•Remember, you are the one assessing him and his fitness to be a good long-term partner.

•Enjoy yourself, it’s only a couple hours at most. whether you end up liking him or not, make the evening enjoyable for you. Order what you like, converse about what you like, and don’t let anyone kill your vibe.

•He should not be expecting sex in any way whatsoever, nor making dumb innuendos on a first date.

•Is HE good enough for YOU, sis? Remember, you ARE the table.

•Never get flustered or nervous for men. They are nine times out of ten already thinking about the next OLD date they booked back-to-back. Men think it’s cool to spin plates. Don’t get your hopes up. (AMALT).

•Keep your expectations realistic. Not every man you meet is going to be right for you. In fact, the majority will not be right for you. That’s why it’s up to you to weed out all LVM without a second thought.

•Remember, HE asked YOU out. HE is trying to impress YOU.

•Make a deal with yourself-decide to remain unbothered and pleasant no matter what he says or does. are you about to ruin your own evening because he turned out to be a dud? Absolutely not, you already decided to remain unbothered. Carry on unbothered and simply make a mental note not to see him again. Your energy is precious.

•Crushes are useless. Train yourself to only be attracted to men who actively pursue you and court you, and want to impress you. Guys who don’t know you exist are bad matches for you. So having crushes is a form of self-harm and self-sabotage.

•The date is HIS interview and HIS time to be a pickme. “Pickme, I will be a good provider! Pickme, I will support you in all aspects of your life! Pickme, I will never be an emotionally abusive asshat to you! Pickme, I will listen intently to your goals, dreams and opinions”

•By nature, men are supposed to be the pickmes. You have no business bragging about your cooking and cleaning skills to a man you just met-Extinguish desperate Pickme behavior.

I’m sure I missed some, add your first date tips below!