What do you think would happen if people suddenly started to over-glorify platonic relationships?

max_peenor · 2021-01-19T19:59:50+00:00

platonic friendships are criminally underrated. at the very least, the average person seems to undervalue them

spacechicken1990 · 2021-01-19T19:13:05+00:00

Ppl wouldt be so lonely I guess, there would be less pressure to be in a relationship, less pressure to impress the opposite gender & ppl would have a better support network.

IcarusKiki · 2021-01-19T19:14:46+00:00

They do glorify friendships. People get made fun of for having no friends all the time if they couldn’t make them

mensahi41 · 2021-01-19T19:15:59+00:00

Ah I see you never seen bromances

Gravel_Roads · 2021-01-19T19:15:51+00:00

Single people would finally get to choose if they actually want to be in relationships or not. I hate the narrative that a person isn’t “complete” in life if they haven’t found a person they like enough to spend their life together.

daproest1 · 2021-01-19T20:41:37+00:00

Idk, a lot of times romantic relationships go to shit BECAUSE of platonic relationships. This happens a lot amongst women and their “friends”.

Barneysparky · 2021-01-19T19:46:24+00:00

I met a best friend about 3 years ago. Being in my 50's it was completely unexpected that I would connect so deeply with someone that I wasn't romantically or family bonded with.

Because I moved into her community I can safely say the neighbourhood did glorify our relationship, they'd never seen her as being someone with a sidekick before and over the course of the 2 years we lived beside each other we became sitcom close.

I moved right when COVID hit globally. We were supposed to share our birthdays in October together then lock-down/community spread came to our town.

It sucks. We talk on the phone every 3 weeks or so for 3+ hours. Hopefully, in the next couple of weeks, we can hit a couple of antique stores together in separate cars!

My husband met his best friend 25 years ago. He was the ex of the woman he was living with and they just connected. 25 years later I consider him my family.

Platonic friendships can be life-changing amazing things. I hope that we see more lonely people embracing each other as family.

XGHOW · 2021-01-19T20:16:43+00:00

Would be a really good thing.

Carloverguy20 · 2021-01-19T21:10:17+00:00

People would be less lonely, more happier, because for men, men can really benefit from supportive male and female friendships, because men really don't get any platonic compliments, support or interactions, and they seek it through romantic companionship. Platonic relationships are great.

2021-01-19T21:19:08+00:00

Oddly enough, I don't see either romantic or platonic relationships over glorified. In the US at least, we live in an extremely individualistic culture. This is much more the case with the younger crowd. Everyone wants to go to a great 4 year college. Everyone wants to earn 6 figures. Everyone wants to do whatever they want to do and still make good money for it. Everyone wants to live life in a way where anytime they don't get what they want, they are a victim. I'm not going to get into race politics here, but there's a massive victimhood culture in the USA.

So essentially, I don't see relationships of any kind being glorified. I see self-serving states of being as glorified. And this is even worsened by the pandemic.

goatismycopilot · 2021-01-20T00:30:28+00:00

Close life long friends are much more important than a romantic partner.

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superlurkage · 2021-01-19T19:18:27+00:00

More friendships, more competition over friendships, more dysfunctional friendships

iloveyoubutyou · 2021-01-19T19:28:16+00:00

Are we talking friends or friends with benefits?

LillthOfBabylon · 2021-01-19T19:45:15+00:00

I think it depends on personal experience too, because I never thought of relationships more important than friendships more important than relationships or sex.

headchefboyardee · 2021-01-19T22:28:24+00:00

There would be an overwhelming increase of fake friendships. When you say romantic relationships are glorified, you flatly ignore how they're glorified often to the detriment of people who take idealized relationships at face value. If friendships are glorified the same way a romantic relationship is glorified on like a CW tv show the reality of having friends would be emptier in realistic context.

psypD · 2021-01-19T22:44:00+00:00

Absolutely nothing good. More sources for bullshit FOMO for most people.Just like everything that is overrated and over played.

wtknight · 2021-01-19T22:47:49+00:00

There have been lots of "buddy movies" and television shows with buddies that have been created. They are even starting to make woman buddy movies and shows now. I'm not sure why someone might think that friendships aren't also glorified quite a bit, although not as much as romance, perhaps.

I think that romance is glorified more because, if romance is done right, that other person is liked like a friend, loved like a lover and eventually cherished like a family member, not to mention being the mother/father of your children together. It's an even stronger potential bond than what one would feel towards a best friend.

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2021-01-19T22:54:37+00:00

There would be a lot of FwBs, I guess. Anyway, friendship is a good thing. No reason not to promote it more.

Stuckatzero4real · 2021-01-19T23:26:04+00:00

I know I'm not really answering your question but I wanted to share this. I've had two romantic friendships in my life and they were the best relationships I've ever had. They were both non-sexual and we would just cuddle a lot and kiss sometimes and we would always talk about people we were interested in and sometimes be each other's "wings". I'm a straight male by the way so they were both female. I've always talked about this with other people asking them "hey, have you ever had a romantic friendship?" and almost every time they'll be like "the hell is that?" and I would always recommend that they try it once. I know technically this isn't the definition of a platonic relationship, it's somewhere in the middle. I try to always recommend to people that they try to build an array of relationships with people if possible. As of late however and this has been an issue before Covid I've been having a harder time building relationships with people. Whether it's that they have a family which is totally understandable or they're just not interested in hanging out or being friends. It seems a lot of people are beginning to shy away from socializing past the acquaintance stage of relationships. It's could just be me, I don't know. I'm just a simple man, haha.

And to answer your question I think if we started to over glorify platonic relationships and people started to build their friendship base more instead of focusing on finding a significant other they'll be less depression in the world and lower suicide rates. People will be generally more happier.

charger117 · 2021-01-20T02:12:20+00:00

People may say that they are in a “platonic” relationship but people will never stop having sex with one another

ariesv123 · 2021-01-20T08:50:24+00:00

I feel like there would be a lot more fake and forced friendships

cloudsongs_ · 2021-01-21T04:42:06+00:00

I would go as far as it to say that it's already starting to. My friends and I talk often talk about just growing old together. No romance, no sex, just companionship in this long life. I see posts on facebook and instagram about this (memes). I wouldn't say it's in all media but people are catching on to the value of this relationship

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-01-20T00:06:39+00:00

I place my close platonic friends at the same level as my husband in my life and I always have. As a result, before I was married I never felt lonely, and never really felt like I needed a romantic partner if there was no one around I liked enough to want to date. It was really healthy and I’d recommend it to everyone.

Mind you, I’m not talking about “friends” in the way a lot of people in the social media age mean it where friends are just anyone whose phone number you have. That’s not feasible, but yeah my couple of really close friends are just as important to me as my romantic relationships and it means I’m never lonely even when I’m single.

Title	What do you think would happen if people suddenly started to over-glorify platonic relationships?
Author	GGMcThroway
Upvotes	28
Comments	50
Date	January 19, 2021 7:09 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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