Your phone is cucking you. Hard. Here's how to stop it.

redpillschool · 2018-08-16T15:37:18+00:00

Phones and social media are validation addiction. I agree. But not everything is cuckoldry. Let's focus on our precision of language.

KeffirLime · 2018-08-15T17:37:31+00:00

I don't know if it was the Acid trip

The acid certainly contributed.

What you're talking about is presence.

In our current society our mind tends to constantly wonder. They are trained to be this way. We feel a constant need to be distracted. We are focused on the past or the future but very seldomn right now. When we have a moment to ourselves our first instinct is to do something, anything, pull out our phone, scroll through instagram.

Presence is being in the moment.

When you're walking savoring the sights and sounds around you.

When you eat, tasting every flavour as it enters your lips.

When you're commuting on a train, observing people, the train, the incredible technology around you.

We're almost always thinking about where we've just come from or where we're going to next that the present which is all we truly have passes us by.

The future and past exist only in our minds, we only truly have now, the present, yet we so seldomn observe and embrace it.

Sure we need to pay some attention to past and future to learn lessons and direct our lives. But for the moments we do have it's beautiful to simply be lost in it. When you embrace each and every moment and not just the significant ones it's fascinating to see how much joy you derive from it.

GodOfDinosaurs · 2018-08-15T17:35:01+00:00

I once walked in on my phone in bed with my oneitis. AWALT

MrH0rseman · 2018-08-15T19:19:58+00:00

Psychedelics are meant to be like that.

They lift you all the way up and slams you so hard that all your mistakes/thoughts/problems will start making sense & it’ll bring you back to plateau.

I found it’s cheaper than counseling sessions.

-Fidelio- · 2018-08-15T17:50:29+00:00

Against the Gods: The Remarkable Story of Risk

I enjoyed the book, but be careful: it was written by someone who had a financial interest in people coming out with certain economic conclusions, mainly that we have managed to mathematically defend against risk in unprecedented levels, through hedge funds among other things. In the years since these have lost their glorious former reputation through a series of crashes that were not adequately risk-managed.

On the topic of smartphones.... Getting rid of my smart phone for 95% of the time was one of the best decisions I made this year.

ex_addict_bro · 2018-08-15T18:31:07+00:00

. 4. Turn your phone to greyscale mode

B-L-G-Y · 2018-08-15T20:47:47+00:00

Buy a fucking book and keep it in you

Somewhere in the sidebar I missed the bit about expanding the prison wallet to accommodate a book.

Jokes aside, quality post, op. I'd recommend anyone with an 'addiction' to social media or just anyone being a faggot about it downgrade to a dumbphone. Never met someone who regretted the decision.

Youngyoda89 · 2018-08-15T17:41:46+00:00

It’s the acid bro. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard people say how life changing it is. It really makes me want to try it. Your post reminded me of that and makes me want to try it just once to, perhaps, turn my life around.

misterrbro · 2018-08-15T18:13:17+00:00

I believe you are totally right. We are no longer human with these machines that turn us into mere, well ... machines. I will take your advice and see how it works. Thank you.

Hammer_Tit · 2018-08-16T01:03:01+00:00

I have the opposite issue

I detest using my phone when out/on vacation, and thus have borderline zero evidence of the adventures I've been on.

But oh the stories

My point is make sure to grab the occasional photo for social proof.

Raggos · 2018-08-16T07:26:53+00:00

Have been without a phone (it died) for the past 8 days.

My sleep is better.

My focus is sharper.

I'm calmer.

When I go out, I wonder who will I run into today/tonight.

Life's becoming more amazing...w/o a fcking phone.

NorthEasternNomad · 2018-08-15T18:45:41+00:00

Been thinking a lot about this lately. I've got a job with tons of downtime.

But that changes on 8/27. Got a promotion - after crushing the interview - to the tune of $8k/yr increase.

But these guys are busy. Non stop all day. From small issues to big ones, to projects, builds, testing...Server team for a big healthcare provider is no joke, all-go all day action.

And this is going to require two things: focus (in the moment), and attention (throughout the day). Both of which will be much easier, if my phone isnt competing.

I think I'm going to take this advice. I've long since deleted Facebook. But I think its ti e for everything not professionally valuable to come off the phone. To get back to the world in front of me.

Thanks for a quality reminder.

iLoveReddit32 · 2018-08-16T00:58:55+00:00

Breaking News: man discovers that there is life outside his phone. GTFOH man, this is old news.

OMGtothemoon · 2018-08-16T11:31:59+00:00

Dude I did acid at a red rocks show the other weekend and when I pulled out my phone I couldn't even tell what time the clock said. All the light was streaming onto the floor so I just put it back in my pocket and was like "oh well so much for that thing" lol

BostonPillParty · 2018-08-15T20:31:27+00:00

One of the best things I did was subscribe to a good newspaper. I prefer The Wall Street Journal since it’s the most non-biased paper I could find. Great deal for students (just find a .edu address).

Sitting down with a physical paper helped me eliminate the constant news streams I was ingesting. It is meditation like flipping through a physical paper and not the app on my phone... Old school and yes you have a bunch of newspapers to throw away but a worthwhile price.

One of the old school things that still has it’s value.

whuttupfoo · 2018-08-15T21:13:03+00:00

You can do #1 and #2 with self control and discipline. Practice this and you’ll be above the rest. I have my phone on at all times but I don’t use it unless I’m jotting down notes for my next business idea, or writing in my journal. I don’t have text conversations anymore, and my voicemail is disabled.

mbap13 · 2018-08-15T21:34:40+00:00

Going to gray scale on my Iphone has done me wonders! Life changing thats for sure.

IrishGoodbye4 · 2018-08-15T17:55:14+00:00

I had the same epiphany on an alleged shroom trip. I was staring at my phone, trying to respond to a text, when I realized how pointless and stupid that was. Then I set my phone down and proceeded to experience the awesomeness of living in the moment.

misterrbro · 2018-08-15T18:16:32+00:00

And well... The Red Pill is about some sort of unplugging after all.

[deleted] · 2018-08-15T20:56:48+00:00

Buy a fucking book and keep it in you

Better pick a light read so you can keep it in your prison pocket.

All jokes aside, great post. I feel like you're hyperfocusing on phones, but the point comes across well. People will come up with any excuse to procrastinate. Phones are simply our generations way of condensing our procrastination into a single, efficient device.

It's your duty as someone who wants to improve to take time you'd normally waste (on your phone, computer, TV, etc) and use it for more improvement. Replace TV with lectures, phones with books, and use computers to learn skills/work.

Your time is the most valuable resource, so spend it on things that will either give you more time (exercise and mental stimulation), or make your remaining time more meaningful (develop relationships, have genuine, non-procrastinatory fun).

xddnax · 2018-08-16T10:07:43+00:00

After unplugging, youll realise how pathetic people look with their phones, filming concerts or parties they will never rewatch, instead of, you know, actually enjoying the party, concerts, etc.

The cringiest thing ive witnessed personally, was on a river trip. So we climbed a pretty high cliff(like 100m or so) , with an epic view across the valley, and there was a girl, who sat on the edge of the cliff, asked to take a picture of her, as if she was meditating, and after a picture went to share it on Instagram or smth. Not even a single glance at the nature was given.

PoisedUncertainty · 2018-08-15T20:07:23+00:00

Ditch your car and get a horse and buggy you Amish fuck.

Angelsoft717 · 2018-08-15T22:16:38+00:00

It was probably the acid trip dude.

The day after my first acid trip I literally laid in bed and just thought. Thought about life and everything. Normally when I do that it's a depressive episode, but that time it was different. I was in a state that I haven't been in since of just existing and being happy with it. I was almost as happy as I was on the acid tbh.

That being said, social media is set up to make you hate yourself. We as humans have never had this hyper connectivity. You're comparing yourself to friends, rivals, and people you've never met. I can't remember where I seen it but getting a like on Facebook gives you a little dose of serotonin. You're being acknowledged by someone and that's what all humans want. Of course this means when you don't get this acknowledgement you're depressed and anxious. I've been trying to wean myself off Facebook for the longest but it's an addiction man.

killer_guitar_break · 2018-08-16T00:04:43+00:00

I couldn't imagine starting out doing acid or mushrooms when cell phones are so accessible. Did it way way before. The memories and stories are nestled safe in my brain for retraction; instead of a fuckin 10 sec story on IG.

punchyson · 2018-08-16T01:45:23+00:00

I'm lucky because for a big part of my 20s nobody even had an email address. The "players" had pagers ffs.

Social Media is mostly cancer. I swear people do things now mostly so they can post about it, instead of just enjoying what they are doing.

I don't give a flying fuck what you had for lunch or want to see another female affirmation meme. I'm probably not alone on that.

Nocryingok · 2018-08-17T15:21:37+00:00

TLDR: OP had an acid trip and things he has discovered a secret, but in fact it's just a combination of:
1. Something we already knew (phones are bad, addictive and energy leeches)
2. Post psychedelics glow (it's common to feel great a couple of days after)

Reality is: to avoid overusing your phone is a very hard task, that you will always have to fight. It's also impossible to be occupied at all times, and using social media (esp. Instagram) the right way will reap you good benefits.

RoughTeddy · 2018-08-18T12:04:42+00:00

Buy a watch.

The number one reason why people go for their phone is to check the time. Eliminate the need to do that and you start cutting out the possible incidences of "Oh, well, while I have it out, let me check..."

H42 · 2018-08-15T20:18:38+00:00

I used my phone's GPS, Google Maps, etc., to help me bag an elk this morning.

Yeah, just bragging a bit.

bcvickers · 2018-08-16T02:37:46+00:00

Alright cocksuckers...

Oh, so an advice article for homosexuals? Great, I’ll pass.

Shaman6624 · 2018-08-15T23:48:29+00:00

Relevant: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wFJ4zPVApHk

bobaisdope · 2018-08-16T05:17:13+00:00

Hands down one of the best posts on social media on this subreddit. I myself also decided to turn off my Instagram for a while, a hiatus. It seems that I care too much about people's lives, and to be honest most of them are fucking boring, I care too much about the ex-girlfriends or my oneitis (fuck this I almost get rid of this shit). But I think we can leverage social media as a tool which you can use to promote your works or your SMV. Moderation is the word, I decide that I'll come back to this shit but only when I already learn how to control it, for example: Posting your travel pics on Instagram story, or showing off your lifestyle but after that just turn the fucking phone off, leave it for 2-3 days and turn it on again to read notifications or reply DMs work-related.

cumfortably_dumb · 2018-08-16T05:42:16+00:00

It had to be said explicitly and glad you did.

The vacation part is so true, people go on vacation for the pics instead of the memories.

Although going cold turnkey doesn't work for everyone. I run pages on both Facebook and Instagram, and tend to lose focus and start looking for girls, knives, guns etc. However I am doing that consciously now, and I dont feel the same guilt I used to do earlier.

I keep uninstalling social media apps again and again and that works for me.

Thanks OP

BlackBurton · 2018-08-16T06:33:35+00:00

Just throwing that out there. I suggest you read the power of now and you meditate and do yoga frequently to keep these feelings because the aftermath of the acid will eventually fade into memory but you want implement what you learned into a practice.

firegreen_leafred · 2018-08-16T09:10:13+00:00

Second this. For reading buy a kindle, they’re very cheap. Always be reading at least one book

Also would recommend downloading the Moment app. Great way to limit screen time

ReasonablyGoodMexica · 2018-08-16T11:03:56+00:00

Sweating off the fat

What form of caveman do you take us for? Fat is exhaled https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=C8ialLlcdcw

Whoisaryan · 2018-08-16T12:40:17+00:00

Sounds like you’re having a post-acid afterglow

CaptainSupream · 2018-08-16T17:28:25+00:00

Referencing #1.

A book is a good start. A journal is better. With a book you're still a consumer with a journal you're a creator.

I keep a visual journal. Im an artist that sketches the things around me. Occasionally I will write down my thoughts. When I look at some old sketches or thoughts it gives me a dopamine hit. I am my own source of dopamine in this way. A closed loop.

I use my phone for what I need at that time. Without getting distracted and surfing. 60% battery is common for me at the end of the day.

[deleted] · 2018-08-16T23:55:04+00:00

Or just be more busy in life. No more time to look at the phone

delicoban33 · 2018-08-17T14:26:04+00:00

Well, you feel soo illuminated by one simple trip to the nature. I can imagine the stress you are having at your daily life. Don't get me wrong but nature will not complete you alone. You will start to get bored from these trips soon because you are alone in there. I bought an adventure motorcycle just for this, well it is amazing to spend time outside in the nature, but too much of it bores too. Don't get too excited like you don't need anyone anymore.

kanyewost · 2018-08-18T03:58:27+00:00

Man takes acid once, proceeds to lecture us on stuff we already knew smh

Demiurge_Decline · 2018-08-22T11:06:38+00:00

Only 4 days? Come back when you stay off for 90 days or more. Right now, you are at a high and my instincts tell me you are just emotional now. Male-hamstering if you may...Logic would tell you the purpose of social media is to socialize. Everything has a light and a dark side. If your phone or apps are negatively affecting your life, you have discipline problem. its not a social media probelm or phone problem. I drink alcohol occasionally, but I can drink every minute as everyone else can...

I'm not knocking your decision because cold turkey sometimes is the best way to stop a habit. But Your phone is not cuckolding you, you are addicted to it like many of us. I have went back and forth with this and I found totally disregarding technology that has tons of benefits because I lack discpline is not a technology issue nor more than eating fastfood because I am too much of a lazy ass to cook is a nutrition problem.

llDUNN · 2018-08-16T02:34:38+00:00

I did LSD a few times as a young teenager. I took about 7 hits, I dropped a few, put them back in the bag, and rubbed my face with my hands lol. Needless to say I wound up at the hospital overdosing because my 15 year old body couldn't handle the amount of LSD I consumed. I had a horrible, horrible trip. I also have PTSD from that experience. I'd never do it again. Also when you're tripping absolute ball sacks, there's no way you're going to even know what a phone is. You don't eat, or drink water. You're just tripping along. Funniest thing ever said to me while I was tripping, I bumped into my friend on accident t and he looked at me and said "hey man, watch where you're tripping." I laughed for what seemed an eternity.

priestfrommiddleeast · 2018-08-15T21:36:34+00:00

Solid advice. Maybe except the acid.....

goriladevainilla · 2018-08-16T01:11:38+00:00

I have done this for 2 years now. I even got a phone that would only call and text for a little. Only reason I have a smart phone now is work.

Korrangar · 2018-08-16T08:37:56+00:00

How do you manage your plates without it tho?

ka1n77 · 2018-08-16T12:28:14+00:00

I decided to get rid of all of my social media including reddit which I'm current using to whore for digital currency by posting something I know will be popular. 🙃

ceqozesah · 2018-08-16T15:11:30+00:00

When you have amazing trips like this its best not to trip too soon again so enjoy this headspace and current frame of mind . Wait a few months and build up ontop with a new foundation

apatel215 · 2018-08-16T15:32:01+00:00

Dude, I had a very similar realization after doing shrooms a couple months ago. I made it a point to not have my phone on me during the trip and although my overall trip wasn't the most pleasant, being disconnected from everything on my phone felt great. Since then I have deleted my instagram, deleted facebook awhile ago, and only reason i have twitter is cuz it entertains me but even then i know its coming to an end. I definitely feel these effects of no social media and its nice and refreshing. Its like you feel human again.

ozaku7 · 2018-08-16T21:05:09+00:00

Congrats, you found out you should enjoy life, nature and friends instead of basing your world on a screen.

You really need TRP for this, or just common sense? You've been living a dellusional life.

silver-in-a-cloud · 2018-08-16T23:11:02+00:00

i think its the end user decision if they want to use their phone to look at facebook thots and offer them social validation .... or on the contrary ... maybe some phone users actually don't do that and they prefer to use their phone to read, bulleting boards, reddit, trp, other forums, world news, stock prices, send and read work e-mails, contact customers via messaging apps for business related purposes, buy and sell crypto, pay bills online, manage assests, place sports bets, order food, order products etc etc...

sorry for going on and on ..just wanted to exagerate a bit to prove you that you were using your phone in the wrong way ... the way i use mine, it improves my life.
also i am no phone addict, but turning it off wouldn't benefit anyone ....

but hey please go ahead and turn your phone off for 5 hours at a time, if its easier for you than to learn to focus on the task you are doing and to only use the phone when you actually need to use it for functionality purposes :))

VomarV · 2018-08-18T09:11:51+00:00

I agree, take a break from social media and focus on reading a book or pick up a new hobby. Social media turns into an obstacle that I feel creates these false realities that take away from who we want to be. You always see fake stories that you have to be some super stud to get the girl you want. Since taking a break from social media I've been reading so much. My mind is less clouded. Also the acid definitely influenced what you are saying. On my first acid trip, I almost through my phone out the window on the drive back home because I realized how much of a waste it was.

Mescalean · 2018-08-18T19:43:35+00:00

Sounds like you had a first good trip man. Hope you have more to come. Cid' has helped redpill the shit out of me on multiple issues in life. There is a reason some very successful people have indulged and credit the drug. Just be smart about it as you were

justinjj1 · 2018-08-20T01:07:22+00:00

Acid..not even once.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F9QV4TCEEXs

econquest · 2018-08-23T02:22:44+00:00

What followed was magical. I don't know if it was the Acid trip, or it was me throwing the phone away, or all the above, but my connections genuinely increased with all my friends. Nature looked beautiful. The breathing textures caught between the warm sunlight. The snakes in the grass flowing, toads bouncing, chirping birds.

I'm going to go with "the Acid trip" on that one.

tsarompy · 2018-09-07T04:01:58+00:00

im more surprised the LSD didnt open your consciousness and realize what a vulgar sexist piece of shit you are, and that your own insecurities stem from a lack of understanding of humanity

you dont deserve acid

you learned nothing

cre8tionrebel · 2018-09-10T17:03:59+00:00

I be in monk mode building bricks too!

TRUTH! SPEAK IT! IM A BELIEVER!

been in and out of calculated monk modes to build bricks where my mind and body were unguarded. If you're reading this and you're smiling, solid fucking work!

The_Chiselnator · 2018-11-09T17:15:23+00:00

The simple reality is that social media and the rest of that "connection/network" shit is designed to sap the lifeblood out of you so that it can be turned into dollars by corporations. Abandon social media, live life, read books, meet USEFUL friends and understand that you can be awesome and have an awesome life without the validation of strangers

NightTripInsights · 2018-08-15T17:51:47+00:00

Lucy is the bomb just remember to take all its lessons with a grain of salt, it is a strong substance with many perspectives on many of life's questions. And just like real life, not all perspectives and answers are correct some are downright delusional.

Erfbender · 2018-08-15T17:32:58+00:00

Thoughts on music, no one carries a separate mp3 player. Not outright addictive in that way, but can lead to getting distracted

priestfrommiddleeast · 2018-08-15T21:07:06+00:00

So you took acid and started to see things 'differently'?

ssbmrai · 2018-08-16T03:07:13+00:00

I really need to try acid, lol

banthrow · 2018-08-15T17:41:34+00:00

If I need to interact I can talk to the whore I hire in between fucks.

Title	Your phone is cucking you. Hard. Here's how to stop it.
Author	priestfrommiddleeast
Upvotes	422
Comments	126
Date	August 15, 2018 5:16 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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