Today I was being made fun of on an online forum for my hobbies. Whilst it was light hearted, my heart twisted with every “joke”. So I left.
I just left.
My inbox was filled with apologies for me to come back online and join the forum. While they seemed nice, I stuck to my boundary and left. I went on YouTube and did something else that made me happy. And oh I feel so well looked after.
I know if in the moment I went back, it teaches people they are can overstep my boundaries and i will always come back. They won’t respect me if i don’t respect myself. I may seem “sensitive” or “extreme”. Some of the responses were “we were only joking”, “it was just for your reaction”. These are not okay.
I remind myself that I don’t have to socialise in an environment that makes me feel belittled or unwelcome. I reminded myself that there is no law for what boundaries are too extreme or not. A boundary is a boundary. I don’t have to stay out of politeness if I am not enjoying the company. I don’t have to tolerate shit.
I’m becoming less socially polite and more protective of myself.
I hope this helps others remember to establish boundaries
Edit: spelling
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