I demand equality of experience in sex. Sex rule: I COME FIRST because of biological differences

I wrote this in a comment but queen OP encouraged me to write a post about it! So here it is!

Current status quo in heterosexual sex is very sexist and I employed a simple rule to compansate for the inequality women face. Simple: I COME FIRST. LITTLE/NO PENETRATION before I come.

YOU COME FIRST. Sex is inheritely not equal, different genders require different treatment to get the same result: an orgasm. Men will come almost 100% with a short foreplay and penetration, where penetration covers the most of the time spent in bed until he comes. This approach to sex is very male-centric. Women NEED clitoral stimulation and female orgasm is harder to reach. So you HAVE TO COME BEFORE THE GUY because he is guaranteed to have an orgasm once penetrative stage starts while your chances of climax are dropping

If you do the foreplay and proceed to penetration before you come and hope the man stands long enough for you to come, you won't get your orgasm as frequent as a man does because of biological differences. This approach is fundamentally WRONG, UNFAIR and MALE-CENTRIC.

The wrong approach: foreplay, fingering etc. a little bit and then penetration until he comes.

The correct approach: SHE COMES FIRST. Then penetration until he comes.

I understand sex is not all about the destination, obviously. However, it's a biological fact that orgasm is an integral part of sex that can't be excluded from the entire experience. Men get to orgasm almost every single time while women are told to only enjoy the JoUrnEyyy. F.ck that. I want THE JOURNEY aaaand THE DESTINATION. It's my right to demand that. Otherwise, why would I have sex?

Why is it never men who have to put up with inconvenience at the sake of other's comfort? WHY ON EARTH would I give up my orgasm? FOR WHAT?! I deserve an orgasm at 👏each 👏fucking👏 time👏.

Beyond theoretical sexism, it's objectively F.CKING ANNOYING to not orgasm during sex for women too! Men complain about blue balls all the time, but no Dr. Pickmeisha or Dr. Scrote ever addresses what happens to women once they are aroused so much but never reach an orgasm. I'll tell you what happens: you spend the rest of your day with a weird feeling in your lower abdomen. It feels like restless leg syndrome in your vagina (those who experience it will know how sh.tty it is). It feels like your vag is bored/restless/unsettling. You get wet continiously after the sex in inappropriate places. If you get wet, it means your underwear gets wet, so you pee a lot. No woman ever enjoys wetness in their panties.

That's been my rule for the last 6+ months and I gotta say, it weeds out trashy lazy ass men veeeery effortlessly. I remember my LVXs and they were all crazy about having sex, one in the morning, one before studying, one at night etc. etc. Would I lose my appetite in sex if I used 'I come first' rule? Would they ask me that much of sex if they had to put the proper work each.fucking.time?! I mean... If I could just do basic stuff and reach an orgasm, I would definately want as much sex as they did. I understood men and their relationship with sex better when I shifted my mindset like that. If that was so effortless and so rewarding for me, I too would want it all the time from all kinds of people.

Imagine a world where all women demanded to orgasm first and only to proceed to penetration after orgasm, then NO MEN would be soooo eager to have sex with a random woman or their partners. Sex, in this current sexist way, is like a button for men where they get a candy each time they push the button without putting in an actual effort. If all women demanded proportionate effort to compansate for biological differences in order to obtain the same level of satisfaction as men, NO MEN would be so eager to have sex 5 times a day or with a random person they barely know. They would prefer actual masturbation instead of using women as masturbation sock.

I am very disgusted by heterosexual sex we have right now: little foreplay, only performative half-hartedly done oral sex or fingering, but lots of awkward pounding. NOOOO. It feels like I am a masturbation sock and he knows that I am so he is doing "performative" little acts to disguise that. EWW. Even men with good intentions, who really wanted to make me feel good, had this wrong mindset as to how sex should proceed because society is still very male-centric in every interaction.

HARD TO SWALLOW PILL: The probability of making a woman come during penetration is small. If his intention of having sex is geniune, he should make me come FIRST. PERIOD. Finger me first, do me oral, when I am close to orgasm, only then you can penetrate me so that I can have a full nice orgasm. Otherwise, no seggs for little homeboi.

This approach is beneficial for men with genuine intentions too! Because the current way we are approaching to sex is dysfuntional and it puts lots of pressure on good intenting men (HVMs). Our APPROACH is what's wrong here. WE are fine. I had truely caring boyfriends who were trying so hard. We never knew the solution is as easy as (and they never mention these in any libfem sex ed) simply avoiding penetration until I am at the edge of orgasm and/or focus on the clit 90% of time until I come.

By applying "I come first" rule, you"ll be helping your partner to easily satisfy you, so he will feel better about himself too. Not that my intention is to coddle men, I am writing this to justify the rationale while explaining this new rule to your significant others.

Your chances of having MULTIPLE ORGASMS increase if you employ this method. Unlike men, women are capable of continuing sex AND even have multiple orgasms after the first one. It is clear that biology is designed for women to orgasm first and continue sex after female orgasm until male orgasm.

Male orgasm is an end to sex whereas female orgasm is the begining of a new chapter.

We were doing it all wrong! It's stupid to start with a dot when you have more to say.

Also, if you wish to have casual sex, this approach CRAZILY increases the quality of sex and your confidence in yourself. You said what you want and you got it. I am personally against hookup culture and casual sex, but also I am not ready to have a relationship yet. I am disgusted by current fuckbois and the way we have sex, yet I miss having sex. This dilemma was bugging me until I realised I can get whatever I want from my partners. If you wish to have casual sex, "I come first" is the most on point and pragmatic standard that you can ever have.