LTR hooked up with a much better looking Chad right before me. Doomed?

AnneStaz · 2020-01-08T15:57:08+00:00

hahaha i like how you mentioned your bench max

amwfhunter · 2020-01-08T14:39:17+00:00

Fuck her and chuck her if you're so worried. Dude it doesnt really matter who she has been with, she is with you now. It is just your turn. Given your status she might be trying to settle up so I'd make sure you prenup that with the knowledge that matrimonial homes aren't covered. Rent a nice house and use a corporation or holding company to buy property as investments if u must. And have her sign off on the corporations.

theUnBannableHulk · 2020-01-08T14:55:57+00:00

6’5” and worried about a minimum wage phaggot.

Boy ... grow up before I fetch a ladder to reach up and slap you upside the head

Also you are a catch and should not be settling down with a 26 year old slooty, go get yourself some model looking bish from the village who’s a religious virgin so she doesn’t cuck your ass and take half your shit like the slootie pie 🥧 she is

CainPrice · 2020-01-08T15:40:38+00:00

That's just the past hookup you know about. If she's a girl who does hookups, by age 26, she's been with a dozen or two guys.

But this doesn't matter. Because you're not going to get married anyway.

Fuck her for as long as things last, move on when either you or she is done with things.

She is not yours, it is your turn. All relationships are temporary. So treat the relationship like it's temporary. Fuck her while she makes it easy, drop her when she makes it difficult, always be on the lookout for other women and if you find one you like better either cheat or trade this one for the better woman. If she happens to do that to you first, shrug and go find another girl.

You're not going to marry her, and the relationship is temporary. All relationships are. So treat it as such. Quit acting like there's such a thing as this magical permanent relationship with the perfect girl that never ends. Just enjoy the sex, don't get married.

Brodin69 · 2020-01-08T15:59:11+00:00

That's some weak sauce bench numbers. No wonder why she fucked that dude.

2020-01-08T17:24:12+00:00

On paper, you win, but the fact that youre here asking about this means that in the long run you are gonna lose. YOU ARE COMPARING, not her, YOU ARE!!!

Comparison is the thief of joy, and youre creating your own downfall.

edit: on top of that you're worried about a fucking whore XD XD God damn dude just enjoy it while it lasts. Jesus posts like these make me so much happier about my own damn life.

2020-01-08T18:27:59+00:00

Imagine being worried about a pretty boy and introducing yourself as "I'm 6'5, 240. Max bench 285."

Women do not think like men. Yes, they find some guys "gorgeous". But just head over to emrata's instagram and look at one of her photos with her boyfriend. Check the comments and look at all those betas laughing with him because he's "ugly".

If you're gonna be insecure about the past guys she fucked, then yes, she'll leave you/fuck other guys/ you won't be good enough. You have to believe in your own self-worth as an individual. Not how tall you are, how much you weigh, how much you make, your fucking max bench.

Hungboy6969420 · 2020-01-08T15:05:57+00:00

Who cares , women are temporary

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-01-09T03:24:10+00:00

30 years old. Check.

6’5”. Check.

Own two businesses. Check.

The only questions here are, why are you not fucking… Whoever the fuck you want? Why don’t you run a soft harem?

2020-01-08T16:07:33+00:00

6'5 worried lmao

PhaedrusHunt · 2020-01-08T18:10:54+00:00

Let me ask you this Opie.

Have you seen what her mother looks like? That's what you're signing up for.

When I was 20 I had this 22 year old HB 9 smoking hot girlfriend. She was my one-itis blah blah blah (looking back though it's funny to think that even through my one-itis I still screwed around haha).

I stayed at her house with her family for a little while during the summer. Her mom was a shitshow amazingly ugly horrible personality big fat stupid mean the whole thing. I mean this bitch was mean to kittens. Her dad was a little simp.

And I thought what in the hell How did she come from these people? She'll always be beautiful she'll never look like her mother.

Fast forward 20 years. She looks like some combination of the worst versions of her mother and father. It happens dude It happens. although she has an identical twin sister that's somehow still hot so I don't know what the hell that's about lol. I would have banged the sister too but I knew she had herpes and I saved one of my best friends from hitting that shit.

Take a good look at her mom Opie. You are so far in this girl's frame and you are hamstering so hard over somebody that might pull a pin on a fat grenade in a few years

Pump the brakes and slow your roll dude

xoxuv · 2020-01-09T04:42:25+00:00

Edit: I wrongly read that she hooked after you started the relationship.

Look, all you mention about the dude doesn't necessarily makes him alpha.

Just trust your gut. If you have doubt, that's a problem which will not go away.

Women are expert at plausible deniability. That's why you have gut feelings.

It is wrong to search for "proof". There are other women which will not have that issue.

You have to keep multiple plates, all the time, so you do not become dependent of this type of "what if". It is not your duty to give her the benefit of the doubt. That's her problem. She has to prove herself. That's not your work.

You do not deserve to live in doubt.

atanoidserial · 2020-01-08T15:03:09+00:00

Like others say get a prenup,she knows she's gonna hit the wall and since you have all this...

bert_cj · 2020-01-08T16:08:54+00:00

You sound like a catch bro. She probably feels like she hit a major upgrade with you. You fear you might compare yourself later? Ehh it sounds like you blow this dude out of the water, only thing is he might have a better looking face but that’s not enough to get insecure about. What’s your body fat percentage?

yamicaGreenbowl · 2020-01-08T15:08:06+00:00

Don't worry about her past as far as your own status goes. She is with you now, the only thing her past should affect is how you view her and your future relationship. This is more telling of how you view yourself, you got a girl that could be with professional athletes right now and you decided to use that against yourself. This should be a boost to your status, and show you how the world spins. And she will compare you, she already has and your still in the running. Good on you. How exactly did you see these texts? Be more concerned about how worried this makes you, and lowering your status all on your own.

UrBallsAreShowing · 2020-01-08T19:01:27+00:00

Once has a LTR who had an ex husband who was a navy seal. When I learned that he was a seal, I almost packed it up. It bothered me for a while. Truth is though, he was a maniac with a shrimp dick. If your dick matches your hight, use that as your scale tipper. He can be 6’3 with a little dick all day.

Jaganshi93 · 2020-01-08T20:21:15+00:00

If you are worried imagine 5'8 guy. You sound like a bitch to me. Keep fucking her,dont care about others dudes and if she leaves you so what? yo need to change your mindset.

VigilantSmartbomb · 2020-01-08T22:16:19+00:00

It is nice getting some decent responses to stuff lately lol

Casd12 · 2020-01-08T22:26:05+00:00

You know what would be fucking hilarious? If the soccer player had the same insecure bluepill, pussy on the pedestal, I'm not the prize mentality that you have rn and she dumped him cus of that.

How does this not boost your ego? I would be like "damn that guys way better looking than me but I'm out here bagging her so I must be hella sick"

I know this guy at work, dude looks straight up like a movie star, but his mentality is bluepill as fuck and I can sense he's slightly insecure. So girls usually comes in with high interest and it's so sad to watch him fuck up. It's like watching a grown ass eagle attempt to fly and fail, and then get way too scared to attempt that flying shit again.

The same shit goes for girls, you can be the prettiest girl I've ever seen but if your mentality isn't right, I'll fuck you, brag to my friends and choose the next best thing instead.

Also don't be afraid to lose her, cus I feel like that's making your frame weak

2020-01-09T05:53:45+00:00

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LordFlakkko · 2020-01-09T06:23:56+00:00

Jesus I'm 5.10. Its over for manlets

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-01-08T18:25:35+00:00

Envy does not become you as a man.

You're the prize here. Not your LTR, not some dude she fucked in the past. You are.

The issue is you forgot that you're the prize.

Envy is the mentality of a little boy who is afraid his mother figure is going to ignore him and pay attention to his bigger brother.

Time to shrug off the remnants of the chrysalis of your childhood. You're the man in your life and you always have other options.

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2020-01-08T15:06:16+00:00

Why is this even a question?
Or was this before you started LTR?

Estebano_7 · 2020-01-08T15:35:53+00:00

What businesses do you own?

alphakari · 2020-01-08T16:18:48+00:00

Pussy. Worry about it if it happens.

Blue_Andre · 2020-01-08T16:26:20+00:00

Looks like a case of AWALT. And doesn’t look like she was serious about your “relationship.”

Looks > your business and max bench. I also doubt that you have higher status than he does, being a former professional soccer player (status = popularity and social authority).

Iluvalmonds83 · 2020-01-08T17:07:37+00:00

I think you’re worried too soon. You’ve only been with her 6 months. I read where you are looking to head towards marriage and kids; you really need to be focused on assessing her personality/demeanor/character(ie her overall RMV, not just her SMV) as well if you want to accurately vet this “LTR” for that goal. This chad sounds like he’s a hot mess; is that really comparable to you? You sound like the overall better prize, just need to actually convince yourself of that. If she’s of any high value, it makes sense as to why she ditched the ex soccer player for a higher value man(i.e. you ). You just need to make sure she’s worthy of your value for a committed relationship.

LeChumScrubber · 2020-01-08T17:30:53+00:00

you shouldn't feel "threatened" by anybody considering you stats. at the first gut instinct that her whore instincts are starting to kick in, cuck her first and then ghost.

beachbbqlover · 2020-01-08T17:31:53+00:00

Irrelevant. She's clearly picking you for a reason, so let her and stop worrying about it - unless you're asking because you want to marry her and raise all 8 of her kids?

Domebeers · 2020-01-08T17:50:00+00:00

Are you the rebound?

learning0007 · 2020-01-08T17:51:37+00:00

Who gives a shit

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-01-08T17:54:35+00:00

You're the prize here. Not him, not your LTR. You.

Envy is the trait of a frigtened child who is afraid his mother figure will pay attention to his older brother. Because you're somehow "unworthy" or "inferior." (This is because a child's ego wants to believe his parents were fair and just and wise.)

Envy does not become you as a man. There are fewer tendencies that are more unbecoming to you than envy. You stopped being a little boy a long time ago. Time to shrug of the remnants of the chrysalis of your childhood.

You're the man in your life and you always have options.

jc_806 · 2020-01-08T18:24:44+00:00

Dude it’s about the confidence you have in yourself.

2020-01-08T18:46:37+00:00

He’s obviously not interested in her. That Chad is fucking a million of girls right now. Probably can’t even remember your LTR’s name. Nothing to worry about.

ColossalEngineer · 2020-01-08T18:58:33+00:00

6 foot 5

thats when i knew it was a lie.

strainer123 · 2020-01-08T19:15:23+00:00

You're 6'5, 240 pounds, makes lots of dough and you think you're not the alpha? Relax man, you are the alpha, soccer players aren't even that muscular, they have bigger legs and whatever but you're probably bigger.

MrTheFalcon · 2020-01-08T19:34:25+00:00

Forget the girl. Are you good enough for yourself? Once you are comfortable with your position in life, then it won't matter who she was with before, unless she bring it up (which she has not). You're inside your own head about this.

mabden · 2020-01-08T20:02:01+00:00

>found out she hooked up a few times with a former professional soccer player

So fucking what. She is fucking you now, his turn is over. If you are worried she will jump back on his dick if he comes sniffing around, then you are insecure as others have pointed out. Your turn will only last as long as you either; want it to or you blow yourself out with this insecurity/beta bullshit.

>he's significantly better looking than me.

So fucking what. There will always be some other guy who is bigger, faster, better than you, past, present, or future.

> I own two businesses, have higher social status, and make more money than him

So fucking what.

> should I jump ship sooner than later?

You jump ship when she fucks up. So far the only person fucking up is you.

> I feel like she's always going to be comparing me to him.

You mean like when she is frigging herself after you are done fucking her? So far the evidence of this post suggests the only person comparing him to you, is you.

Get the fuck over it, move on, live life large, on your terms, with peace.

schwaebebaby · 2020-01-08T20:11:54+00:00

Fuck yall are some insecure alpha male types

Zanford · 2020-01-08T20:29:15+00:00

Cold truth time: the mere fact that you've been in an LTR for six months with this girl means you'er probably not the highest SMV guy she's ever fucked.

A girl will have a hardest time keeping around the highest-SMV guys, and she can potentially have a lot more ONSs than LTRs in her life b/c ONSs by definition don't take as long.

So if you LTR a girl, you just need to realize that, if you're in a Western metro area in 2020, odds are good she's fucked at least one 'alpha that got away'. If you can't handle that in principle, either avoid LTRs or screen for virgins.

Otherwise, this is a non issue. Has there been any indication she's still/back in contact with him? Has she been bringing him up in conversation? If you have no evidence she's been thinking about him since your LTR with her started, then there's nothing worse here than in a typical LTR with a modern metro-area thot, so this isn't really a reason to dump her unless you're swearing off LTRs in general. Or just bored of her and need to give yourself an excuse.

If what you said about your career and physical boy are accurate, and your game is decent, your SMV is good. But the kiss of death is if you let her know that this ex is 'getting to you' or you're insecure. Do not EVER bring him up, it might give her the idea to get back in touch with him .

Rage8150 · 2020-01-08T20:46:04+00:00

You're creating problems that don't exist. Everything sounds great right now and youre in a position many guys would love to be in. Enjoy it and quit overthinking.

illusiveab · 2020-01-08T21:00:15+00:00

6'5 240 and your max bench is 285? Lol I'm 5'11 175 and my max bench is 265. Get your fucking weight up my dude.

Sliw · 2020-01-08T21:01:31+00:00

Sounds like you're pre-emptively disqualifying yourself.

bionix90 · 2020-01-08T21:34:32+00:00

Man, this is just depressing when top tier men such as OP have to go through this.

Suchnamebro · 2020-01-08T22:11:36+00:00

This is the same post that gets reposted over and over again.

Hey guys I'm a super Chad and I work out. But I'm insecure about this other guy who I think is more Chadlier than I am.

My girl is a Victoria secret supermodel, who does what I want when I want. But she had another guy's pee pee inside her , should I dump her or cuck myself?!

SHUT UP!!!! STOP READING TRP and STOP OVERANALYZING!

Stop asking the internet to make decisions for you. That's not alpha.

Are you happy where you are right now ?! Yes ...then who gives a fuck and do what you want to do

Not happy then change what makes you unhappy

But please stop with these masturbation posts

EdvardMunch · 2020-01-08T22:35:39+00:00

If its good now its good now, you cant control the future or her desires. Jumping ship early is paranoia as is showing concern.

Focus on yourself and be happy for what it is now. Even the greatest loves and best relationships dont always last forever.

A lot of these critical comments and justification comments are just these guys projections and hamstering. Youre worried, thats it. But no point in worrying. Wanna end it so you dont worry then do it.

rockyp32 · 2020-01-08T22:44:27+00:00

She had sex with a hot dude before you? Did u have sex with a hottie before her? That didn’t have the LTR traits like she does? Doesn’t it seem crazy she might think u might leave her for an old hottie working a minimum wage job

SirAttackHelicopter · 2020-01-08T23:22:28+00:00

LTR of six months

6 months isn't LTR. This is the mindset most guys unfortunately have due to putting women up on a pedestal. This mindset also needs to change because this speaks volumes on how you view women, and how little you value yourself as a partner.

Gawernator · 2020-01-08T23:22:40+00:00

Curious how a pro soccer player has only a minimum wage job, doesn't sound real.

mksu911 · 2020-01-09T01:46:30+00:00

Sounds like she's ridden the carousel and you're her beta bucks

thechaosz · 2020-01-09T06:03:45+00:00

I feel like I don't need to say this, but you're obviously well above average in the Providing, Physical financial game to most men. I'm not as big as you but am in a somewhat similar life mode.

DO NOT EVER MARRY. DO NOT MAKE BABIES with her.

I don't care if you post in 7 years telling me about how it worked out this or that. Year 9/10 she gets "bored" and old Soccer dude moves back into town and whoos her on IG.

I've seen so many men get wrecked. Ok, this next part will come slowly. It's not even intentional sometimes, I did this younger with some sugar mommas.

If she starts expecting you to buy things. It will slowly creep in with drinks and dinner, then random gifts and clothes, then tix, then trips, then her part of the rent.

Just smash until it's ran it's course. Congrats on the find.

DonJuan_69 · 2020-01-09T07:34:30+00:00

If you cant control it, dont worry about jt. But jf it makes you feel that uncomfortable, enjoy it for a bit and switch to a new one.

Gaidsbola · 2020-01-09T14:28:31+00:00

FYI based on your size you shouldn’t be posting your max bench unless it’s at least 405.

MandingoMaasai · 2020-01-09T16:04:38+00:00

Interesting. Sounds like you are alpha bux and he alpha fux. She has found an alpha who has also piqued her hypergamy. You are successful, tall and muscular whereas he is exciting perhaps because of his looks and spontaneous nature. This is a guess because you haven't provided alot to go one. My advice? Enjoy the ride. Get more spontaneous and hit the gym more. I would also add that you should apply some passive dread.

alleyteris · 2020-01-08T14:59:51+00:00

What exactly do you Mena by "hooked up in front of me"? Do explain some more dude

Unbiased101 · 2020-01-08T20:45:40+00:00

Ur beta bux

DonJuan_69 · 2020-01-09T07:31:24+00:00

Max bench 285? Im 5’7 157lbs at 240 max bench.

Title	LTR hooked up with a much better looking Chad right before me. Doomed?
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Date	January 8, 2020 2:36 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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