Everyone Is After Your Time
Facebook made $40 Billion USD selling your attention to advertisers in 2017. That's one company. Making billions. By selling your time.
How much is our attention worth? Trillions of dollars. The top 100 companies in the world that make money from consumer advertising are worth trillions of dollars. And all of them rely on one thing. You wasting your time.
What about women?
They want your time too. They are insecure. They are attention seeking because you wasting your attention on them makes them feel valuable.
Your loser friends who hate their dead end jobs and invite you to play video games?
They want your time too. Your spending time with them is a salve to the open-wound that is their shitty existence.
There is nothing more valuable in the world than your time. Even the markets agree on this one. Everyone and everything around you is trying to steal your time from you. They are using you. They are using you to feel better about themselves. They are using you to make money (for them). They are using you because you're a bitch and are okay with being used.
Stop being a bitch. Start prioritizing yourself. Everything is about you. Anyone who tells you otherwise is delusional. How are you spending your time? This isn't a rhetorical question. Figure this shit out.
I made a list of all of my distractions. And annihilated them.
- There are browser extensions you can install to block websites you waste time on.
- Turn off your phone whenever you don't need to be using it. Or at very least delete all the stupid apps you waste time on.
- Cut toxic people out of your life. You don't need friends who are losers.
- The default answer to anything anyone asks of you should be no. Life is too short to be spending all of your time on other people.
Figure out how you are spending your time, and start redirecting it towards building a better life for yourself.
Stop letting other people siphon your time away from you.
+1
The Roman philosopher Seneca wrote a book on this, On The Shortness Of Life is just under an hour of listening.
Trying to take our time something something :P
anything stoicism would be worth our time
Those Romans and Greeks man. You read like 5-10 books of those times by the most famous philosophers and you're basically set for like. You'll have an idea of how to be a man, how to be a man of purpose, happiness, and direction.
God bless em.
I've read Meditations, any other books you suggest?
Letter from a Stoic by Seneca and Discourse by Epictetus.
Zarathustra, Beyond Good and Evil from Nietzsche
Can't forget genealogy of morals!
Always wanted to look into Nietzsche but never knew where to start.. Thanks!
“Human lives are brief and trivial. Yesterday a blob of semen; tomorrow embalming fluid, ash.”
it's like, where do we begin? are we simply the gleam in our father's eye?
One of my prized possessions is that book.... annotated by a dear dead uncle.
I will make the argument that seneca the younger is the greatest rhetorical genius to ever set foot on this planet. He was out of his mind, in an almost literal sense. So incredible aware.
Why didn’t I know this earlier.
Look around when you go about your day. Enforcing default-compliance mindset is practically dripping off of every single surface of western civilization. Audio, Visual, kinesthetic, I challenge you to find any thing idea or concept where suggested compliance doesn't exist.
It's why young women are often terrified of going outside. Outside is teeming with dumpster fires to which you must be obedient and compliant to. If you stay inside, you don't have to be obedient to them. But the parents boot you out, so that is traumatizing.
What will really open your eyes is when you hear it in almost every lyric of every musical tune and dialog on every radio station. On every youtube channel, every news blurb, every subreddit, in the military, in school, in highschool, in secondary education, at the grocery store, at the car repair shop, I mean everywhere in a literal sense.
Look for it, and you see it's like water, it drips off every surface. Seeing what you see is like a fish discovering water. Take advantage of it. Run into a crowded room and yell out for someone to give you money and use a few textbook invocations of psychological manipulation, and I guarantee you you'll have a few hundred dollars sitting your palm. It's why there are so many professional middle class beggars out there in cities.
Just sit on the side of the road and cry, and people will literally toss money at you. It's disgusting.
Bruh you woke af. Personally I’ve made the transition to having my cell on silent all day; I check it regularly but at my own choosing and at a lower rate than before, just a small personal anecdote.
Even the possibility of interruption prevents your mental freight train from getting up to speed and staying there. Your brain is naturally over-active and can't turn off meaningless tasks enough to focus on very important tasks except in such times where your limbic system knows interruptions won't occur, like in the car or in the shower or at night. Your brain allocates too much of its hardware to millisecond accurate response times to sudden meaningless stimulus because it incorrectly believes those are the most important processes to stay alive.
Reminds me of a youtube video where Jonathan Blow talks about the kind of deep focus that introverts like programmers need to get going for them to see 15 layers of complexity of large code bases: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ryB_VQ__KeE
The way I've found to achieve peak productivity is by hiring someone else to hold my agenda to what I and others know to be optimal. Running 6 miles 3 or 2 times a week and lifting. My office has a lock on it, I put the smartphone on do not disturb and I tell myself: "Even if it's an emergency, it's going to have to wait until I'm done". Everyone in the house knows that when the door is closed, it means don't come in unless the building is on fire.
Having a mentor or hero who was extremely successful in life who shares your genetic code personality build parameters is better than having a random mentor and hero who has a completely different style than you. if your an introvert, have introverts as hero. Those are harder to find, because they're rarely up on stage being filmed.
I don't get that quote. Could you explain?
It means putting your interest first.
Everybody wants something from you. Well, most people. To be on your guard, you should be able to refuse anything that contradicts your interests. NO being the default answer guards you against manipulators.
It´s not that easy. Of course the result of your answer should be no but if you decline everything and always answer no, people also stop doing shit for you. It´s about how to say no
Hence why i have a phrase when it comes to certain expenditures
"Money is replaceable, time isn't"
Money is simply the physical comoditization of time. Although they're both similar in term of use and investment, time can NEVER be replaced once lost.
Amen to that bro, I cannot express just how much I agree with everything on this post. Recently came to this same very conclusion myself. You all know how people look after their money - what to spend it on, what's too expensive or what's too low quality to buy, etc. Well, I believe that one should be ten times more careful and considerate about how they spend their time. Time is fucking expensive, no, it is priceless, and yet we waste so much of it on absolute BULLSHIT things and BULLSHIT people. I am gonna print this post and hang it over my bed to remind me every morning not to waste my time.
"Research suggests that in an eight-hour day, the average worker is only productive for two hours and 53 minutes." - Inc.
It's unreal how much of our time we waste. Ever since I started taking it seriously I've seen an exponential increase in the revenue I bring in and my quality of life has improved substantially.
If you work in the corporate world, capitalize on that number. Get your shit done right away, but don't tell everyone you did. Sit back and relax or start on the new project and hand it your completed project on time. If you always get things done early (again in the corporate world), people will expect that new expedited turn around time, leaving you stressed and short on time if you suddenly get swamped with multiple projects.
A great way to lead a career of mediocrity. Start a new project like you said or study/improve your craft. Not only are you getting paid to improve yourself, but employers WILL notice the difference between the guy who relaxes and the guy who uses that time to improve, and your career will reflect this.
Jordan Peterson has a great talk about this. He describes a student studying and asks them how long did they for.
"4 hours."
"Bullshit. You studied for 20 minutes and then went on Facebook or Youtube for the rest of the time."
He said instead of saying you're going to study for hours on end, just study for 30 minutes, but really study. Get into the books and study correctly without stopping and then stop. Do this for one week and see what happens.
Everyone who went at their work this way gained immensely. The amount of time we waste is incredible and if we harnessed that time, every man would be a walking Greek demigod.
Since swallowing TRP I have become much more protective with my time and will literally walk away from someone mid sentence if they are talking about meaningless stuff. The old me would have thought this to be rude. I work with a lot of women a have started doing this all the time; I have a lot to do and no time for drama BS.
Put yourself first and do what you need to do to get the most out of your waking hours. Unless someone is adding value to your life excuse yourself and get back to something meaningful.
Totally agree on walking away. I am no longer scared of telling a bitch that I don't give a fuck about her boy problems and I switch to a topic that I enjoy because I am not wasting my time on some other simp.
Same - I mainly work with women and children. A favourite of mine is "I'm just going to stop you there", smiling politely and then just walking away - immature? Yeah sure, but that baffled look never gets old and if you can amuse yourself most of the time then go for it
Cringe. We are all meaningless
I laughed so hard at the thought of this guy just walking off half way through a conversation. I understand not wanting to surround yourself with losers but this just sounds like autism
You probably are, not all of us.
Deleting the Reddit app after reading this post
This is a good post, especially on annihilating distractions. But, I actually take the INVERTED perspective.
Everything I do is about other people - but strictly the ones who matter. My parents, my employer, my future children, and most importantly, the people whose lives I will affect through competence in my career. I restrict my time to the people who care about me, and the people who depend on me.
I disagree that everything is about me. If I really felt that way, I'd be happy enough with wine, weed, and wifi. Rather, a genuinely better life for myself necessarily involves better lives for everyone important to me. That's honestly the only place joy can be found.
Wine Weed and Wifi is so awesome though isn't it? Love my Triple W vacations.
Aye man i like your thinking, a companion from an alternate time
Dude people are under a misconception when it comes to jobs. You work for yourself. Employers are just an expendible means to dole money into your pocket at your own discretion. Avoid conferring power and influence to people who jave none over you. You'll make a slave of yourself otherwise.
I'm a scientist with a good deal of freedom - I'm lucky in happening to enjoy my job, the people I work with, and the cause I work for. Money is secondary to purpose for me; working for myself happily means working for and with my team to achieve dope shit. I hope everyone can find the same.
You're few among many. Most don't. A mercenary mindset is what gets the majority through. G[d for you though. Appreciate it it's a rare thing.
I struggle to find out how to spend my time
The most common activities in Western society anesthetize i.e. video games, tv, shopping, drinking, weed, porn, etc. Remove the influences jamming conformity notions into your life, and you will be forced to find value producing activities.
Gym, MMA, Sports for a good start.
ill counter that video games dont have to be a time waster. yes you go online and play vs people who waste all day and it feels like that after a while, but its also a great challenge to compete against people spending a lot more time at something. tv, I like documentaries or movies, or even music channels so I can directy my focus elsewhere. a movie takes more time than a tv show, but its one consistent narrative with a definitive end, there is wasting time and then there is rushing around pointlessly without a good attention span. Just saying Gym, MMA, Sports, for one person these may represent a new focus on health and fitness, for another person this is their time waster. statistically distance running is the only exercise that gives you the time spent back, though id expect the same for rowing a boat as its also sustained progress across an enviroment for signifiant cardiovascular effort.
Who are you trying to fool?
i dont even play video games habitually. thank you for the assumption.
I mean, if you want to play them for a bit, fine, some leisure time isn't the end of the world as long as it doesn't consume you, but don't kid yourself as to what you're doing. You're spending time as entertainment and not bettering yourself (and, probably, not having as much fun as you think you are - just habituated to it).
There is a saying in our country: If you don´t know, you better shut your fucking mouth. Don´t want to offend you but it is also kind of retarded to see everything only from one perspective and think you know everything about anything best. Nobody likes smartass. And if you look on video games on scientific view, you will understand what he meant. You CAN train your cognitive skills, your senses, reflexes and so on. Of course not all the time...
Vidya games are designed to override risk/reward paths in cognitive processes. The idea being to create psychological dependence. The rule is always follow the money.
There is no difference between retirees blowing savings at slot machines and soy boys smacking game controller buttons.
There is absolutely a big difference. Competition. There is zero challenge to smash buttons on a slot machine. At least in video games there is a winner and a loser and opportunity to improve. Giant time eaters, both, but way different.
Do you have a job, go to the gym, read books every now and then, spend time with your bros, learn to play an instrument (or another hobby really)?
If so, either invest more of your time in these things or pick up a new hobbies. If not, work on this small list of things from left to right and soon you'll wish you had more time to live your new life to the fullest.
Figure out your goals then plan it out.
Are you implying that you do not know how to allocate your time or you don't have enough things to do?
I can only show you the door. You have to walk through it Build your body, build your mind and take care of yourself. You won´t even have time to think about your spare time.
Amen. I read a book once (I forget which one) that said the best purchase you can make is for your time. Hire people to do odd jobs like mowing your lawn, buy a dishwasher, stuff like that. Your time is your most important resource and you need to spend as much as you can on yourself.
While I agree to some degree, there can also come great satisfaction from doing your own manual labor jobs instead of just hiring people.
If you enjoy it and feel great about having done it afterwards, why would you want to hire someone else to do it, even though doing your normal work would have brought in 10 times the cost of hiring someone to do it in the same time?
not that I like to mow the lawn, because I dont give a fuck about having neatly cut grass, its a good workout particurally over uneven terrain. the push pull works the entire body. even dishwashing, better than nothing still takes some motor skill and cardiovascular effort.
Why on God's green earth were you downvoted, that is a very rational and good view to have. 'Own your time' is not 'become a lazy asshat'. I'm sure some people here are going to rationalize 'spend time wisely' as 'don't study, don't work, don't read, go PARTY'. That would be a mistake.
https://www.mrmoneymustache.com/
Yes! That’s where I read it.
See I am a bit conflicted here. I want to be proficient in basic things, you know bs stuff around the house. But there is no value in me spending time on them.
Everyone in the world does them, and what have they created ?
I agree with this as long as you do something productive with your time after hiring someone to mow your lawn (or whatever). Don't use that free time to go play video games.
Don't know why the text was removed. But here's the original post from skyfarr:
Best hack for abundance mentality and oneitis problems when you don't have full rooster of females to juggle.
Is she worth your time or a waste so far? Do you feel guilty for giving it to her instead of doing something for yourself? Answer and act on it.
Is time enjoyed ever wasted?
That depends on the management and drivers.
But the cost to time is involved in management. Should you spend all your time on enjoyment? Or all your time on work?
I mean, I'm not sure there's an answer. Everyone ends up dead in the end - there's no 'best' way to live.
I think that’s why it’s all the more important to figure out what you want and to be your best.
Spending the time to figure out yourself and knowing what you want should be the goal. Proper handling of relationships while being your best and doing your best.
There’s nothin to point to as to what is your best, only you can figure that out once you’ve done the ground work for understanding yourself.
I still think our base line level of of education of the human vessel needs to be increased. But idk man, that’s a different topic all together.
Your post is good food for thought but it makes arguments based on emotion and can be dismissed as ranting.
Facebook is just a marketplace of exchange. Reddit right here right now is taking your eyeball in the same way Facebook did, but I don't see you ranting about the evils of Reddit stealing away your eyeball's value.
By providing a greater return on investment to those people who used it at the time. This isn't zero sum, it's a positive sum game. Facebook provided each of their customers a service much like all the other companies operating a service based economy. Just because a mechanic shop fixed your car 10 years ago and now your car is broken again doesn't mean the mechanic shop stole your money. In the same way facebook didn't steal your eyeball's money per unit time. You gave little and you received more in return. Facebook could have charged you a dollar per day and not sold off your eyeball, and wham, we all end up in the same place.
Generously assuming Facebook net income was 3 trillion dollars, spread out over say 1 billion people serviced over 10 years. That would put the price of eyeballs per day at 1 dollar per day. Sure you're giving up the cost of your 1 dollar per day, but you're getting 2 dollars value in return.
It's not a phenomenon unique to women, men also are trying to get other women and men to play video games with them. And maybe it's because they like you and want to spent time. It's not a trap, it's friendship.
False. I have 12 hours of time to do stuff in a day, but my income generating assets are still pumping cash into my accounts even though I'm sitting here wasting my time here. So use me as a counter example. I'm wasting my time here, yet I'm still earning more than most people who put their time to good use. Your arguments are missing the mark in a big way.
You're arguing like a liberal democrat hipster. No, the math doesn't agree with you. You're not even aware of how to represent the male female mathematics of game theory in multivariate equation form. I can at least begin to imagine what those equations would look like and immediately your assertions fall down as easily as creationist theories.
The rest of your post is a rousing call to get all the shit in a bag and sell it at the shit store, and get your life together. Good advice, but somewhat unrelated to what came before. Indicating your problem is one of coherence, and you're not preaching to us, you're preaching to yourself.
Facebook isn't the big bad fire breathing dragon periodically attacking our little village and disappearing into the night, it's you for not seeing clearly and not having a good alliances with yourself and others. Your left hemisphere has your right as enemy, and you're taking it out on facebook as if Facebook were the source of your suffering.
It's hard too take anyone seriously when they self-validate themselves like you did through your post.
Also it's like a no shit moment when its not facebook, it's an example or one of many platforms the average person overuses.
Hyper analytical, save that for your work that makes you money it seems too help there but it makes you come off as if you say things not too help but too validate your own beliefs
This is what I don't get sometimes with this sub.
People act like they are wasting time when they interact with others, whether that is doing something together or helping them.
Then, instead of doing that, they hang around reddit for hours everyday thinking they are being productive. Like wtf go spend some fucking time with people you anti social fuck. Don't just waste your life away infront a screen and mental masturbate by reading TRP thinking you are improving your fucking situation. For fucks sake people
I don't see any problems, I only see brittle people shifting blame from themselves to others in a massive group. And when the lemmings get to running in a direction, it feels like a tidal wave shift. But really nothing is changing at all. It's the ides of march phenomenon and the increase sunlight increasing their naturally occurring vitamin D which gets the rats out of their dugout mud cave and into the summer sunlight.
I enjoy these conversations because when you see what direction all the shithead lemmings run, you can position yourself to profit and capture coins that drop out of their wallets as they run doubletime.
They think they're so edgy by nuking their facebook, guarding their attention. Zuckerberg doesn't care, he's a businessman with a net worth of 40 billion, he's reading this along side us, and he's like: "well I dun fucked up, time for damage control". Even if facebook goes to a 40b liability. He just declares bankruptcy and the limited liability shell games take it on the chin.
I wouldn't be surprised if Mark wants his facebook to die, so he's yanking the heart plugs out as it bleeds to death under mismanagement. Mark is not an idiot, everything he does is calculated. He's probably got the next thing setup as Zuckerberg buys hard assets and all you dipshits start getting some sun and getting a job. And he profits from you AGAIN.
It's clockwork. The lifestock being taken haven't the intellectual horsepower to see how magnificently they've been taken. Even as you finally "Break out of this terrible cage" you find it's just another cage on the other side, and you find the movement was exactly what the owner wanted for you. A pig thinks he escapes his cage when he runs full tilt down the slaughter conveyor and slaughter chute.
I feel like a pig outside the cage and outside the conveyor with pigs running full tilt yelling at me to get with the program. I'm already out of the system, because I understand it. I'm the one who has some interest in maintaining your cage. You think these elaborate systems just tease themselves into existence? Follow the money trail. And 40b just went supernova.
I ALREADY KNEW THIS WHY WOULD YOU TAKE MY TIME NOW YOU OWE ME
I wish every person who sits home watching CNN, FOX News and MSNBC could understand this. They peddle lies, emotions, and persuasion. You cannot change one single thing they talk about and nobody even tries to change anything. It is a waste of time and attention and only serves to erode your consciousness, between commercials which rot your consciousness. I refuse to give my power over to these people.
Instead, I focus on things I can control and improve, and most days that may only be watering my plants, but I am still making the world a better place that way.
I'm so so fucking glad you made this post. Time is rarely spoken of and it's like the importance of it is sweeped under almost all the time. Time is everything, there is no better way to describe it.
Excellent post. I made the decision to get rid of all Social Media almost a year ago primarily due to this.
Even better if you capture other people's attention
This is why I plan on retiring at 50
A great book about this topic is The Attention Merchants. Your attention is a currency.
On the subway, or any area where there are women, if you walk as if they don’t exist that’s when they start doing the stupidest shenanigans like fidgeting, tapping and pointing their heels, flipping their hair towards you, trying to bump into/ enter your vicinity, sighing loudly, raising their voice while talking to someone else, taking obnoxious selfies, or straight up staring at you. Women can be just as thirsty as guys in their own way.
Wow thanks. I needed this. Amen.
this is grear advice, thanks
TRANSLATION: Never have fun.