A (37M) just started talking with me (21F) is that weird?

Davina33 · 2020-03-13T19:05:16+00:00

He's too old. I would get away and fast. He is looking to take advantage of you. I know because I've been there.

May26th · 2020-03-13T19:18:07+00:00

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throwaway23004345 · 2020-03-13T20:00:27+00:00

Girl, run for your life. He’s a musician who are even 10X more gross than average men. He’s a loser

TheOGJammies · 2020-03-13T19:03:25+00:00

YES. RUN. IT IS INHERENTLY PREDATORY. Please listen to us.

CoastGal541 · 2020-03-13T19:07:48+00:00

Noooooope. No no no. The alarm bells are ringing, the red flags are raised. Block, delete, and ignore him, sis.

smithaej · 2020-03-13T20:12:42+00:00

When I was 21 this didn't seem that creepy to me. As a 31 year old, just trust us. Don't do it.

grimreapersdtr · 2020-03-13T19:11:37+00:00

Imagine a 37 yo woman talking to a 21yo guy. You would wonder what interest she could possibly have in him, right?

KweenOfKawaii · 2020-03-13T19:04:02+00:00

What could a man who grew up in the 80s have in common with a girl who grew up in the 2010s? yes it's weird. Stop talking to him.

Edit: I'm around your age and I remember trying to convince myself that older men who expressed interest in me must have seen my "maturity" and "intelligence", but that isn't what they're after at all.

It's plenty of women his own age he could relate better to, but their bullshit radar is also way more advanced than yours. So he preys on college aged girls instead. Drop him immediately.

MACMUA · 2020-03-13T19:36:25+00:00

I’m sorry but this is creepy. Even if you like the same music. This guy probably smells like aspercream and goes to the early bird special at Denny’s.

I can’t believe women are flattered by these type of men? Trust me, you’re singled out for a reason. He can’t get someone his own age for a reason.

radical__daphne · 2020-03-13T21:24:44+00:00

Absolutely. He's looking for a hot young pussy to fuck. That's it. You want some old 37 year old man who already been everywhere done everything. And also his dick probably doesn't even work anymore, you'll be coaxing it up if you get involved with him. 50% of men have erectile dysfunction by the age of 40.

VikingPug · 2020-03-13T21:11:43+00:00

It’s disgusting. Do not engage with men that much older than you.

I’m 42 now and when I look back on my failed marriage between me at 23 to a 31 year old I’m grossed out!!

myaccountiscool · 2020-03-13T19:48:33+00:00

Run.

Radtron3000 · 2020-03-13T20:10:35+00:00

They will be so much more manipulative. You're investing in heartbreak and disappointment, don't do it babe.

mountaindewme22 · 2020-03-13T20:42:22+00:00

I knowww you're smarter than this, c'mon now sis.

2020-03-13T23:10:58+00:00

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lival42 · 2020-03-13T20:29:27+00:00

Yes. That is weird. Block & delete.

ny-lady · 2020-03-13T23:16:14+00:00

My parents taught me to stay away from guys that old for a reason... They want to use you for sex, your youth and groom.

My parents were right.

roninslaughter · 2020-03-13T19:43:22+00:00

It’s inherently predatory

2020-03-13T20:29:36+00:00

Yes it is weird.

pissed_af · 2020-03-13T20:34:06+00:00

Yes, very creepy

grimreapersdtr · 2020-03-13T22:04:42+00:00

YES. He’s a predator.

KweenOfKawaii · 2020-03-14T00:02:57+00:00

here's something that I didn't know at your age. Guys just want to have sex with you. They can be really nice to you; they can be consistent. Doesn't change anything at all.

most guys are just going to want to have sex with you especially if you are young and pretty. Hell, even if you aren't they still want sex. I didn't realize the extent of this until I was in my mid-20s. Sure, some great guys will end up really liking you and wanting a relationship with you but they still want sex right off the bat if possible.

I really recommend you read these books before you date-

NOT YOUR MOTHER'S RULES (and ALL THE RULES). Get the audio version so you can listen over and over. Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider.

"Should I stay or should I go?" Lundy Bancroft (even if you are single) and "why does he do that?" Even if you are single. if I had read those books when I was your age, I could have saved myself so much struggle confusion and pain.

And the gift of fear, how to spot a dangerous man, and wolf in sheep's clothing.

2020-03-14T00:07:42+00:00

When he was your age, you were 5 years old. Is that weird?

MagnoliaMirage · 2020-03-13T20:33:06+00:00

Girl.... Don't do it.

whathisbastardid · 2020-03-14T01:51:35+00:00

When I was 20 something this seemed flattering instead of creepy. Looking back it makes my skin crawl.

Somehow media and society tricked us into thinking it is ok and “cool”. Trust us it is not.

There is something wrong with these men that approach women much younger than themselves. When you get older you start seeing it. And that’s why no one his own age would touch him with a five foot pole.

2020-03-14T02:54:45+00:00

Cut him off.

9penguin · 2020-03-14T03:51:00+00:00

Girl, you know he has no other reason to pursue you than to use you, run away, save yourself.

MagicAte_8 · 2020-03-14T15:02:16+00:00

Dear FDS, I haven't read the handbook and I want to fuck this crusty old man. I've already bragged about him being interested in me to my friends and family, so I really want to fly out to meet him. He TOTALLY won't rape me, I just know it!!!!

This is how stupid you sound.

MagicAte_8 · 2020-03-14T14:55:53+00:00

lasolterita · 2020-03-15T01:54:47+00:00

❎❎❎❎❎❎ RUN

Title	A (37M) just started talking with me (21F) is that weird?
Author	KweenOfKawaii
Upvotes	32
Comments	75
Date	March 13, 2020 6:59 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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