Summary: I was approached by a 30 year old former CC rider at a bar. Unsolicited, she went through all of the difficulties shes having now at 30 and shockingly expected me to buy her a drink. I used her to hit on her younger and more attractive friend at the bar.

Background:

I work in the capitol of a very small state as an attorney. There is no Tinder Game to be played or Online Dating for that matter - if you want to meet women, you must go out and talk to them.

Field Report

Decided to meet up with a couple of work buddies after work at a local watering hole that just opened up. Some very attractive waitresses work there and I am really hoping to be the guy who changes their life and makes their dreams come true! I got there about 15 minutes early and went straight up to the bar to order a beer. A band was setting up to play some live music. I prefer to position myself at the short end of the L so that I can see, and be seen, by all of the people lining up facing the bar. I'm 6'3" so I don't sit at the bar, I always stand. I was also the only person in the bar wearing a suit and tie.

Right after I got there, a 5'9" HB6 (MAYBE) with short blonde hair walked in with her white dress and high heels on and went straight up to the bar. We made eye contact briefly and I recognized her from college, Ashley. Back in college, she was easily a HB9 and loved to take X, get fucked, and go to EDM concerts with my fraternity brothers. I knew at least 5 guys that have fucked and chucked her. She came over and sat down next to where I was standing and mentioned that I seemed familiar, blah blah blah, then asked what I do for a living. After I told her, she remarked, "You're 31 and an attorney? Why aren't you married? Don't you have any kids?" Obviously I just smiled and said I hadn't found the right snowflake yet and that normally I expect a little more formality in a wedding proposal. Anyways, she went into this 5 minute bitch fest about how she's just getting out of an abusive relationship, how she wants a kids and a house and a husband, blah blah blah, and that she and her friends were going to drink until they couldn't drink anymore. I almost asked her what she had to offer in exchange for that fairy tale life, but refrained. It was clear that she had put on about 30 pounds since college and was realizing that the party was over.

I then ordered two beers and the bartender put one in front of her. I took it away and put it on the other side of me and said "That's for my friend, if you want a drink I don't mind ordering you a chocolate milk." After playfully hitting me, she then started telling me how much she loves sex now that she's 30 and asked me if I thought that was weird. We all know that this is an opportunity to escalate and take her home almost immediately, but why stop so soon?

Her friend then walks in, one of the waitresses that works at that bar and is off duty. Ashley introduces me and I tease Waitress because we already know each other. I make fun of her clothes, friendship, and by the end of the conversation, Waitress gives me her phone number...in front of Ashley. This was my objective as soon as I learned Ashley was out with her friends: Keep Ashley interested and having fun so that it would be easy to interact with her friends, build up my SMV, and get me a fucking number.

My friends showed up sometime during the interaction with Waitress and gave me shit for not at least getting head from Ashley. They're both married to overweight women that run their lives. They don't understand that it's simply not worth it. I'm going out with Waitress tonight and I plan on fucking her brains out for a couple weeks, long enough for her to tell her co-workers about me, and then we'll go from there.

Lessons learned: Not every interaction with a woman that has crashed into the wall is going to result in a negative outcome. There's a lot to be gained from practicing important skills like:

  • Holding Frame

  • Eye Contact

  • Humor

  • Demonstrating High SMV to the Herd in order to achieve your objectives