Use FDS quietly, men don’t need to be told what you expect from them, men don’t need a chance to explain themselves

We talk a lot about weeding out LVM here, but I hope we’re actually following through on the weeding and salting the earth behind us so they don’t grow again.

When you’re first starting to get to know a man, LVM behaviors will pop up pretty quick. We are all different and employ FDS methods differently so we each have our immediate disqualifiers and “yellow flags” that we feel out throughout the dating phase.

When you see a yellow flag, don’t try to hint or nudge him in the right direction. Don’t think “He’s just innocent and he doesn’t realize. Maybe if I tell him he just needs to amend this one behavior, he can do it.”

Men don’t need that chance sis. Don’t tell him what you want him to do and give away all your trade secrets just because everything else about him is fine. You want to get to know him exactly as he is. If that yellow flag persists, then you gotta start asking yourself some real questions and doing some cost benefit analysis. But until that time comes...

...just stay quiet sis. Be treated like a queen and observe who this person is really is. You want to play up those yellow flags, not try to dampen them. The more you know.