to hard to be exciting & you will look like an idiot.
Be yourself man. If you are happy with your life (sounds like you are) then live it. Don't tailor your shit for some woman, even one you love. Sure you might have to make small changes to accommodate behaviors that annoy her but when you change your personality you have lost it all. Some of the coolest people I know aren't exciting by any stretch but they have some aspect of their life that makes them cool, whether its stories, knowledge, etc.

Spontaneity does not equal excitement. Exciting does not equal interesting. Do you think your dumbass friend who still acts like he is in college is exciting? Is your exciting friend who does nothing but race mountain bikes interesting? There are a lot of dimensions at play. They say fake it until you make it, but in this case don't. When you fake you aren't confident and its obvious.

TL;DR Be yourself, gain knowledge, be open to new ideas, think outside the norm, new things, stay in shape, gain life experiences. You will be all set. You should do this whether you are single, married, or have a girlfriend.

BCFtrip · 2015-01-22T20:44:11+00:00

I'd like to point out that in my opinion, you have the hard part down already.

krimsen · 2015-01-22T22:58:10+00:00

dump the refined sugar and carbs and your energy will be through the roof in less than a month. But you must be strict.

2015-01-23T04:07:00+00:00

she is buttering you up for a stab in the back

BluepillProfessor · 2015-01-22T21:51:18+00:00

I always say: You can abuse some women and they will come crawling back to lick your hands but the one thing you cannot do is bore them.

This was not a love letter, she is hamstering for reasons to stay committed. She is bored. Don't do it.

Read The Sex God Method before you do anything else.

NakedAndBehindYou · 2015-01-22T21:15:44+00:00

She basically said you're a great beta bucks.

Beware...

Jigsus · 2015-01-22T18:04:31+00:00

Do you want to stay with this woman? It seems to me like she has reached that age when it's time "to settle down with the stable man"

2015-01-22T18:23:30+00:00

Up the dominance. Cultivate your inner 'I don't give a fuck' attitude.

You are probably a reasonably good catch. Most guys let their women walk all over them, its disgusting.

ostroman1989 · 2015-01-24T12:47:28+00:00

younger versions of you want double younger versions of her.

caveboy77 · 2015-01-22T19:28:38+00:00

You seem so desperate for women's approval that you've turn the red pill and being "alpha" into another way to let a woman control your life.

red_gerb · 2015-01-22T18:39:42+00:00

Its more like "I can get him to do everything without difficulty. Good slave."

She takes a place in your family and make your sons like her so that it would be harder for you to dump her. She is stealing commitment from you through your kids.

She is securing you as a beta buck. Plus different cities = very easy to cheat.

2015-01-22T23:06:28+00:00

So she likes a domesticated man, a safe man. That 'love letter' reads to me as you being 'a good boy', vert condescending, yet cleaverly disguised - such is the way of the female - as a conpliment.

Cant_Tell_Me_Nothin · 2015-01-22T19:12:28+00:00

I don't know the whole story but from the looks of it, I think your main problem is calling her your woman when you only see her on the weekends. That's more like plate status.

_xen · 2015-01-23T02:39:54+00:00

This sounds like a break up letter. It may be too late now.

ruskeeblue · 2015-01-22T18:45:39+00:00

becareful, make sure you get some sex out of this. I would never trust a woman who likens you to a house negro.

alpha4ever · 2015-01-22T18:48:14+00:00

This post is so beta and reads like some shit you'd see on /r/TwoXChromosomes. Be indifferent to both her praises and criticisms. Set your own standards and don't accept any sort of validation from her. I'd tear that letter up right in front of her and tell her that actions speak louder than words, then whip my cock out.

Doomsday_ · 2015-01-22T21:59:38+00:00

You need to make her jealous and keep her guessing.

Title	My woman of one year wrote me a love letter. Very positive, very good... very telling. I have work to do.
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Date	January 22, 2015 4:39 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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