Are today’s women too picky for their own good? Women are increasingly searching for a Prince Charming who doesn't exist, leaving men disillusioned and scared of commitment. Millions of single women in the USA refuse to trade down and according to Date-onomics, it’s already reaching crisis point.

iainmf · 2015-11-10T10:08:48+00:00

You can't expect to have equality and marry up.

5th_Law_of_Robotics · 2015-11-10T13:13:44+00:00

Are men "scared of commitment" or are they realizing the traditional arrangement is no longer in their best interest so they're avoiding it?

TacoNinjaSkills · 2015-11-10T15:20:47+00:00

The infamous OK Cupid blog post: http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/

In an online dating study, men rating the attractiveness of women on roughly a bell curve. Women rated 80% of men as uglier than average!

Kinbaku_enthusiast · 2015-11-10T13:05:07+00:00

"scared" of commitment? Or just not interested in it?

arnoldwhat · 2015-11-10T10:55:38+00:00

Women probably as a whole are too picky, but I think men are finally starting to realize that settling down is just a losing proposition. First, you have roughly a 40% chance of your marriage ending in divorce in the first 10 years. 60-70% of divorces in the US are initiated by women. So from day one the odds are stacked against you. So what happens after you get divorced? I think we all know what happens there. Best case scenario you get to keep some of your shit, see your kids occasionally and fork over half your pay check every month.

The tables have completely flipped from 50-60 years ago. Women have almost all of the power in a marriage. Child support, Alimony, the threat of arrest for domestic violence.

Men as a group are generally less emotional and more rational and are starting to see that it just isn't a good deal. There are countless potential downsides with very few rewards. Cohabitation with a women in most cases is a reasonable proposition, but marriage and children is just too risky.

edit: This isn't an attempt to call all women money grubbing whores, but rather a critical look at the unfair and biased system that largely men have created. I think while it may not be moral or "the right thing to do", its fair to expect a large majority of women to take advantage of this system. If they can leave a marriage with the house, the car, the kids and a check in the mail every month why wouldn't they? All of this speaks to how much society as a whole values men as husbands, fathers and providers - the only thing that counts is your checkbook.

ExpendableOne · 2015-11-10T14:53:51+00:00

Funny how these lists of turn-offs and deal breakers often seem directly related to personal entitlements and gender expectations that women have about men, and standards that they often completely do not meet themselves. And yet men are called the "privileged" ones.

Upvote_To_The_Left · 2015-11-10T16:11:23+00:00

There is a vast disparity between what men want and what modern women want. A modern woman wants a loving, caring, good-looking, successful, rich man that is friends with all her besties and that "brings joy"--i.e. feelz--to her life.

A man wants a semi-good looking, responsible, RESPECTFUL, non-skanky, FAITHFUL, TRUSTWORTHY woman to raise a family with and who will stand by his side in the long term when shit hits the fan; and someone who will fuck more than once a month after marriage.

skekze · 2015-11-10T10:23:28+00:00

Money doesn't matter til it does. Everyone wants a barbie house. It's unsustainable.

2015-11-10T13:39:16+00:00

A further problem for picky women is that “good” men who haven’t partnered off realise they are in a seller’s market, so they become commitment-phobic.

Or it could just be, strangely enough - that people object to being objectified, whether that be "you're a good provider and I look forward to spending your alimony checks three years from now" or "nice tits."

tallwheel · 2015-11-10T12:34:30+00:00

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2015-11-10T10:35:49+00:00

"Picky" - is today's euphemism for "spinster"?

Dnile1000BC · 2015-11-10T15:51:03+00:00

I don't understand, why is this a crisis? Men are not getting laid? There's now porn, various toys and hookers. A much more cost effective solution than maintaining a girlfriend or a wife and much less risk.

If women are picky that's their choice to make. Don't pretend it's a crisis though. There is no crisis, women say they don't need men? Men will just walk away.

A woman needs a man like fish needs a bicycle right?

herewegoaga1n · 2015-11-10T16:10:17+00:00

I outsourced, and I gotta tellya guys. It's wonderful.

Let'em be someone else's pain in the ass/cuck/divorce rape.

Ovendice · 2015-11-10T17:14:00+00:00

This means you hate women. Anything that is critical of women instantly means you 'hate' women. Playground banter, that's how Feminists roll.

poloppoyop · 2015-11-10T20:44:48+00:00

MGTOW send their regards.

Alkomb · 2015-11-10T17:26:58+00:00

& if a guy gets a "Prenup", the woman will be like: "Oh, so you don't trust me?", or: "You're having doubts about your marriage?". (Or whatever.)

tallwheel · 2015-11-10T09:21:58+00:00

This is why "Western society" with the current gender set up is doomed. Look at Japan, Hungary, Singapore, South Korea, Germany etc. All have birthrates around the 1.3 mark. All have contracting populations which over the next 20 years will be amplified.

Rtg327gej · 2015-11-10T15:19:40+00:00

Stay single. Marriage is a dying institution.

Ovendice · 2015-11-10T16:11:29+00:00

Over half of the reason women used to marry a man before say, the 1980s-90s, was to have a provider and most likely she wouldn't have to work a job. Now women just rely on the government for food and shelter and pays all the bills. Even most single women who work are still supplemented by some form of welfare. So instead of having to charm a man and be nice to one, they just have the government FORCE men to pay women to live for free. (Men pay 75% of taxes).

DillipFayKick · 2015-11-10T17:33:52+00:00

I actually think this might be good for men. It might force us to find other means of attaining a positive image of ourselves (besides how valuable we are to women). I think legalization of prostitution would go a long way in terms of the sexual side of things. That might actually stop a shooting rampage or two as well.

Trail_of_Jeers · 2015-11-10T19:06:13+00:00

Seems to me that article is heavily loaded against men. See, men are lazy and disheveled, it's not that women are too picky!

Or maybe he just buried the lead. I stopped reading when it became a man-bash.

ThePigmanAgain · 2015-11-10T19:58:44+00:00

I just read a similar thing in the GaGa and, of course, the education gap was seen as a problem not because less men are getting access to high-paying jobs, but because women can't find educated husbands.

You made your beds, girls. Now sleep in them -- alone.

TheDude41 · 2015-11-10T20:14:52+00:00

Good.

Screw 'em.

Chivalry is shit.

Ovendice · 2015-11-10T22:16:46+00:00

Meanwhile it's women in the U.S. and U.K. who have gone horrendously downhill. Butch, tatted up, overweight, insanely whorish- fucking everything that moves, drunk, ignorant of everything, all the charm of diarrhea, mentally ill, completely unaccountable, lazy, confrontational, hate men, amoral, in debt and only working part time with a worthless degree in some social science and no future at all. And the irony? Fifty years of Feminism made them that way! GRRRL POWER! The World's Biggest Fucking Losers.

McFeely_Smackup · 2015-11-10T23:36:30+00:00

"Crisis." What's in crisis, exactly?

stopyourBull · 2015-11-10T16:48:00+00:00

round and round they go until they hit the wall

now that her pretty face is gone she wants to wash your draws

your draws she said your draws she said she wants them to be nice and clean

the one condition that comes with that is you have to buy a ring

a ring she wants a ring she wants now that she's big and flabby

but a father she said you must play because her kids need daddy

SupremeAuthority · 2015-11-11T02:22:58+00:00

No. I'm fine with letting them all die alone.

Rockbottom503 · 2015-11-11T11:35:01+00:00

Just about every woman I know is like this! 'Don't mess with me, I'm a strong, independent woman who earns her own money and pays her own way! .......what do you mean, you want me to pay for myself on a date - don't you know how to treat a lady! You obviously wouldn't be able to take care of me' guy doesn't call - 'he was obviously intimidated by me'

Riddle0219 · 2015-11-10T14:32:41+00:00

I'm from southern Europe, so marrying and having kids is the norm here, it's hard to find a woman who eventually doesn't want to get married and have kids - I think couples make many mistakes that lead to failure, namely marrying too soon and picking the wrong partner. It's hard to find a good woman these days, but they're still out there. Women are indeed very picky, it's like they want to be independent and strong but at the same time they still think men should do this or that part of the work and come in handy.

njskypilot · 2015-11-10T15:02:56+00:00

My hand is as good as ANY woman! it does what I say, and it doesn't talk back!

Lrellok · 2015-11-10T21:05:48+00:00

http://i.imgur.com/SY1FWbj.jpg

And whose fualt is it that mens wages have cratered? Seriosly, if you hammer mens wages into the ground for five decades then sit crying into your martini's that there are no highly paid men to marry, your either a hypocrit or a dumbfuck.

Also, what happened to all those women who wanted house husbands... Where did they disappear off to...

ttnorac · 2015-11-10T14:01:05+00:00

They can be as picky as they want. I don't mind uping my game. Technically speaking, a smarter, stronger, and more attractive male obtaining a mate is better for our species. It's the other half evolution.

That being said, men are dropping out of the game because most of the women are getting remarkably lazy on their end. That combined with the broken family court system creates a world of lonely women and men.

gta0012 · 2015-11-10T16:55:44+00:00

It's not a "trade down" a lot of women, even men, think way to highly of themselves. Friends and family telling them how perfect and amazing they are, don't settle for a 6 your a 10! When in reality they are a 6 themselves. No one wants to recognize that they aren't exactly top shelf.

ConvertsToMetric · 2015-11-10T09:59:57+00:00

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FrigOffCyrus · 2015-11-11T20:17:35+00:00

Alright boys, back to the pile

apullin · 2015-11-10T23:05:28+00:00

You should visit the SF bay area, where the pickiness is entirely justified. There are many hundreds of thousands more men here than women. OKCupid profiles openly state that people who are < 6ft tall shouldn't even both responding. Women are all generally polyamorous because there are just so many men available.

EdinMiami · 2015-11-10T16:04:18+00:00

I'm a bit of a romantic so I do think there are perfectly fine women out there for me (and for all of you by extension). The problem is finding them.

I don't think online dating is the answer. Women have too many choices and their expectations become ridiculous.

I think the best way is to just try to get involved with your local community in whatever form that takes. Grow your network of people.

And of course, protect yourself if you ever decide to get married.

bougabouga · 2015-11-10T09:13:28+00:00

Who cares if some women are picky?

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