- Recovering Drunk Captain, 10 weeks RP, DL1, Week 10
- Age 41, Height 6'3", Weight 216lbs, Waist 41", Neck 17", BF 24% (Navy)
- Wife 41, Married 18 years, Together 22, Kids 12 and 9.
- Lifts: LP 400x5, BP 235x5, DL 175x5, ROW 160x5, OHP (Injury)
- Finished: NMMNG, WISNIFG
- Current: MMSLP (85%)
FYI - I haven't been posting in OYS for the last three weeks because I am on a 28 day ban for being a total faggot. Basically I was trying to make myself feel better by saying there are other people posting on r/AskMRP who are worse off than me. I was acting like a pussy and I thank W&S and co. for calling my ass out AGAIN. The only person that I should be comparing myself to is me.
Anyway, the reason for my report is because my wife brought up divorce for the second time in 10 weeks. I have been holding frame consistently for the last several weeks by not losing control, not acting butt-hurt, not going Rambo, resetting every morning and playing my nice card, but also not rewarding her intolerable behavior. I have been keeping busy in and out of the house, playing with the kids and generally enjoying my life no matter how pissy and bitchy she is acting towards me. She expressed a lot of frustration that I seem to be "totally fine" and "happy" with my life without her. When I nodded in agreement she fucking flipped out and said she wanted a divorce. I said "that's fine with me" and announced I was going out for a few hours to run some errands.
When I came back I calmly told her that if she wanted to get an attorney she could take out a credit card in her name and use our shared account to make the minimum payment until the divorce was finalized. Her mouth fucking dropped and she began to sob. I asked her what was wrong and she said "I don't want a divorce! I just want you to react to me! I just want you to care!"
I immediately recognized this as another shit/comfort test. I said, "I care about you very much and I prefer that we stay together, but your current method of getting me to react is not working for me." She said that she didn't know what to do and I said, "Try being nice to me." I wiped her tears away and gave her a big hug. She continue to cry into my chest and I told her not to bring up divorce again. Then I left the room to go check on the kids.
Later that night after the kids were in bed, she approached me in the kitchen wearing panties and nothing else. Even though I am still not very attracted to her, I knew it would be the wrong move to turn down sex, so I lead her to the bedroom. We had not done it for a couple of months and I really gave it to her good. To my surprise, it felt amazing. I had a massive orgasm. I don't even remember if she got off or not but she cried afterwards. When I asked her why she said "I just feel emotional". I didn't think too much about it and snuggled up with her until we both fell asleep.
I still have a long way to go, but feel like I'm on the right track. Keep grinding my friends.