How to detect pornsick men? Share you experience.

FruitTreesRule · 2019-12-10T04:27:39+00:00

Porn sick men REALLY prefer completely bald genitals. The non porn sick men like it well kept but prefer some trimmed hair over completely bare.

Porn sick men have no ability to integrate intimacy with sex. HVM understand good sex for a woman is when emotional bonding and connecting is taking place WHILE ALSO being aroused. If eye contact makes them lose their boner, they are porn sick.

Porn sick men equate being good in bed with having a large dick and just eating a lot of pussy. Which just means he's going to go straight to oral for foreplay and expect your to feed his ego with a fake orgasm. Or two. It hasn't dawned on him that a woman could prefer intimate kissing to him muff diving like a champ.

Porn sick men like the bimbo look. Like fake bolt on tits. Like blonde with fake tan. Anything else is seen as "less than"

MyGilleyCat · 2019-12-09T23:09:58+00:00

Explicit**both of these things happened before I realized he watched porn( I never used to ask).

Oof poor past pick- me self.

Argues with you about what you like . I had a boyfriend about 10 years ago take his dick outta me and like slap my gentiles with it and I was shocked and laughed and I was like "what are you doing? " He smiled at me and was like "that's for you. I know you like that" and I was like no that's weird and it does nothing for me. Later (after we finished) he showed me the porn video( how I found out about him watching porn) where the guy did that to the woman and of course she loves it (acting) and then this boy starts an argument with me about how I like it and how it's for me and I should appreciate that he pays attention to my pleasure.

Also(same boyfriend) first time we had sex and I was on my back and he's about to enter me and he leans back and looks at my legs and grabs a handful of my thigh fat and says "you need to work on your thighs", made several disparaging comments about my body during our relationship because I realized (later on) I was being compared to a woman in a porno.

*Edit I also have no green flags. Oof.

Blackishcat27 · 2019-12-09T19:21:22+00:00

Green flag- high energy and has lots of hobbies or interests.

BobLoblawsLawBlog201 · 2019-12-10T00:29:28+00:00

Green flags -

*he's never been to a strip club

*hobbies with his friends are done inside the home (watching sports, playing boardgames, etc)

when we were ready to experiment in the bedroom, he researched how to make sure i was most comfortable then came prepared with items to meet this comfort
browser history is clean
your know all his passwords and he doesn't care

plembb · 2019-12-09T21:26:24+00:00

I dated one poor guy who in every other way was fantastic. He was never able to get hard. Couldn’t even get it up from seeing me naked or an attempted BJ. I dated this loser for 5 months and we never had sex because he just couldn’t do it. He was 33, not 60, my god. I Found a VR headset on his bedside table. He also had old Playboy mags under his coffee table.

Another guy I dated more recently fucked me like a sex doll essentially, jackhammered the entire time, wouldn’t look me in the eye and would only look at the penetration taking place. Thank god I only had to endure that one time. Christ he was absolutely awful and I’m still mad at myself for even letting that happen. Led me to this sub.

roots_n_water · 2019-12-09T19:08:17+00:00

Follows lots of half naked insta models and real girls he just uses to jerk off to and maybe inappropriately msg.

paprikadundee · 2019-12-10T20:47:18+00:00

- Pornified sex needs: Wanting to ejaculate on your face, wanting a lot of anal-related stuff, choking, non-consent, overly-rough fingering, etc, and then playing it off as "just having a dominant personality" if you mention you're uncomfortable with it

- Instead of not being able to get hard, can be not able to orgasm. It took me a long while to put together why this guy would be sooooo insanely into sex, yet not be able to get off.
(I of course decided it was my fault and I wasn't good enough)

-Talks about his dick all the time. How great it is, how big it is, how other partners couldn't handle it, etc. Wants you to literally worship it.

- Isn't into anything with buildup. Sexting? You're not getting anywhere showing a sultry shoulder - he wants a picture of "hot wet holes" or something else highly explicit.

Scotsburd · 2019-12-09T19:07:57+00:00

Completely without concern telling disgusting anecdotes in mixed company after a few drinks. Forgets that he is a filthy limp dick voyeur of exploitation and assumes everyone knows what he is talking about. Had no idea others think he's a loser.

blackopium777 · 2019-12-09T19:22:49+00:00

Having female friends is a red flag for me. Rather he has HVM as friends. I noticed that my husband doesnt keep contact if the friend is talking bad about women or objectifies women openly. His friends are respectful and have wonderful wives who seem to be really happy. Also if he has a sex drive and gets randomly hard just by looking at you wearing something sexy (talking about underwear and that stuff) he probably isnt a consumer of porn all the time. They need more than just nice underwear to get hard. Taking bis phone to the bathroom every single time is a red flag. If you notice him using incognito mode sometimes its possibly something he has as a habit from porn use.

Pink_Pollyanna · 2019-12-09T21:43:15+00:00

One thing all the porn addicts I’ve known had in common was the way they looked at women in public. When I’m with them, they’re looking at every woman (and sometimes young girls) and they’re sometimes vocal about if they would have sex with her or not and share details about why they would. HVM don’t look at other women when you’re with them and they treat women like actual human beings and not like an object to stick their dick in.

They also get very touchy too fast. This is the reason why I won’t see a movie with a guy if I hadn’t been on at least 3 dates with him first. They get too close and handsy and it pisses me off. Healthy men don’t invade your boundaries.

jackrusselterror1 · 2019-12-09T20:55:03+00:00

Heads up that my post is kind of graphic

Porn sick men:

-Are more likely to brag about how good they are in bed. They are actually terrible in bed: either they can't get hard, they can't maintain an erection, or they can't finish easily so sex lasts way too long. Sex is mechanical and he'll never bother to find out what pleases you, because he's going through a list in his head or performing for an imaginary audience

-Have a full list of kinks that they want to try with you, all with pornified language, before he even gets to know you. It seems like he's checking off a list mentally and actually fulfilling any of those kinks makes him push for more. Soon you are no longer having anything resembling vanilla sex. Kinks he may ask for include: Anal, choking, slapping, spanking, asking to finish on your face or hair, wanting you to swallow or deep throat, wanting to be pegged, threesomes, gangbangs, hot wife or cuckhold fetishes, obsession with feet, degrading slurs slung at you in bed. Wants you to perform for him: lingerie, stripping, lap dance, asks you to get loud during sex.

-Uses the word 'cum' to describe orgasming.

-Doesn't enjoy handjobs. His fist has been gripping far too tight for yours to compare. -Talk sexually about their exes, random people on the street, coworkers

-Always looking at women in public

-Implies that men are visual creatures and women aren't.

-Will always lie about porn use. He won't ever give it up for you. He also will defend his porn

-Does not give a fuck about women who are trafficked and raped to provide him free entertainment.

-Very vocally sex-positive, acts like its progressive to enjoy watching videos of rape.

-Vocally sex-negative, but most of his vitriol is aimed at women. Acts like men are slaves to their libidos. Jerks off to pictures of the women he calls slutty for showing skin when he says he's working.

-Uses porn in public places or at work.

-Thinks sex dolls are feminist

EOP-OPE · 2019-12-12T02:21:31+00:00

Red flag: he wants you shaven. Bald. Pre- pubecent.

Women are meant to have hair down there. It should be SEXY to have some indication you have reached sexual maturity! Porn sick guys are blinded by their addiction.

If it's your preference to keep yourself shaven, more power to you. But be weary of any man who attempts to force or guilt you into doing it. Better yet, drop him immediately.

entrylevelheaux · 2019-12-10T07:24:09+00:00

This made me realize something about a guy I liked a lot. I had a strong crush on a guy that I knew in my life and we were mutually following each other on Instagram. At one point he got a girlfriend but the relationship didn't last very long at all. Even though he had a girlfriend he was constantly liking Instagram models photos. I even saw once that he liked a photo about sex positions. Since I never dated him and we weren't really friends, I don't know that much about him but this definitely helps me see him in a more realistic light. Because before my crush was so strong that I pretty much fill the blanks in of what I didn't know and made him be a great guy when in reality I don't think he would have been. Of course this isn't enough info, but it's something compared to before where I was making something out of nothing.

Crazy thing is he wasn't following them, yet whenever I looked at his likes it was full of Instagram models. So he was going out of his way to like them.

GCchick · 2019-12-09T19:43:50+00:00

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2019-12-10T00:42:59+00:00

If his browsers history is filled with hot red heads and you’re a blonde 🤣

alchademy · 2019-12-10T00:28:29+00:00

I’ve found that spending too much time playing video games seems to be common. Not listening to any female artists. Socially inept. Be weary of anime watchers. I too enjoy anime, but a lot of shows are hypersexualized & we all know hentai.

brokenhearted920 · 2019-12-10T12:30:51+00:00

He wanted to have phone sex with me. And he was really fucking good at it.

Caught him jerking off when I was in the shower once.

He would tell me he NEVER looks at porn and NEVER gets himself off anymore. That never felt like a red flag.

Found a google voice number on his cell phone. When he went to his regular account, there was no history of using it. So I knew he had another account.

an0nny · 2019-12-09T23:29:20+00:00

Red flags -- He has no interest in sex within the first few months.

He chokes you without your consent.

roots_n_water · 2019-12-09T19:55:57+00:00

Green flag - Admits to watching porn but understands and openly talks about how fucked up porn can be. Uses a feminist perspective. Also, shares how he is careful with pporn use...using it responsibly.

In this day and age 98% of guys have looked at porn in the last 6 months. So i think honestly admitting they have looked at porn and how they have boundaries around it is a good thing.

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/talking-apes/201808/the-truth-about-men-and-pornography

spotsandstripes9 · 2019-12-09T20:39:50+00:00

Red flags: - mentions sex acts or positions that are popular in porn, like anal. I had a boyfriend that would ask if we could switch to doggy style when he started losing his erection

erectile dysfunction at a young age (20s)
feeling rushed whenever you’re intimate
if he zones out or seems like he’s in his head when you’re intimate. Again, same boyfriend as before was LESS affectionate during sex, and wouldn’t make as much eye contact as normal.
insecure about the size of his dick even though it’s normal or above average

Green flags:

super outdoorsy
doesn’t really use social media

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take1990 · 2020-01-05T07:18:50+00:00

Just discovered this post and can I just say it’s GOLD.

Dab_For_Freedom · 2020-01-02T10:54:45+00:00

Jesus, if I didn't agree with you then you'd sound like a paranoid lunatic with a list that long.

Title	How to detect pornsick men? Share you experience.
Author	GCchick
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Date	December 9, 2019 7:02 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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