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[–]19Bubbles98FDS Newbie142 points143 points144 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Weird how men don't want their gfs revealing cos they think they are sex objects but they will stare at any women im their vicinity
[–]royaldetourFDS Newbie72 points73 points74 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Almost as if they assume every woman exists for the male gaze. And since he objectifies women, all other men do too.
[–]19Bubbles98FDS Newbie28 points29 points30 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So true. It's so obnoxious that men think women belong to them and that we are here for their pleasure.
[–]thinksimasparetireFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Being in this experience, I’m happy not to be dating that trash can anymore
[–]ChoiceScarfMienfooFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
it's because they are projecting as fuck!! their depraved ass stares at any woman within 2m2 and think disgusting nasty thoughts so they assume every other man would do the same to their SO
[–]tallwomenneedlovetooFDS Newbie100 points101 points102 points 3 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
I hate this. Hate it. I wear what I want, when I want, and my husband is more than happy to buy the clothes I want for me because they make me happy.
In college, I was shopping with a friend and her boyfriend and she picked up a pair of shorts. He took it, held it up to her body and said “fingertip check!” As though he was a principal policing this grown ass woman’s body in the name of keeping order! I popped him on the nose (like a dog with an ad paper they handed us at JC Penney when we walked in) so quickly that I didn’t even realize I’d moved. And do you think this dingy ass scrote offered to pay for the paltry selection of clothes that he approved of? Nope. Not even after I loudly hinted/told him that if he wants her to dress a certain way, at the very least, he ought to be subsidizing it.
Meanwhile, I was already married and he was making jokes that my husband “””lets””” me dress how I want because he gets some kind of sexual pleasure from other men finding me attractive. Nah, boy; he doesn’t “let” me do anything. He recognizes that I’m a grown woman into fashion and has no wish to have any say in what I wear beyond telling me I look gorgeous every time I leave the house. Because I do 💁🏾♀️
[–]caoutchouckFDS Newbie39 points40 points41 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Everything, and I repeat, EVERYTHING is sexual to these lowlifes, scum, trash, whatever you want to call them. I’d bet all my money that this absolute loser was a porn addict. Makes me want to GAG!!!
[–]strcrssdvoyagerFDS Newbie44 points45 points46 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So my friend has a lot of male friends and whenever I hang out with her, her male friends ALWAYS ask me "Is your husband ok with you hanging out with us?" "Will your husband be mad at you for being here with us?" "Are you sure your husband wants you riding in a car with us?"
It creeps me out and I sometimes end up going home earlier than I intended. It makes me think they have nefarious plans for the night and are afraid my husband is going to attack them or something. Why else would they care so much about my husband?
"Men respect men" after all.
[–]lilithdianaraFDS Newbie44 points45 points46 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Even in my worst pickme days, I’ve never let a man police what I wear. The idea of some dumb, jobless, premature ejaculator with a lower than hell EQ telling me what to wear thoroughly disgusts me. I LOVE wearing flattering clothing that shows off my best assets FOR me, so I can stare at myself in the mirror and take pleasure at the divine being in front of me. My mother, despite being a pickme, taught me growing up that being a woman means owning your clothing choices too.
Always find it funny when men make this about them. Like no sweetie, no woman buys expensive clothing to impress your dusty ass..
[–][deleted] 12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
And have you SEEN what they wear? 😂😂 no scrub who can’t dress himself is ever gonna have an opinion on fashion worth listening to.
[–]lilithdianaraFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. They’ll slap on some week-old underwear and a tshirt with holes... 😭🤣
[–]RamenUndergraduateFDS Newbie34 points35 points36 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My friend and I went to Sephora and we were so excited to check out new products. While I was grabbing items on the shelf like a mad man lol I noticed she would just follow me around. I figured money was tight.. so I just kept my opinions to myself. As we were browsing lipsticks she told me, "Tbh my husband just hates makeup. Especially lipsticks... he actually WORE my favorite dark lipstick to prove a point lol.. when I started laughing at him...he said he had the same reaction when I wore it. Now I know how ridiculous lipsticks look on me lol." I was like okayyyy .... we then headed to another store... again she was following me around everywhere... I picked up a shirt & she said,"My husband hates those type of clothes lol. He goes out with me whenever I need to buy new outfits... I don't really care about clothes anymore tbh... Lastime I was wearing a shirt and he told me it was too sexy ... he was there when we bought it!" (side note:her recent wardrobe ages her... she's 25) at this point I was so done w/ her I came to the mall to live my best life & spend my $$$$$$ lol not talk about your controlling as husband all day. Before we left the mall we headed to a restaurant & she order the cheapest thing and again said, "My husband doesn't want me spending too much... so I'm just going to order an appetizer & water." Girl.... I WAS DONE lol! I told her exactly how I felt about her man but she keept insisting he was a "good guy" I left it at that.... never invited her out again... let her live in peace w/ her cheap ass man. A couple months later she ended up calling me and you'd never guess who was being abused? I know right shocker!
[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist28 points29 points30 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Just remember, this kind of controlling behavior is one of the first signs of an abuser. A lot of dudes think it's fine so they will do it very early on. If you're two weeks into dating a man and he has started to tell you what you're allowed to wear or accusing you of things because you're dressed up looking cute, GTFO.
[–]Journalist_FullFDS Newbie41 points42 points43 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Mad that I have actually said this. I used to also say "my bf wont let me"
[–]judybloo7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Oof. Was the guy religious or was it more about having control over you?
[–]Journalist_FullFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Contorl. He was very verbally abusive
Oh sis, me too. He got mad at me for taking off my wet shirt bc it was drenched and I was cold because it was windy.
[–]petitpoupeeFDS Apprentice9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Had a friend like that (who belongs on the pickmeisha trone) who used to wear more revealing clothes before she met her groomer (he was 24 and she was 16) and uses his religion to tell her that she should hide her curves and wouldn’t let her wear things. Pickmeisha did it gladly and started calling girls sluts, whores... because they post pictures of themselves in bikini. She even stated that those girls didn’t respect themselves or their relationship and that their guy was cuckold to ‘allow’ such things 🤦🏽♀️ even FDS can’t help her tbh
[–]Confection_EfficientFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
So ridiculous. I had a bf who told me he didn’t like it when I wore lipstick. I was miffed and rebellious simultaneously. I decided that no man was going to dictate my physical appearance.
Later that day he picked me up for our fifth date in which I wore a full face of makeup and three layers of red lipstick :)
[–]Thr0Waway1989220 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lol, good on you!! Mind me asking how his reaction was to it? I'm assuming this is an ex as you said the phrase "had a boyfriend".
[–]Confection_EfficientFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes! He’s an ex.
He didn’t take it well. And not long after I broke it off. Dodged a bullet there. 😊
[–]gendpurrFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
my ex was like this, but instead, whenever i wore something revealing, he'd give himself points because he "let me."
one time, I was upset at him, because i didn't feel free, and i told him. he pulled up my social media, pointed at a pictures of me in a tank top, or a crop top, and said, "i let you post this, that's more than some guys would do." 🤢🤮
[–]afrodeasyakFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'd always cringe when friends would claim that their boyfriend or husband wouldn't approve of an outfit or item of clothing. Oh and cue the explanation after I clearly roll my eyes at them "It's not what you think! I actually love that about him" yeah sure ya do..NEXT
[–]Anti_DramaFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You should ask those friends "If your husband told you that you could wear it, would you?"
[–]coffeebagelsfordaysFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ugh. I read this and cringe so hard at my pickmeisha self back in the days. I thought my LV ex was right; that if he wasn't comfortable with what I wore I should be the one making compromises. It didn't matter that I wore this exact "problematic" clothes back before he cuffed me but all a sudden it made him uneasy.
FFS. I get so mad thinking about it now but I've vowed to never let ANYONE dictate wtf I wear, how I talk, ANYTHING about me. That chapter of my life is over.
[–]azureangel35FDS Apprentice[S] 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I've done at least 80% of the cringeworthy pickmeisha crap discussed here in my 20s and 30s. But life is so not over. #neveragain #skyscraperstandards
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The only man I respect enough to let have an opinion on how I dress is my father. And you know how many times he’s tried to tell me what to wear? Zero.
[–]MisseusC106 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
My boyfriend is kinda like this, he doesn't tell me what to wear but sometimes he tells me that my clothes are too revealing or im showing off too much skin. And he doesn't look at other girls or something. He is very faithful and loyal, he just doesn't want me wearing revealing clothes . Is this a red flag?
[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist41 points42 points43 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yes it is. And he is looking at other girls which is why he doesn't like it. He just doesn't do it in front of you because he's at least smart enough for that.
[–]tallwomenneedlovetooFDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Um. Yes. You aren’t his property. The only thing he should be concerned about is how you feel about your clothes because he isn’t the one wearing them. He’s acting like a jealous dragon, trying to hoard your beauty away because he’s terrified something will steal you, but you ain’t a possession. And he needs to stop treating you like one.
The one thing I will allow is when my husband silently throwing an extra jacket in the back of the car if he thinks I might get cold later, but even then, it’s not a critique on what I’m wearing but a toss-up on what the temp will be like where we’re going.
[–]MisseusC100 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you for this advice! I'd surely keep this in mind. He does this sometimes, bringing a jacket for me because he I easily get cold. If what he's doing goes out of hand, I would talk to him. Thank you!
[–]daisy_0720FDS Disciple1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Try telling him what he should and shouldn't be wearing and see how he responds.
That will tell you everything you need to know.
[–]thinksimasparetireFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Absolutely. Couple that with someone who looks at other women with no issues and watches a lot of porn and you’ve got reason to be concerned.
[–]Equal-Ear2312FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
when I was in college, I suffered the innumerable pickmes always complaining about that.
"my bf would never let me.... blah blah"
as if their form of ownership over these girls was something to brag about.
"look at me, at least I got picked!"
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I have a girl in my yoga class whose phone rings right after class. guess what? it's her BF, "asking nicely" (demanding) for her to come home (ASAP). She cannot even socialize with the rest of us because.. "ummm I have a boyfriend, at least I got picked!"
girl, please!
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
its not really a problem to me and i respect it but only if the man listens to everything i tell him.
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